Beeing Pushed To Far!

[YourCaptor]

Heeee

Maybe...

We'll see

You cannot resist chillaxed, threadjacking literotica.

 

[ataxia.girl]

You cannot resist chillaxed, threadjacking literotica.

Nope, i can't.

Doesn't seem like there's much going on around here anyway.

i used to have a problem doing what guys told me online. One of the solutions is just not to turn your webcam on. Webcams are really dangerous anyway. You can easily be recorded without your knowledge. In fact, i have been. Seriously... its really dangerous. i do not get naked on cam anymore. For anyone. Period.

 

[Noor]

Nope, i can't.

Doesn't seem like there's much going on around here anyway.

i used to have a problem doing what guys told me online. One of the solutions is just not to turn your webcam on. Webcams are really dangerous anyway. You can easily be recorded without your knowledge. In fact, i have been. Seriously... its really dangerous. i do not get naked on cam anymore. For anyone. Period.

I suppose it depends how you use your webcam.
Years ago I used to webcam chat with a guy here. I could look at him sideways and he would lose it, lol!
Never got naked with a cam, but there was a holey green tshirt that used to unnerve someone, I bet it still would It was nothing particularly sexual that would be a problem if it showed up all over the internet.
Currently I have a cam, at least temporarily, and I have thought about ways of possibly using it.

I am not known doing what I have been told to do, it takes a pretty exceptional guy for that.

 

[Primalex]

I'm very submissive...if thats even what i should call it. I can't say no. and i can't lie. I don't know what the fuck i'm supposed to do.
Met a really great guy here and we started chatting, or at least he was in the beginning. Now i feel very taken advantage of. He doesn't respect my boundries.....

In my real life i'm not submissive at all. I'm bossy and don't take bullshit from anyone.....But here i loose my ability to be like that. I FUCKING hate it.

Okay, just out of curiosity, what is the problem?

I mean, are you upset about him ignoring your boundaries or are you upset about yourself for ignoring them? If you ignore them, are they still your boundaries and where did they come from?

Right now, this sounds like a guy complaining:"Damned, I didn't want a dog for the kids, but then my wife sucked my cock and I just COULD NOT say no anymore. Not fair that she got me with sex, now I have to deal with a dog for a blowjob."

If you are an adult and yet can't make reasonable decisions, you need a legal guardian, who makes sure that you don't endanger yourself.

 

[HerFireGoddess]

As for "can't say no"? Actually, you CAN say no, you're just choosing not to. It's quite possible you're choosing not to because you lack healthy boundaries (Noticing a pattern here?), but the cold hard truth is that you CAN choose to say no... it's just waaaaaaaaay more uncomfortable right now than it's worth.

I have to disagree with this. I have a very close friend who for a long time was so emotionally unable to say no to anyone who came on to her that it translated into a situation where she could not physically bring herself to do it... she was so terrified of the rejection, that even if it occurred to her to say no, she could not make herself say it. Through a very long time of much counseling, she has luckily overcome this. This goes to show that not everyone possesses an ability to say no.

HOWEVER, in this particular situation, I would try to make yourself establish boundaries. If he won't respect them, he is certainly not a Dom you want, especially coming from the relationship you are.

I do agree with what most people have said that you need to step back from this for a while until you learn how to establish your personal boundaries.

 

[Que]

NO!!!!1 WE ARE SUBMISSIVE!!!!!1!1!!!

It's not our fault.

...stop looking at me like that....

Your use of caps betrays your failure to submit, stella...a "twue sub" has had her caplock key removed during the whole "freewill removal" upgrade operation.....


To the original poster: therapists and doms need to be tried on for size...you need some form of assistance with developing boundaries....people here can help, but i'd suggest a pro

...and unless I miss my guess, this time tell the counselor the things you avoided last time.

 

[suvarna]

Beeing pushed too far!

Tantra is the answer.you may develop faculties which will force others to know your boundaries.pl.PM me.We will discuss.

 

[CutieMouse]

I have to disagree with this. I have a very close friend who for a long time was so emotionally unable to say no to anyone who came on to her that it translated into a situation where she could not physically bring herself to do it... she was so terrified of the rejection, that even if it occurred to her to say no, she could not make herself say it. Through a very long time of much counseling, she has luckily overcome this. This goes to show that not everyone possesses an ability to say no.

HOWEVER, in this particular situation, I would try to make yourself establish boundaries. If he won't respect them, he is certainly not a Dom you want, especially coming from the relationship you are.

I do agree with what most people have said that you need to step back from this for a while until you learn how to establish your personal boundaries.

Which would be an excellent example of a situation in which it was so painfully uncomfortable to say "no", that it was easier to choose to say yes. (IMO consent isnt present if "no" isn't an option - at least in casual interactions.)

It sounds like friend eventually learned to say no - through hard work & therapy to learn healthyboundaries. If you'll notice, I suggested the OP needed to learn healthy boundaries (including the ability to decide when "no" should be said) before engaging in a BDSM based relationship.

 

[rosco rathbone]

help!!!

i'm beeing pushed to far!!!