Bdsm symbols and jewelry

[allforfun86]

So my sub told me last night that she would like to have a piece of jewelry that she can wear in public that shows she is a sub and owned by me. This was something I brought up once before but she was against at the time. Well she changed her mind now and is very excited to walk around in public with a symbol showing who and what she is.

We spent most of the night looking for a jeweler that handled bdsm jewelry, but had a hard time finding anything of decent quality without being expensive. I was hoping that maybe somebody here would have any suggestions or know a place. The main site we found was Etsy and they have a lot of bdsm stuff but none of it we really liked or thought was of good quality.

My sub found a pendent she liked, but I got the feeling it wasn't what she really wanted and was kind of settling on it. I found a ring I like but the reviews said it was cheap and don't expect it to last long. We have no problem replacing the jewelry because of wear and tear, but we also expect it to last more then a few months.

We also had a hard time finding symbols that made clearly defined roles. We saw the one symbol that looks like a ying yang, I don't know how to spell it lol, and it seemed the male top sign was just a arrow pointing up while the female sub sign was interwoven lines. Yet I also saw those symbols being portrayed differently in a bdsm context and left me confused.

So any help or info about a good jeweler and on bdsm symbols would be really appreciated. Thanks!

 

[MeekMe]

There is no universally accepted symbol. You basically just have to find one you like. Most people selling those symbols are just hoping the trend will catch on enough that they can make more money. The triskelion (that yin and yang symbol) isn't even universally accepted. Chances are most people (even kinky people) won't know what you're trying to signal to them. Find something that is meaningful to the two of you and don't worry about flashing the bat signal to everyone else.

 

[allforfun86]

Well "flashing the bat signal" is a part of it. My sub wants to meet other people in the lifestyle and she gets a kick out of the idea of meeting some random person through work or at the store and them seeing it and recognizing it. I personally do to. We're just hoping that maybe there was some symbol, doesn't have to be universal for bdsm I guess, that just helped us proudly show who we are. The personal jewelry that shows she is my sub, but none only to the two of us, is taken care of lol.

 

[MeekMe]

If you want to meet others, there are events for that. The problem with the random meeting in the store or at work is that you would actually need a symbol that is recognized and accepted. The last time someone posted (elsewhere) the treskelion symbol and asked about it, most of the respondents said something like, "oh, I had no idea this symbol was even a thing!" So in order for others to spot it and give you the nod actually need to know what it means. Even then, they have to be comfortable with also being "out." Personally, I wouldn't let anyone know by commenting on their jewelry because I like my privacy, and I also have no idea if that person is wearing it for fashion or not. I wouldn't risk the fallout of outing myself.

If you check with your local community, they may have symbols they prefer and recognize that you could use.

 

[La damnee elle la licorne]

 

[allforfun86]

I didn't realize it was this vague. When we searched last night it gave us the impression that these symbols were much more commonly known. So I guess trying to go about they way we want is pointless. Well thanks everyone for the input I appreciate it!

 

[AddingAnother]

If you want to be that obvious, what about a collar of some sort or a metal piece that is stamped "owned" or something similar? I have a necklace with a thin hammered silver bar pendant that comes to mind when I think if the metal piece idea. Many people make stamped metal bracelets as well.

It may not get everyone's attention and like the previous poster, I probably would not comment if I saw it but someone may ask.

 

[Etoile]

The most common one is the triskele. If I saw someone wearing it, I'd instantly think they were into BDSM. I'd also recognize the leather pride flag as the same thing. They're about as close to universal as you can get, but since there is no major overarching organization, they're not "official."

Both pictured here: http://bdsmwiki.info/BDSM_Symbols#BDSM_Symbol

The arrow and such were originally created by the Slave Register, more info here: http://www.ownership-possession.com/icons-explanation

 

[MrsKingky]

My Dom bought me a bracelet with a heart locket which clasp the bracelet together. I found it on Etsy, it's a discreet one but has lasted a few months even with my son grabbing at it occasionally. It cost about £25 and I've always been very happy with it