"Being friendzoned sucks."

[LJ_Reloaded]

Just ask this lady, she will outright tell you herself.

http://www.loveshack.org/forums/transitioning/search/458456-long-why-am-i-only-wanted-last-resort

It's really starting to crush my spirits because I'm 30, never had a boyfriend, never been seriously pursued by those who can do “better” (longer hair, thinner, even if a horrible person or a bimbo), and I am longing to find one to marry and start a family with but not for shallow reasons but for true, deep, attraction and love, a soulmate if you will. I could have had many, but as an introvert who needs deep bonding in order to stand anyone's breath in my air, I could never "settle" for someone who's just "good to me". It really hurts me to think that I may have to settle for a relationship where we are each-other's consolation prize, a last ditch attempt to have kids or not die alone. I know very quickly when I'm not (going to be) interested, and giving it a try has so far only crushed me more and hurt a few good men who simply didn't kindle me.

Then there's the hurtful and crushing advice a guy I dated and who then bestfriend-zoned me

Wait a second...

I thought women had decided the 'friendzone' wasn't real.

gave me. It's as pathetic and glorifying fakeness as his relationship (things happened): "Do what ultra-orthodox Jews do. Date a nice man who treats you right and as you live with him, you may grow to love and feel attracted to him". That is exactly why he cheats on her. Self-deceit never quite cuts it
To someone like me, that is like telling me to let myself be raped daily

Comparing your dating woes to being raped. Won't all the real rape victims be happy about that. Oh well, it's okay to say this... but only if you're a woman.

Oh but, wait for it...

because eventually I may grow numb to it or even fool myself into believing I like it. I haven't survived a so far very difficult life to waste it now on a sweet illusion "in hopes of" the real thing.
Please don't tell me my rape comparison is offensive to real rape victims;

... because you'll hurt her girlyfeelz...

been there and to an introvert like me being stuck with a person expecting affection when I don't feel much for them, is torture. I love people. But I need interaction to either be brief, or meaningful/intimate. My bubble has very limited space but I'm always loyal and loving to the ones I let in.

As for dating: can't stand that boring guy who wants to hear all about me because there's nothing to chat about him, prefers to walk slightly hunched, basically not a man eager to leave the sidelines. One who will say I'm right when I'm not. I keep attracting those. Why?? I need a man with confidence, a firm handshake, speaking frankly, loud and clear, and the wish to be my equal, not my dog (also no jerk type!). I think I may be looking for a father figure. Meh. The same when I'm not physically attracted. I'm sorry but when he's

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WAIT FOR IT

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short, bald, baby-faced, much older, or overweight, I can't. Tried, doesn't work. Even when I think they're great-looking in spite of all that, I can't. But guess what types love me.

I don't have ridiculous standards. Tall, full hair, full teeth, not fat, not boney...

A plus-sized woman flatly rejecting bald or short men who can't help their physical attributes.

Typical fucking woman. And no one bats an eyelash at this shit.

Let some dude pull this and the riot police will get overrun.

Except, my personality doesn't even get the chance to either shine, or appall. I never get that far with anyone I care to.

The eagle-eyed among us can tell right here what her problem is. But let's go on...

Last night's speed dating party really crushed me. There were like 100 people there. And while there were many of those I'm not attracted to, they made up about 40% of the male attendees. Now, guess who were the only ones NOT skipping me during the speed date rotations?

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WAIT FOR IT

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The short, the bald, the fat, and those who disregarded the upper age limit for participants. Everybody who could go for “better” than me by mainstream standards skirted my table. Desperate cases jealously hogged me by ignoring the bell. When one too many desperates with limp handshakes and “please let this be easy”-smiles offered to alcoholize me and then give me a ride home, I left. Goodlooking or at least confident men have sex with me and move on.

And now for the money shot...

I am not oozing self-hate or insecurity. I'm an optimist convinced of my worth so long as nobody goes out of his way to crush my hopes to meet my soulmate before my uterus expires. I have never had anyone my whole life, no high school romance, no college adventures, and I think only few people can imagine the pain of that, and of the prognosis considering what I could have had so far was without exception the kind of man where your mother would hug you, and start her sentence with “At least he..”. I don't want an “At least he”, ever. I also don't want everything I'm proud to be, to be reduced to “At least she” either. Being (with) an “At least” is awful.


All I basically want, is what every woman wants. A man she personally finds both attractive and charming, who sweeps her off her feet, and who doesn't just settle for her, but because whoever she is or whatever she looks like, she is perfect to him (minus this or that). And not “settle for” the man who can't “do better”.

https://31.media.tumblr.com/df32661aeceff50630dcc24dd1a161a2/tumblr_inline_n3aj11mGd61ri344e.gif

Oh but you thought this horror show was over? Oh, no, not even close.

Remember how she hates short men? Further down the page, she writes...

I honestly don't believe in torturing myself to be accepted. If that's what it takes, then the relationship is based on shallowness and I'll be dumped the moment another flaw pops up. I cannot lose weight, and I don't see why I should.

Oh and now for the grand finale.

Here's a self-described chubby woman talking...

I do, unless he utterly repulses me by being way too far removed from my type. I can't be expected to force myself to like a type I don't just because, inner values. I can't have sex with his sense of humor when his belly flap smothers me.

Here's a feminist, bitching about how she is oppressed by men's preferences. Yet she unabashedly brandishes her hypocritical preferences like a retardation-infected spiked bully (not billy, bully) club.

Feminists of today say women like this are owed a romance novel ending to their self-imposed misery.

Owed, folks.

Be careful out there, guys.

Except you, Lit manginas. You have the URL to the post. You know you want to PM her. Be sure to put on your white knight armor and attack me here first and then use that as part of your resume. I hope you nail her, dudes. I couldn't hurt you worse even by lighting your asses on fire.

 

[StrangeLife]

Being friend-zoned sucks, but staying in the friend-zone is voluntary.

I've never had much sympathy for guys (or gals) who keep pining over somebody who treats them like crap...

 

[LiFeNdEaTh]

interesting..

 

[LJ_Reloaded]

Being friend-zoned sucks, but staying in the friend-zone is voluntary.

I've never had much sympathy for guys (or gals) who keep pining over somebody who treats them like crap...

This is exactly what I said the first time I posted about the friendzone. Everyone kinda ignored that. It's nice to see someone else is saying it, maybe they'll listen.

But as you can see, this woman's problems go way, way beyond that.

 

[Noor]

Lovers are a dime a dozen, good friends are hard to find.

I don't really get this friend zone thing, it is as if they feel entitled to other people liking them the same way they like them. It's really just unrequited love/lust.

I see nothing wrong in arranged marriages if that is what both parties want. I have several friends who have done that and are very happy.

 

[Laurel]

I don't really get this friend zone thing, it is as if they feel entitled to other people liking them the same way they like them. It's really just unrequited love/lust.

No, no. Totally wrong. Obviously if a guy wants to date you and you don't want to date him - but you like hanging out with him - then you are a teasing whore bitch skank.

Men have a Right to date you if they like you. That's what Men's Rights are all about, and why Men's Rights proponents are required by membership to make at least 5 threads per week about The Friendzone.

 

[lovetoread]

No, no. Totally wrong. Obviously if a guy wants to date you and you don't want to date him - but you like hanging out with him - then you are a teasing whore bitch skank.

Men have a Right to date you if they like you. That's what Men's Rights are all about, and why Men's Rights proponents are required by membership to make at least 5 threads per week about The Friendzone.

I am in love.

If you ever decide to give up Manu, give me a call.

 

[Queersetti]

Would Somebody Fuck This Guy So He'll Shut The Fuck Up?

 

[Noor]

Would Somebody Fuck This Guy So He'll Shut The Fuck Up?

Sacrificial maidens are scarce these days...

 

[subdued_passion]

Would Somebody Fuck This Guy So He'll Shut The Fuck Up?

I don't see you volunteering.

 

[bronzeage]

Would Somebody Fuck This Guy So He'll Shut The Fuck Up?

He's exhausted Craigslist casual encounters, so there's not much out there for him.

 

[Queersetti]

Sacrificial maidens are scarce these days...

One more thing to blame on the feminists.

 

[Queersetti]

I don't see you volunteering.

Oh, you don't want to see what happens if he goes into a homosexual panic.

 

[evesdream]

Oh, you don't want to see what happens if he goes into a homosexual panic.

You mean there are other sides to his delightfully faceted character?

 

[Noor]

You mean there are other sides to his delightfully faceted character?

There must be someone who would appreciate such things...

 

[lovetoread]

I kind of want to see such a meltdown, it has to be better than the non ending womenz are evol thing.

I am waiting for when he starts posting "They Eat the Menz!!"

 

[mngramps]

Would Somebody Fuck This Guy So He'll Shut The Fuck Up?

LOL ...

 

[Queersetti]

You mean there are other sides to his delightfully faceted character?

He used to post rants about the draft and about the inherent evil of nature, but then the wars wound down and the squirrels he thought were living in his attic turned out to be voices in his head, so now all he has to concern him is the appalling unfairness of women turning him down for sex.

 

[Noor]

I kind of want to see such a meltdown, it has to be better than the non ending womenz are evol thing.

I am waiting for when he starts posting "They Eat the Menz!!"

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l5aZJBLAu1E&feature=kp

 

[bronzeage]

Oh, you don't want to see what happens if he goes into a homosexual panic.

I thought this was it.

 

[LJ_Reloaded]

No, no. Totally wrong. Obviously if a guy wants to date you and you don't want to date him - but you like hanging out with him - then you are a teasing whore bitch skank.

Men have a Right to date you if they like you. That's what Men's Rights are all about, and why Men's Rights proponents are required by membership to make at least 5 threads per week about The Friendzone.

ROTFLMAO, you're still equating the friendzone with calling a woman a teasing whore bitch skank. Nothing like invoking this word to put you into a barely contained hissyfit mode.

Meanwhile women are also using the term and the rest of the world is waking up to the fact that 'friendzone' is more multi-dimensional than the narrow paranoid interpretation you have.

I love knowing I'm ahead of the intellectual curve than you on this issue... and probably a bunch of others, given just how hard headed and ignorant you are proving to be.

Oh and just to rub your face into it...
http://www.oxforddictionaries.com/definition/english/friend-zone

 

[LJ_Reloaded]

Would Somebody Fuck This Guy So He'll Shut The Fuck Up?

And your response is why I will never, ever, ever stop.

You fucking spineless shitwaffle.

 

[LJ_Reloaded]

He used to post rants about the draft

You people admitted defeat on that issue and conceded my point that women are a bunch of feckless hypocrite cowards who try to shame men into supporting the draft.

If you think I'm in any way wrong about my opinion on the issue I'll be willing to bury you so far under an avalanche of cited facts that you'll be fossil fuel by the time your friends on here dig your retarded ass back up.

 

[Queersetti]

And your response is why I will never, ever, ever stop.

You fucking spineless shitwaffle.

Right, because no one is going to fuck you.

 

[Queersetti]

You people admitted defeat on that issue and conceded my point that women are a bunch of feckless hypocrite cowards who try to shame men into supporting the draft.

If you think I'm in any way wrong about my opinion on the issue I'll be willing to bury you so far under an avalanche of cited facts that you'll be fossil fuel by the time your friends on here dig your retarded ass back up.

Actually, I agree with you about the particulars of the issue regarding the draft.

It's the fact that you were willing to commit physical violence against people over the issue, and that you are still fuming over an argument more than a decade in the past that I find troubling.

Nah, that's not true. I find it extremely amusing.