...be a master swordsman

[honeymonster69]

Hi

I am a 35yr old guy and have had a few girlfriends but never been able to make them cum using just my cock. I've no problems if I use my tongue or fingers, in fact I'm told that my oral technique is great, but once I move on to penetration things don't go as well.

Could the ladies describe some of the best techniques they have experienced and what make a fuck truly memorable.

Guys, do you have any tips or tricks you would like to share?

 

[SweetErika]

You know that somewhere around 75% of women don't come from penetration alone during sex, right?

Also, you really need to communicate with your partner to see what works for her, specifically. Maybe she has luck with a certain motion, angle, position, rhythm, etc., or maybe she needs other types of stimulation to orgasm during sex, or perhaps she's just wired to only come with a specific type of clit stimulation, or whatever. And, who knows, perhaps she's like me and she vastly prefers the orgasms from focused clitoral stimulation to the ones she can have from some type of penetration! While there are some generalities, like 'clit stimulation is usually a good thing,' there's an awful lot of variation within those guidelines, so we could tell you what we like all day, and you may very well still be left with nothing that works for your specific partner.

At any rate, your best bet is to ask her what she knows about herself, if she'd help you learn and then experiment from there. Her knowledge, willingness to experiment and communicate are your best tools. You're probably going to be best served by not putting too much stock in your cock, and just going with whatever your partner enjoys, too. I'm guessing you don't want to be one of those guys who cares more about how his partner comes than how much she enjoys herself. The 'I've gotta make her come with my cock alone' idea usually comes from a place of insecurity, and insecurity isn't sexy. At all.

 

[sunandshadow]

If it's a cowgirl position, all the man really has to do is thrust and play with the woman's nipples and/or clit, the woman can adjust her own position for best sensation. But in general different women like different things, ask her to direct you, perhaps make a game out of it.

 

[oxphocker]

Most of the women I've been with...never really had a problem with penetration. Now each of them could have been individually lying to me, but I have generally been told that I'm pretty good in the sack.

The main thing that I would suggest is getting to read your partner...figure out what is working or if it isn't to change things up. My last partner likes almost any position, but getting her face down and just pounding the crap out of her - she goes wild. She also likes laying on her side while I hold one of her legs up and straddle the other.

You never know with each partner, but I think that's part of the fun. Best of luck to you.

 

[e-trance action]

There's been some good advice given here and I think I'll toss my 2 cents in as well.

Typically I haven't had a problem with women climaxing from penetration either, but that's occurred in a context of *lots* of foreplay and in many cases several clitoral/g-spot orgasms as a prelude to those from intercourse. Trancework can also be useful in building arousal and helping the woman enjoy a greater intensity of pleasure.

(Some women may not be used to multiple climaxes during a single session and in that case you should help them experiment to explore that possibility before ever considering orgasm from intercourse)

What I've found is that once the woman has experienced orgasm during intercourse 2-3 times her body seems more comfortable with it happening with less initial stimulation. (to be clear there still tends to be lots of foreplay and climaxes prior to intercourse, but that's because it's enjoyable)

The important thing is to remember its about giving pleasure, not how the pleasure is given-in the context of that thought, experiment, be generous in making her feel absolutely incredible and it should be a great experience for you as well.

 

[Mansa Musa]

I don't know if it will help, but most of my partners have said that slow, steady strokes were the best way. Save the porno-style pounding for back-alley quickies. And, as the above poster stated, G-spot massage is a very good way to make a connection between vaginal intercorse and orgasm in the female brain. If you're willing to make G-spot massage a critical part of foreplay, then the whole "orgasming from PIV" scenario will become far more common.

 

[honeymonster69]

Cool, thank you for all your replies. I will try a few of your suggestions out but I reckon communication and sensitivity are the keys.

You're right SweetErika, pleasuring my partner is my greatest wish, but it's nice to be able to do it in different ways (if possible).

 

[Jack_Craver]

master swordsman ..wow that's a cool thread title.!
I wish you good luck!