Bad boy

[Nightsfire]

Confessions of a online sub

Alright people I have been commanded to do this.



Me and Cris have met and decided to do the s&m thing.…….I am the sub and she is the Mistress.

That being said I am being punished, I fucked up and told my mistress to shut the fuck up..

God I am stupid. I have been instructed to post here and ask you people what my punishment should be.

A brief history, We met online at a rp site, we got to know one another then met a dcon. Our love was realized then we felt that BDSM was where we wanted to take this

We have started a Mistress slave relationship and I am here before you .

I have been ordered to ask you about on line punishments……..you have no idea how this has humiliated me………..I am most times in charge

bah

 

[Kajira Callista]

figging

 

[Mistress Tae]

And now....

....you will think on this thread each time the urge to tell me to fuck off hits you. You know how disappointed I am already in your actions, but you also should know that I am very, very pleased that you are following through with your punishment as asked and without question.....

I love you Nights, but you know as well as I that you fucked up.....

Kajia......god, nice one..thank you. Nights, I expect this one to be in your report to me.


Mistress Tae

 

[MissTaken]

What's a dcon?

 

[Mistress Tae]

D*Con is a sci-fi/fantasy fiction conference.....hmmm.....think star trek convention and this is very much like that. We were there to not only meet each other face to face for the first time, but meet with other people in another online community we are both active in.

 

[MissTaken]

I have been ordered to ask you about on line punishments……..you have no idea how this has humiliated me………..I am most times in charge

bah

Welcome to the forums, nitesfire and Mistress Tae.



I can't imagine how you can be feeling any humiliation by posting your indiscretions here, to a group of people you don't know and who don't know you. So, how is this posting humiliating to you?

Others have used our community for similar purposes and it seems to be most effective when you have established yourself in the community. Having made friends or perhaps having developed a reputation seems to add a certain "sting" , pardon the pun, to such a posting/punishment.

Honestly, if my sub were to do what you have done, online or off, the relationship would be over. I do not tolerate disrespect from anyone, especially someone who claims to be my submissive.

Just my two cents. I guess that is my idea for punishment in this situation?

 

[MissTaken]

D*Con is a sci-fi/fantasy fiction conference.....hmmm.....think star trek convention and this is very much like that. We were there to not only meet each other face to face for the first time, but meet with other people in another online community we are both active in.

Ahhh thank you!

 

[Mistress Tae]

I have no interest in ending the relationship, especially since we are what would be considered "children" in the world of BDSM. Our journey has only just begun, but I do hope he learns quickly that this behaviour will not be tolerated.

I agree, it is not nearly as humiliating to post his message here where we are "unknowns", it would have been far more humilitaing for him to post in a community where everyone knows us. But I also know him very well and know this will be effective even though we are "unknowns" here.

Unfortuatley, in those forums, a post as this would be recieved about as well as a fox in a hen house. At least here I am hoping that he will be able to come back to me with a few punishments rather than, "Oh my god....you two are into WHAT????"

We accept our journey into this lifestyle, but also realize that others would not accept it as readily. I felt this was the best place for him to post this.


And Miss Taken.....glad to clarify the D*Con for you

 

[MissTaken]

Okay, thank you for explaining.

Do you talk on the phone?

When my sub has misbehaved, I may talk on the phone and get myself ready to masturbate and then, refuse to share my pleasure with my sub.

It can be very disappointing after I have really worked hard to excite my submissive over my own sexual arousal.

Also, requiring your sub to wear a butt plug to work may act as a reminder to remember his manners.

I have a great voice for lecturing and a lecture about mutual respect and your sincere disappointment in this behavior may be helpful as well.

"Shut the fuck up" will earn you almost no points in any relationship, BDSM or otherwise.

 

[Mistress Tae]

I agree with you there, it was not a wise move on his part all the way around.

Yes, we do speak on the phone daily and I assure you, tomorrow morning he will be getting a very long lecture on respect and my disappointment.

 

[MissTaken]

So, this is more of a long distance relationship than it is an on line relationship?

It is important to separate the difference in that for some, those who practice strictly on line BDSM are seen as players and taken far less seroiusly than those stuck in a long distance relationship that has it's moments of real time submission.

Ya just can't replace the sting of a flogger or the buzz of swinging the damn thing while practicing D/s from a distance!

 

[Mistress Tae]

We have been in a long distance relationship for over a year now. It was alot of talking and discussion that lead to the journey into BDSM.

Ya just can't replace the sting of a flogger or the buzz of swinging the damn thing while practicing D/s from a distance!

AMEN!!! It is much more difficult when limited to only online and the phone, and frustrating I think for both of us. But our lives are what they are, and we have to make due with what we have.

 

[MissTaken]

AMEN!!! It is much more difficult when limited to only online and the phone, and frustrating I think for both of us. But our lives are what they are, and we have to make due with what we have.

Ya, I know.

*sigh*


MissT is missing her man tonight!

 

[Mistress Tae]

*sighs with ya* Ya, I know all too well how that goes.....

 

[MissTaken]

I shouldn't complain.

I see him three or four nights a week, generally. However, this week that didn't happen.

And he WILL pay the price when I see him again!

 

[Mistress Tae]

Ooo...I consider you lucky!!!! nights lives over 1400 miles away from me, seeing each other is most difficutl. Co-ordinating not only work schedules, but life schedules to be together seems beyond daunting at times.

But I will say, I think our relationship is stronger for it. And though the flogger doesn't get much use....I am very interested in exploring the mental side of BDSM...but *sighs again*

 

[MissTaken]

I will give it some thought but am not terribly experienced in Domination after having only started in May of this year.

Time for bed, it as nice getting to know you.

Take care and be well,

MissT

 

[Mistress Tae]

You too Miss T, sleep well. I look forward to talking to you some more.

*is off to bed herself*

 

[Shadowsdream]

Nitesfire

As has been previously posted...a fuck off type of attitude only has one response from this Domme.."see ya!"
But your Mistress wants to keep you so the question you pose deserves a different answer.
I believe your Mistress has already found a good punishment for you. Exposure and endurance inside of the BDSM community. I for one do not believe you deserve a whipping, butt plugging or sexual teasing in this case. Disrespect is not easily forgotten nor should it be.
This is not an easy lifestyle and mistakes happen simply in the learning process but disrespect is not a mistake, there is always a deeper reason behind it.
If your Mistress is not satisfied with what She percieves you have learned from this posting you have been required to initiate I would suggest an interrogation with no "taking it easy on you". your endurance and honesty will be a good indication to both of you if this BDSM thing is something that is the reality of the moment or the reality of the future.
Good luck to you both..when it is the right path it is MAGIC! ~~smile~~

 

[AnelizeDarkEyes]

Long distance D/s relationships take an immense amount of strength, patience, commitment, creativity, love, and work, and work, and work....LOL

And we see each other approx. every two months or less (we are 8-1/2 hrs apart).

I've said this before, about another subject....I won't wish you luck, LOL. I don't think luck has anything to do with it. Great relationships take work, from both parties. Telling You to fuck off, isn't working from my (service sub) point of view. But, you've already gotten advice from people far more qualified to give it than I (Nice to see you, Shadowsdream, Ma'am).

Take care,

~anelize

 

[slvjenn]

I'm not sure why i'm even answering this but here goes...

As a submissive I can't imagine telling my boyfriend/master to "fuck off" The phrase has never even crossed my mind when he told me to do something.

If it did. I suspect it would be time to end the relationship, if not end it totally, at least end the D/s aspect of it.

Now, even if i didn't want to do something that he told me to do... Why would i be so disrespectful? I wouldn't even say that to a non D/s partner. I don't think many people would, unless, it was at the end of the road to breakup.

Punishment should be denial. Denial of talking, chatting, meeting, or whatever else might be involved in your relationship. If someone tells me to "fuck off" they surely have no respect for me as a person, nevermind respect for me as a dominant (if i was one).

 

[PinkOrchid]

 

[PinkOrchid]

 

[Guest]

Given the stated nature of your relationship.

And what he has done.

And the tone of his original post.

It is very simple - the answer to "Fuck off" is "Leave", "There is the door, don't let it hit you in the ass.".

I would be willing to bet money that if you don't, you will regret the hell out of it.

(Anyone who doesn't care for the tone of this post-kindly forward all comment to - John Mayberry - )

 

[Nightsfire]

What I did is wrong and I realize this but I must clarify something. I am an extreme smart ass and when I said fuck off it was not in a malicious or derogatory (sp) context. I was being a smart ass and teasing her. Again I realize that even in this context it is unaccaptable. I am learning slowly but learn I shall.

Oh and thanks for the welcome