Bdsm

[sweetnpetite]

I would like to write a story about (consentual) Bondage and Domination that does not contain the elements of Humilliation or Pain. Does anybody have any ideas to help me with this, or suggestions for stories that are posted that follow this pattern?

Thanks.

 

[A7inchPhildo]

I would like to write a story about (consentual) Bondage and Domination that does not contain the elements of Humilliation or Pain. Does anybody have any ideas to help me with this, or suggestions for stories that are posted that follow this pattern?

Thanks.

Well to break down your request hello Merriam Webster,

Bondage 1: the tenure or service of a villein, serf or slave 2:a state of being bound usu. by compulsion (as of law or mastery):as a: captivity serfdom b: servitude or subjugation to a controling person or force. <young people in bondage to drugs>

Domination 1: supremacy or preeminence over another 2:excercise of mastery or ruleing power 3:excercise of preponderant, governing, or controling influence 4 plominion

and for fun,

dominatrix : a woman who physically and psychologically dominates and abuses her partner in sadomasochistic sex.

Dominate 1: rule, control 2:to exert the supreme determining or guiding influence on 3:to overlook from a superior elevation or comand because of superior hieght or position 4:to have a commanding or preeminent place or position in


I guess you could have bondage but that still presents it self as a lowering in ones dignity to the controling person.

Pain yes you can easily write without pain if the character is exceptionaly submissive in this category, but only physical pain not mental anguish. That is what domineering is Hun, I can't very well dominate you with out force.
With out force there is no dominance or bondage needed?

The characters can concent to being placed in this atmosphere. The envirement some how will portray one being humbled to the others force. How intense is the moment is up to you? It may be tame small dose of power.

Consider a different category would be all I could guide you and still thinking I am trying to help. I know you have other opinions but I am just trying to not lie to you. Yet, in a nice way say that is the topic, you are looking to not use.

Phildo

 

[sweetnpetite]

I guess it may in the end, go better under another category, but it will contain elements of BDSM. BTW, I have to disagree with old Webster there, if you talk to some people who are into BDSM, they will not generally agree with those definitions either.

Here is an example of what I am thinking.

Girl says to guy: "Let me tie you up"

Guy says, "No way, Let me tie you up"

Girl: "We've already done that, I tell you what, if you let me tie your wrists together, I'll give you a blow job. And I promise to untie you afterward."

"Well, how do I know that you will really untie me?"

"If I don't then you can punish me anyway you see fit."

"Oh, naughty girl! Well, ok then. I"ll give it a go."


*****See, bondage- no humilliation.

 

[A7inchPhildo]

I do not generally agree with those definitions either. I was just trying to help in the best way possible. Original, I saw your post in the AH and passed it by. With many threads in AH I only read to see what others think.
I saw your post in Ideas and thought since it was not crowded I may be able to get a real response from another author in my situation.
I am not a big fan of s/m b/d or any form of non-concent. My brother and his GF is over the limit. Far as I am concerned with the topic. That is why I would like to write about it.
I have a story I have been trying to complete now for several months on B/D I think I am to passive to actually write this story being reminded of the definitions only makes it worse.
Being a person who could not hurt or demoralize another in real life, I think I have little business trying to write a story for people who get off on it.
I was trying to do exactly what you are trying to do and I know that it was not the sense the category was intended for.

My story has a husband and wife playing in the kitchen. The wife starts by teasing and ties the hubby to the chair with a bed sheet as she is folding laundry, as he does bills. She then covers his sight with a pair of her panties, and gags his mouth with a pair of socks. as it remains playfull untill she dancing around the kitchen notices the string licorice and pretends to be a dominatrix. After strikeing him on the backside through the chair rungs he screams. The wifes blood flushes her senses as she pretends to be appologetic to her husband......

I try to progress pass the point of her just having a good fun time and being possesed by the situation. just never has that feel that deep desire that overwhelms a person.

So I write it playfull; and they both are giddy as he says wait until it is my turn to be the master!

No matter how many toys I throw into the story it is just an erotic couple having fun. That just is not the dark s/m b/d or even a light version.

That is why I posted the definitions so you might see there is a light B/D but it is still bondage / domination and if you are being dominated by bondage then yes it is humiliating to be at some otherpersons mercy even if they do not hurt you. If you are willing to hold your arms and legs out and not move no matter what then you do not need binders?

Phildo

Ps. That is my perspective on it. You know I would never say don't try. Who knows you may stumble into a new fetish "Romantic Sadomasochist".

PPs. Give me a peep if you do write it I would like to read it whatever category you choose after the fact. You are welcome to use what little I shared of that story if that helps any. If you would like a different opinion or help just PM. I might be a dick but I don't bite.

 

[sweetnpetite]

I think your story sounds neat. I would go for it.

Athough to some (perhaps many) being tied up or being submissive would automatically be humiliationg, that is not the case at all for many who enjoy that type of play. Some enjoy humiliation, some enjoy pain, and some do not. Some try to avoid punishment and some try to ellicit it. Some are very serious and some are very playful. there is much variety.

The biggest misconseption is that BDSM must contain sadomasacism, or that a dominatrix or dominant is neccesarily saidstic, often it is not so. There are many elements of BDSM and they don't all necesarily have to be employed.

Bondage -many forms, mental and physical
Domination- many forms as well, not always cruel and demeaning

DS which is domination and submission, it is possible hear to leave out bondage all together. also does not need to include sadism or masocism.

S&M can be sadism and masochism or slave and master.

Many couples use safe words to indicate that play has gone to close to a limit, or to let the other know that they have had to much. the key is that both parties must find pleasure in the activitiy. the acts are often 'scripted' out in advance. though sometimes not.

I guess it is hard to explain how all this is a turn-on. I never would have even guessed that I would like spanking. (which also falls under the BDSM category) You don't have to use every element in order for your story to 'belong' there, there are as many types of BDSM as there are people doing it. (trust me, visit the BDSM board you'll be amazed) some is lifeslyle, some is romantic, some is impersonal, some doenst involve actual sex.

If you are curios about it, I would recomend reading some stories in that category and lurking around the boards. There are specific websites like the castle realm, but they might scare you away.

 

[sweetnpetite]

here is just a little taste of what I have so far:

But something was missing. She enjoyed being submissive but it wasn’t all of who she was. Sometimes she felt the desire to dominate, to push Karl down on the bed and just take him in an animalistic way. She didn’t want to degrade him the way she enjoyed being degraded, she didn’t want to overpower him or force herself on him either. He was strong, masculine and manly. She loved that about him, she didn’t want that to change. But she had a deep desire for him to be overcome by his lust for her; for him to surrender to her whims.

She just wasn’t sure that she could pull it off. Karl liked to be in control, demanded to be in control. There was a fear building inside of her, anticipation fluttering in her belly mixed with this terrible feeling that she wasn’t desirable enough to pull it off. That he would resist her, that he would resist her with ease and reject her proposal- that was her greatest fear. But she knew that she had to try. The dominant side of her self demanded that she try.

But what if she tried and only made a fool of herself? She couldn’t think of that. She had to give it a shot. And so she prepared herself, looking as irresistible as possible. She wore her trashiest leopard print outfit, and her tallest heels. She got everything ready. The atmosphere was primed, the props were in their places and she was inhaling deep breaths of courage. Go for it girl, she told herself, this will work. It has to.

Sandy couldn’t believe that she was wearing fake eyelashes, but she wanted the long and spidery look, and her own just didn’t make the cut. She was pleasantly surprised to see that they looked quite natural and sexy. As she was finishing the bold cat’s eye detailing, her doorbell rang.

Karl stood in the doorway, carrying a bouquet of roses and dressed quite formally and properly. When he saw Sandy, he almost dropped the flowers. She reached up to lean on the door frame and purred in a deceptively demure voice, “I thought we’d stay in tonight.”

Sandy could see that Karl was sporting an instantaneous hard-on, and she grew bolder in her plan. She grabbed his hand and pulled him into the room. The door slammed loudly and unceremoniously behind him.

Karl let her lead him into the bedroom, where gentle music played in a softly lit alcove. Her flowery bed spread had been replaced by silky animal prints. “I’m feeling wild,” she said by way of explanation.

She started swinging her hips to the slow melodious music. He let his hands wander freely over her curvy body. “I’d love to strip for you,” she teased him softly.

“Yeah,” he whispered in her ear. “Why don’t you?”

“Only one condition,” she said turning toward him. He lifted an eyebrow questioningly.

“Only if I can tie you up first.”

He laughed, “I’ve got a better idea. How about I tie you up instead?”

“I’m serious!”

“So am I.”

“Come on, try it. I promise I won’t do anything you won’t like.”

“No.”

“Don’t you trust me?”

“Of course I trust you, but I don’t like being tied up.”

“How do you know. Have you ever tried it?”

“Well, no. But I can tell it’s not something I’d like.”

“Come on, be adventurous, be wild!”

“Uh-uh.”

“I’ll tell you what. If you do this for me, I’ll give you the best blow job of your life.”

“Well…”

She could see he was starting to crack so she gently pushed him over to the bed. “I won’t do it unless you say yes,” she purred pulling out the leather cuffs and dangling them across her body. She let her tongue slide sensuously across her top lip and then the bottom one. “I don’t want to do anything against your will.”

 

[Johnny Mayberry]

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[sweetnpetite]

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don't make me have to slap you Johnny Mayberry. I *will* do it

 

[A7inchPhildo]

If you are curios about it, I would recomend reading some stories in that category and lurking around the boards. There are specific websites like the castle realm, but they might scare you away.

I am curious and have read several I am more afraid because I find actual arousal from these stories and that is not me. I have visited dr.m site and his stories are quite intense that scares me.

Your story is good so far, but will she not thrive on the power? That seems to be a normal human reaction to want more.

I honestly think Trust is the true nature of B/D. I had that trust broken and have been schepticle ever since.

Some how I find the thought of spanking or watching a spanking to be exceptional in the arousal area if it is a turn on to the other person. Having been hurt wrongly, I would never want to hurt a person out of ignorance. Peoples feelings mean a lot to me. That may be why I group this topic under a strict definition.

This is also why I am very interested in your story and mainly because you are a young female, I imagine close to my age. Interested in your perspective of mutual B/D or whatever.

Spanking, you the spanker or spankee?

 

[switch76]

I have a story in Literotica's interactive section(called Chyoo) that might interest you. It is called "A bet leads to domination in the office." 2 co-workers make a bet. The loser has to obey the winner for 1 week.
The story allows you to choose the character names.
Put a man's name where it says First name.
Put a woman's name were it says Last Name.
If you like it you can also write a chapter and add it to the story.
Click on the link below.
Send me a pm once you've read it and let me know what you think.

 

[sweetnpetite]

I am curious and have read several I am more afraid because I find actual arousal from these stories and that is not me. I have visited dr.m site and his stories are quite intense that scares me.

Your story is good so far, but will she not thrive on the power? That seems to be a normal human reaction to want more.

I honestly think Trust is the true nature of B/D. I had that trust broken and have been schepticle ever since.

Some how I find the thought of spanking or watching a spanking to be exceptional in the arousal area if it is a turn on to the other person. Having been hurt wrongly, I would never want to hurt a person out of ignorance. Peoples feelings mean a lot to me. That may be why I group this topic under a strict definition.

This is also why I am very interested in your story and mainly because you are a young female, I imagine close to my age. Interested in your perspective of mutual B/D or whatever.

Spanking, you the spanker or spankee?

In my current relationship, i am the spankee, but I have no objection to being the spanker, in the case of someone who enjoys it.

If you are turned on by turning on your partner, I think that there is nothing more that anyone could ask for. So as long as your partner enjoys some aspect of BDSM, then you shouldn't feel bad at all about it.

One need not go all out with lether whips and so forth. Some women enjoy a gentle squeexe of there hair; some men enjoy sharp nailes being raked accross there back. (and some don't)

Some enjoy a painful caining or whip, some like a playful swat that doesnt hurt, but only feels naughty. Theree are a million variations inbetween. (Here on lit, you tend to find the extremes)

Some people like some gentle restraint with there sex, others get off more on the staps and ropes, and maybe even denial. For me, denial is not a big turn on, it just pisses me off. Teasing, properly done and delayed grafication I appreciate, but I expect satisfaction Sub or no sub, the idea that being submissive means you only live for the others pleasure is a load of crap as far as I'm concerned That is fine if that is who you are, but it's not me. Submissive doens't mean the same thing to everybody.

Technically, I sadist is someone who gets pleasure from inflicting pain regardless of weather they like it or not (and presumidly more if they don't) however, there are many who enjoy inflicting pain on those who enjoy pain but who wouldn't like to inflict it on someone who didn't like it. There are probably also many who *would* enjoy inflicting it on someone regardless of there pleasure, but they *choose* not to do so, because they know that it is wrong.

Dont' get me wrong about the humilliation either, I enjoy it But I want to write a story without it, becuase I'm hoping to encourage my guy to reverse rolls with me, and I don't want to humilliate him. I think that I would be able to enjoy inflicting pain and humiliation under the right circumstances, in this case it would subtract from what I find attractive about him, if that makes sence. Humiliation is not something that looks attractive on him, so therefor it would not turn me on, and he wouldn't like it either.

As far as your story goes, write a story that turns you on, and don't think about the category. You can always put it in fetish or erotic couplings if you dont' think its right for BDSM. When it comes to your sexual pleasure, there are no rules (other than don't break any laws) Non-consent fantasies are often the fantasy of being *taken* being able to have taboo sex (be it rough sex, sex with a stranger, sex out side of marriage, or any kind of sex for some) without the guilt and responsibilty. Some people have a hard time admitting that they really *want* it, even to themselves in the privacy of there own fantasies. (Silly, yes, I used to be like that. Still enjoy a good non-consent-)

 

[sirhugs]

spanking story

my new story, A Merry Spanking Christmas Eve,

http://www.literotica.com/stories/showstory.php?id=11***9

is spanking friendly

 

[sirhugs]

Re: spanking story

my new story, A Merry Spanking Christmas Eve,

http://www.literotica.com/stories/showstory.php?id=11***9

is spanking friendly

sorry- bad link

 

[A7inchPhildo]

I am sorry, sweet!

I had lost track of this post and you were so kind to respond.

Thanks to Hugs I opened it up to read his reply!

I am taking your opinion and am currently working on that exact kind of story which I hope to complete within the next day or two.

In my current relationship, i am the spankee, but I have no objection to being the spanker, in the case of someone who enjoys it.

Thanks that was more for my own fetish but appreciate the reply!

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I think that I would be able to enjoy inflicting pain and humiliation under the right circumstances, in this case it would subtract from what I find attractive about him, if that makes sence. Humiliation is not something that looks attractive on him, so therefor it would not turn me on, and he wouldn't like it either.

I agree with this a lot it is all about the others perception of want that makes the whole thing exciting. It would be no good to just hurt some one out of malicious intent. I need a reason that is good for them.

(Silly, yes, I used to be like that. Still enjoy a good non-consent-)

Ok, I am going to need a few minutes alone with that statement, brb!


Time drifts by like a warm breeze,
the sun strings down across my skin,
the smell of the rose makes me sneeze,
I finish my poem so I can talk again!




I can understand what you are saying, other then the perverted thoughts that keep crossing my mind. I am going to try and apply some of that. Err maybey a few of those thoughts too?

 

[Delicious Blonde]

consensual b@d idea.......

hey sweet.....read your stuff all the time!....... how 'bout a willing maid lusting after her employers?......and she very willingly lets the foxy couple tie her up and have their way with her....and their sexy friends!!!........ wanna collaborate on this one some time?

http://www.literotica.com/stories/memberpage.php?uid=216565

 

[sweetnpetite]

Re: consensual b@d idea.......

hey sweet.....read your stuff all the time!....... how 'bout a willing maid lusting after her employers?......and she very willingly lets the foxy couple tie her up and have their way with her....and their sexy friends!!!........ wanna collaborate on this one some time?

http://www.literotica.com/stories/memberpage.php?uid=216565

sounds interesting. I'm not sure exactly how collaborations work though- but I might be willing to give it a try. (if you tie me up and force me )

 

[Mr-Ontario]

yes

http://www.literotica.com/stories/memberpage.php?uid=14476