Backdoor Bandit

[ironic]

I have this obsession with anal sex. I have never tried it, as my wife has never been into it whenever I have broached the subject in the past.

Just wondering if any ladies would like to share their anal experiences/fantasies with me. Who knows, may even turn out to better than the real thing after all.....

E me at sixtynine_enter@yahoo.com

 

[BlondGirl]

There are plenty of writings about the experience for you to search out in other places --but is you really want some fun, get a small butt plug and try it yourself. You might just be hooked for life.

 

[Czarina]

I adore anal sex. Personally, it is one of the greatest sex acts I have enjoyed (and there have been many!). There is such a lovely, thin line between the pleasure and the pain. I love being bent over and taken in the ass. It is not discussed enough, so many women still think it is taboo. It is a very natural act, and very satisfying for both partners.

 

[Shy Tall Guy]

There are plenty of writings about the experience for you to search out in other places --but is you really want some fun, get a small butt plug and try it yourself. You might just be hooked for life.

ROTFL and choking, the laughing some more

If I got one would you help me learn how to use it?

 

[Shy Tall Guy]

I adore anal sex. Personally, it is one of the greatest sex acts I have enjoyed (and there have been many!). There is such a lovely, thin line between the pleasure and the pain. I love being bent over and taken in the ass. It is not discussed enough, so many women still think it is taboo. It is a very natural act, and very satisfying for both partners.

I don't know about it being natural - that is obviously not what the anus was designed for. But who gives a fuck about that? Humans do a lot of things that aren't "natural"; such as flying, typing at computers, cooking food, building fires - lots of stuff.

Before I came to this BB I had the distinct impression that women enjoying anal sex was the exception to the rule, and that it was a myth perpetrated by male erotica writers. My past sexual partners did not enjoy it - they didn't even want to try it. Apparently they didn't know what they were missing as many of the open minded women on Lit seem to think it is a fun experience in one form or another.

 

[Smarty Pants]

I love all kinds of anal play, but I can't say that I'm in the majority. Well, maybe with those women here on Lit, but none of my friends will even admit they like it. And forget a guy admitting he likes having his ass played with! Jeez, most of them won't admit they masturbate! Anyway, the whole anal sex thing is awesome if approached right. I actually prefer it missionary or with me lying horizonatally across the bed, legs kind of hanging off. That way I can play with my clit while I'm getting fucked. It feels so primal.

 

[atelimbs]

I'm with the girls- anal sex rules! I'm very happy to say that I have introduced all of the women I've been with in the last ten years to the pleasure of butt sex. The key to enjoyment is patience and sensitivity- you'd be amazed at what someone can handle when they are warmed up slowly- and yes, trying a dildo on yourself is definitely good research!

 

[SexyChele]

BlondGirl's suggestion may have been tongue-in-cheek, but I think it's one more men should truly investigate if they are looking at trying anal. Most men new to this pleasure rush it, or feel that the anus produces its own lube - just as a vagina does. The end result is nothing but pain, pain, P A I N! And did I say the end result is pain??

I was lucky - eventually. I had a b/f who KNEW how to introduce a woman to anal sex, and I have loved it ever since, almost more than "normal" sex. But I had to put up with A LOT of inexperienced guys who felt they could just "poke" their way into it, and that my screaming bloody murder was an indication of how much I was enjoying it.

If you are unwilling to go the butt plug route, just keep in mind: slow, patient, make sure she is completely aroused, use lots of lube, when you think you have enough lube then use more, and if she starts to scream and/or tries to get away - for heaven's sake STOP!

With your wife, you might want to introduce your tongue and a little fingering first, and build from there. It's always to incorporate this when you are giving her oral sex - normally she won't even realize what is happening until you are doing it.

Good luck!

 

[BustyImp]

Anal sex is great!

It is one of my most favorite activities! I like feeling completely vulunerable to my lover...

 

[Lorindellia]

Wow you ladies are much more adventuresome than I.

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[Lorindellia]

Wow you ladies are much more adventuresome than I.

To be honest I am terrified of anal sex. When I go for my anual exam I beg the doctor not to insert his pinky into me there. It sends my hips reeling away.

As for oral stimulation of this area, what about hepatitus! Okay sure, go take a shower, but still.... to me it seems very risky in that way.

Okay, tell me where I am wrong. And what do you mean you can stimulate her into accepting it? If you can't accept a pinky finger how on earth are you going to accept a fully erect cock?

Yours for the Moment - But Darling, if you really care, "Don't touch me there",

Lorin'

 

[SexyChele]

Lorindellia

First of all, having your lover play with your anus is quite different than undergoin a medical exam. I can't speak for all women, but I know when I have my gyno visit it is a good thing he uses lube on my vagina, otherwise he ain't gettin' in there! BIG different between clinical examination of "that" area, and a lover's tender, loving attention.

Mainly, it's called relaxation.

But, a step by step? For me, anyway?

1. Lots of foreplay. Both my body AND his - since I usually find my lover's body incredibly arousing. The more foreplay, the better, as the more aroused I am likely to become. (one reason why anal sex is best if this is not the first time a man is going to orgasm - he's not in so much of a hurry)

2. Tongue play. Now, cleanliness is VERY important here. But, then, it is for me whenever I'm going to have sex. A tongue is soft, pliable, and wet. He would begin by licking the outside of the anus, including the skin around it. The more adventurous might even put their tongue inside the anus, although this is not everyone's "cup of tea".

3. A well lubricated finger. And well-lubed does not mean saliva. If you will be engaging in anal play, it is wise to keep a tube of KY by the bed. As he is enjoying his lover's pussy orally, he puts some KY on his finger, plays with her anus, and when it is well-lubed, you would be surprised at how easily his finger will slide in. Now, a smart man will make steps 2 and 3 last as long as possible - until she is begging for more. Letting a woman lead in this regard, especially if it is her first time, is vital.

4. Truly optional, but should be considered for woman first being initiated into anal sex - inserting another finger into the anus. Now the trick here is not to "stick a finger in and begin pumping away". Insert the tip, then stop. Go to the second knuckle, then stop. Maybe wiggle the finger just a little, then stop. Try to insert the finger all the way, then stop. The same is true with 2 fingers. Once they are fully inserted, stop. Wait. Keep licking that luscious clit of hers. Allow her to get used to what is in her "behind" as this will be a whole new sensation. Again, at her prompting, begin to slide the fingers in and out slowly, building up speed as she directs - either verbally or with her hip movement. Wiggle the fingers back and forth, whatever comes to mind.

5. Entry of the penis. This is where most women get truly scared - and for good reason when they are with the wrong man. The most comfortable "first time" position would have to be the woman on her hands and knees, back straight. Spread KY right onto the anus, and insert some into it. Then the head of the penis should be covered in KY. If it looks like enough, add even more. The anus does not create its own lubricaton like the vagina. It is tighter than the vagina, and much more sensitive. A LOT of lube will make things more comfortable for both of you.

Press the head of the penis against (NOT into) the anus. It should slide around like crazy - and even then you might STILL not have enough lube. If possible, while doing this, reach around and begin to rub her clit - or ask her to. Slowly, slowly, S L O W L Y push your penis through the anal opening. **VERY IMPORTANT** -- as you do this, ask her to push out, just as though she were attempting a bowel movement. (Yeah, ok, gross maybe - but you want this work?) This is the key - and a BIG one! While she pushes out, the head should slide in rather easily. Once the head is in S T O P!!! She will have a totally unique feeling, one that may be a little uncomfortable (but if it is painful, then quickly withdraw!), and she will need time to get used to it. W A I T!!! Let her tell you when she thinks it might be okay to proceed. And when she does, go slowly - an inch at a time, and be prepared to make an exit if she tells you she can't take it.

The first time, don't insert the penis all the way - it will be too painful. Go about halfway. (of course, this changes from couple to couple) Once you are in, W A I T!!! Allow her to get used to you. Keep rubbing her clit, or have her do it. If possible, have her use a vibrator against her clit. When she tells you, either verbally or by moving her hips, that she is ready, begin to move slowly, building speed based on her direction.

6. Ejaculation. Discuss this prior to sex. Ejaculate in the rectum can cause problems for some women - diaherria or constipation. (yeah, I know, but it depends on the woman) Some just don't like it, or the thought of it. If she asks you not to "cum" in her ass, respect her wishes and pull out just prior to cumming.

7. **VERY IMPORTANT** -- D O N O T under A N Y circumstances take a penis from the rectum and then insert it into her vagina. This will cause infection! As well, a cock should not be taken orally when it is removed from the rectum. After anal sex, a man should excuse himself and go the bathroom and cleanse himself thoroughly before rejoining any other type of play. I would recommend this even when he has worn a condom.

I shouldn't have to say this, but I will. If, during any of the above steps, a woman tells a man to stop. Please STOP!! You could be hurting her more than you realize. Or making her very uncomfortable. In most cases, it is best to do these steps over a series of times together. If this is your lover's first instance of anal sex, do it a step at a time, build up to it - don't try to do in one night, unless she specifically asks for it.

Don't know how many people will get through this, so I apologize for the length.

 

[Lorindellia]

Re: Lorindellia

~ There is a fine line between pleasure and pain.
Shall we explore that line together? ~

Wow, I wish you were the man, I think I could get through it with you.

Yours for the Moment,
Lorin'

 

[Guest]

Okay, I had my girlfriend read your entire description of how anal sex is supposed to be done and now she agrees to it! YAY! Thank you! We're gonna try it tonight! With all the safety tips you pointed out in full effect.

 

[SexyChele]

Well, Lorin', you know there are those strap-ons! And a woman doing another woman anally would truly know what she was doing!

(Okay, now that all the men here are nice and hard....)

Unregistered - good luck to you and your girlfriend. I hope it works out for you. Just remember to let her lead and use lots of lube. And of course, a full report first thing tomorrow morning!

 

[Guest]

lol (this is the same Unregistered) Sure thing! Will let you all on the juicy details tomorrow! ^_^

 

[Lorindellia]

Well, Lorin', you know there are those strap-ons! And a woman doing another woman anally would truly know what she was doing!

This thought hadn't occured to me until I read your words. Hummm. Maybe, I need a little coaxing or just a little wine.

Yours for the Moment,
Lorindellia

 

[jjflash1812]

I admit it ... ;-)

I love anal play.... There's actually a long tradition of this according to a book on Indian/Eastern sexual practices I bought...has all the instructions for a woman to gently and slowly insert her finger and massage the prostrate gland. . . This is called the "Anal Healing Massage" and (minus the prostrate of course) is done by both male and females. The book is "The Art of Sexual Ecstasy." Very informative. But I haven't really found a partner to explore this particular activity....I would like to!

stp

I love all kinds of anal play, but I can't say that I'm in the majority. Well, maybe with those women here on Lit, but none of my friends will even admit they like it. And forget a guy admitting he likes having his ass played with! Jeez, most of them won't admit they masturbate! Anyway, the whole anal sex thing is awesome if approached right. I actually prefer it missionary or with me lying horizonatally across the bed, legs kind of hanging off. That way I can play with my clit while I'm getting fucked. It feels so primal.

 

[Czarina]

As I said in my first posting here, I am a huge proponent of anal sex. I liked the advice given and think it will be helpful to many couples who have been wanting to try, but were afraid. I am fortunate to have had a great lover who introduced me to all things anal. I had not experienced anal play before meeting him, but he taught me all about the pleasures of licking and tonguing the anal area as a form of foreplay. He adored having his ass licked and touched. I really believe if more guys were willing to admit it, I think they would love having their ass licked. Just like the balls, the ass is a sensitive area that responds well to the warm, wet touch of the tongue.

 

[coaxme2you]

anal lust

Great Advice, SexyChele!!! I have had anal sex with some of my girlfriends in the past and I love it... It is hard to find a woman who will allow anal sex but with just the right touch and timing as you suggest, it can be done. And it will be an experience you will not believe for both of you. Each of the woman that was willing to be introduced to it came back for more.

Good luck unregistered!!!

Lorindellia, you say you need to be coaxed, who better to try and coax you then coaxyou2me?

coax

 

[Pan718]

MMmmm... such an erotic experience...

Being a bit on the thick side, I'd never had a woman believe we could manage / encourage anal... But this year a very sexy lady nearly demanded it... (and you know how easily led we men often are...)
It was wonderful... feeling her cumming again and again... the silky tight texture of her inner walls... so different than vagina... holding her against my chest... kissing the sensitive nape of her neck as I moved inside her... Mmmmmm.... I was careful and gentle until I was sure (by her riding me) that she could handle me... She's also the first lady to successfully deep throat me although she had to work up to it over a few months... I do love a persistent woman!

Anytime... Kiss

 

[Rambling Rose]

SexyChele...

you took the words right out of my mouth...every last one of them. Anal sex can be very pleasurable if done with care.