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[OrdinaryGuy1]

This is pretty embarrassing but it's a question I want to ask:
Is it true some women prefer to be with men with small penises?

I'm not proud to say this but I'm 27 and still a virgin. My penis is only 4 and a half inches long and I'm afraid I'll never be able to sexually satisfy a woman or sweep her off her feet. But I've read things where some women say they are small, that a small penis is a perfect fit, that they can be satisfied etc. Is this true? Could a woman be with me and not feel like she was settling for mediocrity?

 

[rthnck]

size is only one aspect

If your tongue works and you're willing to use it, lots of women can get past the size issue. You need to use positions that povide for the most penetration and you can look into penis extenders that fit over the penis like a condom to gain extra length. Also from what I read here most women are looking for more girth. It's not necessarily the length that impresses them. They want to be filled and girth will do the trick so you could be OK.

And if you're not blessed in the girth department you might be a candidate for anal sex. Women aren't looking for john holmes when they go for anal sex.

Sexual performance is mostly a mind game and if women are shallow enough to only consider penis length instead of the whole package, they're not worth the time.

Good luck.

 

[somberReality]

It varies for every woman to be honest in terms of the size issue.

 

[tandoor]

Don't sweat it, dude.

 

[void123]

If your tongue works and you're willing to use it, lots of women can get past the size issue. You need to use positions that povide for the most penetration and you can look into penis extenders that fit over the penis like a condom to gain extra length. Also from what I read here most women are looking for more girth. It's not necessarily the length that impresses them. They want to be filled and girth will do the trick so you could be OK.

And if you're not blessed in the girth department you might be a candidate for anal sex. Women aren't looking for john holmes when they go for anal sex.

Sexual performance is mostly a mind game and if women are shallow enough to only consider penis length instead of the whole package, they're not worth the time.

Good luck.

I totally agree with that mainly because i am quite orally fixated im not gonna say the lengh of my penis but its big enough.

 

[RUbensBeautY]

Hi there

First of all, welcome to Lit!

This is pretty embarrassing but it's a question I want to ask:
Is it true some women prefer to be with men with small penises?

I would like to recommend an earlier thread in the How To section to you: http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=237178&highlight=Toys If you have already checked it out then please skip this part and move right on to the next paragraph please.

If you are looking for opinions/advice/input the How To section of the forum may bring you better results than the personals.

I'm not proud to say this but I'm 27 and still a virgin. My penis is only 4 and a half inches long and I'm afraid I'll never be able to sexually satisfy a woman or sweep her off her feet. But I've read things where some women say they are small, that a small penis is a perfect fit, that they can be satisfied etc. Is this true? Could a woman be with me and not feel like she was settling for mediocrity?

I don't speak from personal experience but believe firmly that the answer is yes. To a relationship or even a one night stand, there is so much more than the depth of penetration!

Sweeping a woman off her feet or even making her toes curl has very little to do with size I would assume, but much rather with enthusiasm, skill, creativity and the emotional connection between the two of you.

I don't know about your reasons for being a virgin but I find it sad to read that you are embarrassed about the fact. Not every woman dreams about a lover who has shaken half of town and then some.

Learning about each other, what feels nice, what pushes your buttons, what arouses and satisfies you, its all part of growing together as a couple and an experience of discovery that is supposed to be fun and also strengthen that special, intimate bond.

As for the size ever becoming an issue. It is a theory and nothing but. Perhaps you will fall madly in love with woman for whom it will be a perfect fit, perhaps she will have a thing for oral servitude but hates the associated jaw ache. Perhaps you find out that you enjoy anal sex together and you have the perfect size to make the experience hot but still free of injuries for both of you. I would think that once you get positive feedback and see the effect your love making has on your beloved, you will gain confidence and size will become much less of an issue. Perhaps it will still bug you once in a while and you will get out of your way to please your lady in every other way, plenty of kissing, caressing, foreplay, mutual masturbation, oral, sensual massages etc and she will simply be blown away, swept off her feet if you like by the most attentive and best lover she could wish for.

I think it is a valid thing to wish to be able to satisfy your partner even from a strictly sexual point of view. The sincere desire to be a good lover, to make them feel nice is essential and a great gift to your partner. Just don't let that desire turn into a fear of failure to overshadow your partnership and keep you from meeting all the wonderful women out there.

There are things about our bodies that we can't change. But how we handle them and most of all how we treat the people around us, our attitude, that is really up to us.

I know that these forums can be a wonderful place to learn about your own sensuality and desires, as well as a source for gaining confidence and knowledge about all things erotic. It was here that I have grown to accept and love my own body image as well as myself, with all my unique faults, which I believe is the first important step along the journey of finding love and acceptance by others in life. I sincerely wish you to find the same and hope that you will have lots of fun on these boards as well.

 

[alljimbo1]

Relax

I was told by a not-inexperienced woman that the size does not matter (at least for her, because I do think it depends on the woman) but what the guy can do with it. I had no reason to question her sincerity. I am about average in size.

 

[OrdinaryGuy1]

Thank you to everyone who posted something supportive. When I was in school a couple guys made comments after seeing me in the locker room about having a small penis, then I constantly hear women make cracks about small penises in the media or in online conversations etc.
I know the size debate has gone on forever and logically I know I shouldn't be inhibited, but I can't help but feel this gut feeling that I'll always be a disappointment.

 

[OrdinaryGuy1]

Hi there

First of all, welcome to Lit!




I would like to recommend an earlier thread in the How To section to you: http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=237178&highlight=Toys If you have already checked it out then please skip this part and move right on to the next paragraph please.

If you are looking for opinions/advice/input the How To section of the forum may bring you better results than the personals.



I don't speak from personal experience but believe firmly that the answer is yes. To a relationship or even a one night stand, there is so much more than the depth of penetration!

Sweeping a woman off her feet or even making her toes curl has very little to do with size I would assume, but much rather with enthusiasm, skill, creativity and the emotional connection between the two of you.

I don't know about your reasons for being a virgin but I find it sad to read that you are embarrassed about the fact. Not every woman dreams about a lover who has shaken half of town and then some.

Learning about each other, what feels nice, what pushes your buttons, what arouses and satisfies you, its all part of growing together as a couple and an experience of discovery that is supposed to be fun and also strengthen that special, intimate bond.

As for the size ever becoming an issue. It is a theory and nothing but. Perhaps you will fall madly in love with woman for whom it will be a perfect fit, perhaps she will have a thing for oral servitude but hates the associated jaw ache. Perhaps you find out that you enjoy anal sex together and you have the perfect size to make the experience hot but still free of injuries for both of you. I would think that once you get positive feedback and see the effect your love making has on your beloved, you will gain confidence and size will become much less of an issue. Perhaps it will still bug you once in a while and you will get out of your way to please your lady in every other way, plenty of kissing, caressing, foreplay, mutual masturbation, oral, sensual massages etc and she will simply be blown away, swept off her feet if you like by the most attentive and best lover she could wish for.

I think it is a valid thing to wish to be able to satisfy your partner even from a strictly sexual point of view. The sincere desire to be a good lover, to make them feel nice is essential and a great gift to your partner. Just don't let that desire turn into a fear of failure to overshadow your partnership and keep you from meeting all the wonderful women out there.

There are things about our bodies that we can't change. But how we handle them and most of all how we treat the people around us, our attitude, that is really up to us.

I know that these forums can be a wonderful place to learn about your own sensuality and desires, as well as a source for gaining confidence and knowledge about all things erotic. It was here that I have grown to accept and love my own body image as well as myself, with all my unique faults, which I believe is the first important step along the journey of finding love and acceptance by others in life. I sincerely wish you to find the same and hope that you will have lots of fun on these boards as well.

Thanks for the link to the other thread. It was a very refreshing read. And thank you for your kind words....especially about me being a virgin. It was very kind of you.

 

[eclecticlynx]

All sizes, All Shapes...

Hi...
My (very limited) expercience has been guided more by the person, rather than their equipment...
Take the time to learn what they and you like, explore, and let the humor in!
Most of the people who make the comments are insecure about themselves, and trying to pass that off on others.
Our's is a society that always tries to set the bar higher--richer, thinner, bigger boobs/penis', etc.
When others hang their "happiness" on something so arbitrary, they miss out on wonderful people (like you)!!
Welcome to Lit, and welcome to comfort in yourself.
EclecticLynx

 

[Wildcard Ky]

Dude, you've 12 appendages to please her with:

10 fingers.

1 tongue

1 penis.

If you can't satisfy a woman with all of that, there was no real chemistry to begin with.

 

[OrdinaryGuy1]

Thank you Eclectic and Wildcard.