Mazuri
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Hello, my name is Mazuri and I'm a BDSM n00b 
*waits for the greetings from the 'support group'*
Yes, well, I came to today's meeting to ask for helpful ways to explain to my hubby that the things I'd like to try and explore are not Disrespectful or Demeaning to me in any way (this has been his major issue thus far).
A short bit of history: we've been married 16 years and have had our ups and downs as most have. We are currently in a major UP that's got us at a point where we're probably happier and more relaxed/open than we've ever been. We have discussed certain things and I've told him what I'd like to try (primarily light bondage, sensation play, spankings, etc...all on the light side until we find what clicks). For some he's been very responsive, for others, like the spanking, he feels would be demeaning.
I know I can't make him something he's not, and I'd not want to. I kinda like the "him" I have
What I would like, however, is advice on how to sort this out a bit and explain/reassure him that it can't be disrespectful/demeaning if it's what I want.
I'm sure there are umpty-dozen threads on this, and I've been lurking for a while searching, but couldn't find one that covered this particular aspect.
Thank you for your patience
maz
*waits for the greetings from the 'support group'*
Yes, well, I came to today's meeting to ask for helpful ways to explain to my hubby that the things I'd like to try and explore are not Disrespectful or Demeaning to me in any way (this has been his major issue thus far).
A short bit of history: we've been married 16 years and have had our ups and downs as most have. We are currently in a major UP that's got us at a point where we're probably happier and more relaxed/open than we've ever been. We have discussed certain things and I've told him what I'd like to try (primarily light bondage, sensation play, spankings, etc...all on the light side until we find what clicks). For some he's been very responsive, for others, like the spanking, he feels would be demeaning.
I know I can't make him something he's not, and I'd not want to. I kinda like the "him" I have
I'm sure there are umpty-dozen threads on this, and I've been lurking for a while searching, but couldn't find one that covered this particular aspect.
Thank you for your patience
maz