Being alone and lonely....

virgin_not

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Lately,been reading some post about feeling lonely,alone not only here in LIT but some other forum board as well,so it comes to my senses,what is really the difference between *alone and *loneliness*???

So everyone is free to post what they think about it..free world people,all points of view are welcome. :D Here's my opinion on this:

One way to look at this is to say that solitude is the joy of being alone while loneliness is the pain of being alone. Being alone is not necessarily to be lonely. Being alone involves only physical separation, but being lonely includes both spiritual and psychological separation or isolation.

I think that loneliness is the worst pain that anyone can feel. The reason is because loneliness is a hollow pain which only truth can fill. There is a key distinction between being alone and feeling lonely. Being alone is when you voluntarily spend time alone in order to heal your heart by entering deeper into it and discovering more about yourself. The time you spend alone is productive because you are aware that you created the moment to heal and, as a result, you are not coming from a place of fear but love.

However, loneliness is when you are feeling completely alone and empty because there is no one to fill that hollow feeling that either your family or someone else filled. The hollow feeling is a result of your fear of being alone. You are afraid to go within your heart and allow truth to fill that void. You are unaware that you created the moment to heal, so instead you think of yourself as a victim does. Before truth can fill the void you must first feel the pain of loneliness and then embrace it.
 
Thanks virgin not, I needed this. Don't ask why just know that your words hit to my core.
 
You write beautifully, virgin_not. I think, perhaps, that you nailed it.
 
i am at a point in my life where i don't have to have a man to be happy. As we all know, even when you have someone, you can still be just as lonely as being without a partner. i think i need to get out more and have more contact with people. i am craving more contact with adults. Maybe this will help me not to feel so lonely.
 
jushorny said:
Beautifully written VN and very accurately spoken
Thanks dear..oh...honestly lately all your avi...makes me go hmmmmmmmmm :D
 
Thank you for you well written words that catured it so well...I have been living in the hollowed ground just floating there felling so alone and depressed...now thanks to you and few other I making my way throught it....again thank you... :rose: :kiss:
 
An english teacher of mine told me once,

"Loneliness is the feeling that there are people out there for you but you are, for one reason or another, incapable of being with said persons. The feeling of being alone is the tramatic realization there is no one out there for you."

i agree with this 100%
 
Stryderthorongil said:
Being alone can invigorate the soul, loneliness destroys the soul. :rose:
Thanks Mr.Romantic :kiss:

nameless0 said:
An english teacher of mine told me once,

"Loneliness is the feeling that there are people out there for you but you are, for one reason or another, incapable of being with said persons. The feeling of being alone is the tramatic realization there is no one out there for you."

i agree with this 100%
Thanks for your insight :)

LustfulOne50 said:
Thank you for you well written words that catured it so well...I have been living in the hollowed ground just floating there felling so alone and depressed...now thanks to you and few other I making my way throught it....again thank you... :rose: :kiss:
((((LusT)))) :kiss:
 
wow, that hit home. its amazing how you can feel lonely right in the middle of a crowd.

i've been lonely ever since Oct 11, 2005 :(
 
elizabeth22673 said:
wow, that hit home. its amazing how you can feel lonely right in the middle of a crowd.

i've been lonely ever since Oct 11, 2005 :(
((((hugs)))) for you Elizabeth :rose:
 
I don't think I've ever read anything that sums up the difference quite as beautifully. Thank you.
 
Eda LeShan once said

When we cannot bear to be alone, it means we do not properly value the only companion we will have from birth to death - ourselves.

Take this time to consider what it means to just be you. Look inside yourself, at your strengths and weaknesses(sp) I'm sure you will not be alone.
 
Sioux City Male said:
When we cannot bear to be alone, it means we do not properly value the only companion we will have from birth to death - ourselves.

Take this time to consider what it means to just be you. Look inside yourself, at your strengths and weaknesses(sp) I'm sure you will not be alone.
True..thanks for sharing ;)
 
elizabeth22673 said:
wow, that hit home. its amazing how you can feel lonely right in the middle of a crowd.

i've been lonely ever since Oct 11, 2005 :(


You even know the date! Just get out and about, don't sit around by yourself feeling sorry for you. That's the worst thing you can do. :rose:
 
Even with all my family around me I can often feel lonely....but often I am happy in solitude, having peace to be alone and read a book or have a soak in the bath...
 
lovemonster said:
Even with all my family around me I can often feel lonely....but often I am happy in solitude, having peace to be alone and read a book or have a soak in the bath...
Some people are like that,they find peace and enjoy of solitude. ;)
 
virgin_not said:
Some people are like that,they find peace and enjoy of solitude. ;)
Solitude is fine at times but not all the time. Being alone can be to hard to handle but you do because that's all you can do.
 
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