Being strongly attracted.

[RoughPlay]

If you meet someone of average appearance what sort of things
would they have to say and do and what sort of qualities and
character would they have to have for you to become strongly
attracted to them ?

 

[Sabledrake]

The qualities I like most in a guy are intelligence, creativity, being articulate, wit, having a compatible sense of humor, and sharing important interests (in my case, gaming, history, British comedy, and robotic combat would all be pluses).

Sabledrake

 

[Carnus]

I find a womans mind attractive, that is one of the things I love about reading comments here on lit. You can see the depth of a person without haing to wade through the purely physical to find it.

Carnus

 

[PunkGrrl18]

i like my punk men, there usually really smart, know their politics, attractive,outgoing and respectful of women (most hte time) i dont think i could be with someone who didnt have music in common with me, hell done it before and i hated it

 

[PinkOrchid]

 

[A7inchPhildo]

A woman who is confident, major turn on!

Wears nice clothing, "I dig pant suits", but I like casual "not slutt look" but sexy

who is erotic with body movement, leg/ass stance, upper body posture, eyes, and smile.

Having the ability to hold a conversation, presenting herself as she wants a long term relationship even if it is just for a one night stand.

Must be goal driven, has a life, and stable personality.

Looks;

average appearance

That is what I look for.

What is that too much? No wonder I am single.

 

[crazybbwgirl]

I like big bald men with mustaches and beards. Not that I would be opposed to dating a man with hair - I just prefer bald men. (put a little oil on that noggin and it feels really good being rubbed around anywhere!) But seriously looks are so unimportant to me - I rather shy away from really hansome men. Give me a man with a brain anytime over a GQ type guy.

 

[la mariposita]

If you meet someone of average appearance what sort of things
would they have to say and do and what sort of qualities and
character would they have to have for you to become strongly
attracted to them ?

I like sweet, shy, lovey-dovey men who show up to my door with flowers just because. Someone who is devoted to his career as well as to a familly he may want in the future. I like decisive men who know what they are looking for in every aspect of their lives. It impresses me to see one who can be honest and open about his emotions without feeling like he has to be macho about it. I cannot stand machisimo!

 

[Lust Engine]

Confidence & a sense of humor can go a long long way with me.

 

[RoughPlay]

robotic combat

I wasn't expecting anyone to say this.

 

[RoughPlay]

Re: Re: Being strongly attracted.

Seriously, confidence, intelligence, independence, strength of character, and a sense of humor all go along way with me.

How would you like him to treat you ?

 

[PinkOrchid]

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[Johnny Mayberry]

I am most attracted to a woman's mind, and her ability to absorb serious physical punishment.

 

[RoughPlay]

Give me a man with a brain anytime over a GQ type guy.

Just wondering, what is it about a thread topic that would make you inclined to reply to it ?

 

[RoughPlay]

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I DON'T like being treated like a girlfriend, but like a true friend.

Would you care to elaborate on this. I understood the whore part.

 

[RoughPlay]

Re: Re: Being strongly attracted.

I like sweet, shy, lovey-dovey men who show up to my door with flowers just because.

That g-string might have something to do with it.

 

[Guest]

 

[peachykeen]

Most people are 'average' looking. That's why it's called 'average'. I don't find it at all difficult to find something at least a bit attractive in most people - being some sort of outstanding physical specimen isn't something I've ever really required of a partner. Wit, intelligence, a positive outlook and humour count for an awful lot more than just good looks.

 

[Effigy]

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Outside of the bedroom, like a friend. With honesty being the most important thing. I DON'T like being treated like a girlfriend, but like a true friend.

In the bedroom, like a whore. (Unless I'm topping, then he's the whore )

Cunt

 

[PinkOrchid]

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[Johnny Mayberry]

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There are a lot of men who treat girlfriends differentl from friends. They put on a different face and hide certain aspects of themselves they think a woman might find unappealing and call it treating them with "respect." I don't want this "respect," I want the respect of seeing the whole person, warts and all, of someone who can truly be himself with me, not act the way he thinks he should.

Go out with the guys for a night out, or hang out watching football or basketball, or something along those lines and then ask how many of them would have acted the same had their SOs been there. That's part of what I'm talking about

See, I find it attractive in a woman when she makes me feel comfortable enough to act like that. I'm frankly too lazy to put on much of a show for a woman, if she likes me the way I am she'll like me long-term. And, if she doesn't like the real me, I'm glad we're not wasting time with each other.

 

[PinkOrchid]

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[Lust Engine]

Respect comes first & foremost. Lust follows and will always be there and then maybe love if all works well.

 

[PinkOrchid]

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[Johnny Mayberry]

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Geeze, I'm glad someone's on the same page.

Too many folks out there court, put on painted faces, and once they're deeply involved, a new person emerges. This may make it easier to 'snag' someone initially, but it's not a good thing in the long term.

I've scared off plenty of men by being myself from day one. But if they can't handle the heat, they sure as hell don't belong in my kitchen and I'd rather find this out before I become attached.

It takes a secure, confident adult to do this, and that's what I look for in both friends and lovers.

You can ask sheath...I'm a shit...because I am only able to be who I am...some people value that, some people don't...and I couldn't give a shit either way...