Believers in God

[nasty]

Do you ever catch yourself saying, "God" in front of Dammit?

 

[Mensa]

Do you ever catch yourself saying, "God" in front of Dammit?

No! Because I've never met Dammit!

 

[DriveSouth]

Nah-

 

[Calamity Jane]

I probably don't qualify to answer...

Do you ever catch yourself saying, "God" in front of Dammit?

I believe in "a god" just not the flowing white robes, charlton heston-esque christian god... anyway, yes i say goddammit... but then i have a really really bad tendency to cuss like a sailor. didn't think it was an issue til my 4 year old told me to get fucked the other day.

 

[nasty]

SO, that's get fucked

 

[Dixon Carter Lee]

Despite my affirmed atheism to this day my Roman Catholic upbringing won't allow me to easily say "God damn it!" half as easily as I can write it.

I also can't seem to covet my neighbor's ass.

 

[Calamity Jane]

I told her to clean her toys out of the livingroom and she said "Oh mom, get fucked"

Of course, that sounds more like her dad than me, maybe i need to smack HIM.

 

[OUTSIDER]

Even though I'm an agnostic I use the term god or jesus all the time, to me it's just an expression.

 

[Calamity Jane]

I also can't seem to covet my neighbor's ass.

I foxhunt my neighbor's ass... does that count?

 

[Shy Tall Guy]

I may say fuck, shit, bullshit, asshole or damn/damnit and a few other choice words - but I do not take my Lord's name in vain. Sometimes I say "My God" outside of prayer, but those few time I do it is meant as a plaintive or plea to God.

So the answer is no. Also, it somewhat offends me when people do that around me - especially when they say something like "Jesus H. F*****G Christ!" To many Christians those kinds of vulgar expressions are very insulting.

 

[swtbethie]

I try not to but on those rare occasions when I'm pissed off I slip and say it.

 

[nasty]

This is gonna sound pathetic, but whenever I say it, I almost ALWAYS say, "Excuse me," because a "acquintance," of mine is Christian, and I don't want to offend them. Of course, I NEVER use it when their around.

 

[Shylady]

No, I don't, but then I don't cuss at all.

Mostly

 

[Angel]

Despite my affirmed atheism to this day my Roman Catholic upbringing won't allow me to easily say "God damn it!" half as easily as I can write it.

I also can't seem to covet my neighbor's ass.

Really? I've never had a problem being foul-mouthed in any way.

 

[doctor_insanus]

No, I don't, but then I don't cuss at all.

Mostly

Ditto!

 

[*bratcat*]

that is one phrase I don't use...

 

[Shy Tall Guy]

I told her to clean her toys out of the livingroom and she said "Oh mom, get fucked"

Of course, that sounds more like her dad than me, maybe i need to smack HIM.

Whether it was "get stuffed" or "go fly a kite", or "get fucked" that is total disrespect to a loved one and a child that says it should be disciplined enough to remember the lesson or they will grow up thinking it is okay to show such disrespect to anyone, much less loved ones.

I don't believe in harsh discipline for children except in certain circumstances; I only ever had to spank my daughter once (it was two or three healthy smacks to her rear) and I know it hurt her pride more than her body because I rarely was sharp with her. It was a dangerous situation and she did something she knew she wasn't supposed to do.

I was strict but fair with my daughter - I didn't let her get away with disrespect or foul language, but I was always fair with her - being willing to listen to her side of the episode and to explain in as much detail as necessary to make her understand why I wouldn't let her do something. That was something I resented about my upbringing; "because I said so" - how is a child expected to learn the rules of the world if you don't explain them?

I understand my parents had three wild boys to tame, but I think explanations go a lot further than constant short corrections.

 

[Dixon Carter Lee]

I also have a hard time wasting bread or reciting the Lord's Prayer in any other meter than the dogmatic. God, that stuff sticks with you.

 

[Angel]

I also have a hard time wasting bread or reciting the Lord's Prayer in any other meter than the dogmatic. God, that stuff sticks with you.

When did you *become* a full fledged Atheist? Maybe that's why it's harder to shed the things that stuck with you? The only thing I've not been able to rid myself of is saying "Thank God". It's automatic to say it, and I've not found anything else to replace it. LOL

 

[Calamity Jane]

Whether it was "get stuffed" or "go fly a kite", or "get fucked" that is total disrespect to a loved one and a child that says it should be disciplined enough to remember the lesson or they will grow up thinking it is okay to show such disrespect to anyone, much less loved ones.

Ahhh... but why should SHE be punished for repeating an adult?

 

[Dixon Carter Lee]

When did you *become* a full fledged Atheist?

I felt it at 10, but I gave myself permission to not "decide" anything for years. Somewhere around 18 I affixed the label, although it too another couple of years for me to feel comfotable about it. Somewhere around 24 I felt like the guy who's had horrible eyesight for years and just got laser surgery.

 

[nasty]

I believe that you shouldn't tell your kids anything. Ex.-"Don't touch the stove." They'll figure it out. "Geez, son/daughter. I told ya so."

 

[Calamity Jane]

I believe that you shouldn't tell your kids anything. Ex.-"Don't touch the stove." They'll figure it out. "Geez, son/daughter. I told ya so."

Do you HAVE kids? I heat my house with a woodburner... it runs at about 900 degrees most nights... and 5 horses out in the pasture who may or may not kick her head in if she gets too close... are you saying i should let my 18 month old just 'figure it out'? my kids would be in foster care!

 

[Shy Tall Guy]

Ahhh... but why should SHE be punished for repeating an adult?

Discipline need not be punishment. If a child just repeats what an adult said and truly didn't understand what it meant, or even that it was disrespectul then a simple explanation with a strong warning not to do it again should be enough.

I could easily believe a child might not understand what the words mean exactly, but I think they usually would understand that such a phrase was disrespectful. In that case they should be made to also understand that this is not acceptable and why.

Like I said, I rarely had to harshly discipline my daughter because a simple stern look or word from me was enough. Being consistent, fair and always willing to explain was usually enough. Sometimes I would get an argument, but she always understood why I did something, even if she didn't agree with it.

 

[nasty]

If she were in a life or death situation, then, that rule doesn't count. There's always an exception to the rule.