Authentic Power

[Princessintrng]

I am a Spiritualist (closely related to Buddhism), and I have been studying for several years. I am also a submissive. I was asked the other day by a friend of mine, "How can someone as strong and independent as you are, be willing to give up all your power and control in a relationship?" I have given it some thought and decided to share it here and see if any other submissives feel the same way or can offer other opinions.

I believe being comfortable with myself, my desires and my emotions, so comfortable that I can open them up to another person, and make the choice to submit to them is very important. With this choice comes great power and I believe authentic power, because it is only the power I possess and am willing to let go of that makes it possible for me to submit. I believe giving my submission shows a great deal of strength on my part.

 

[DarkTalon]

Hi Im not A sub Im a dom But I am Also a Spiritualist (For about 10 years now) And I agree With what you said But to take if further and show my veiw on the hole thing.

Ok My view is that being A domn or a Sub isn't about con troll att all But trust and strangth on both parts. (Witch im soon to find out) A sub has to trust their dom and have the strangt of iner peace to aloww the domn the controll. But the domn must show strangth in the fact that they do not harm the sub and still sow them some respect and apritation .Im ratteling now Im ganna shut up now . Just a point of View

 

[Princessintrng]

Dark Talon

Thanks for the input, and I am glad to see another practicing Spiritualist I live out here in the bible belt, and we are really rare around here.... I agree with you, Trust is a very big part of the D/s relationship, trust that your sub will be open and honest in communicating all his/her feelings, fears, desires and trust that your Dom will not abuse or take advantage of your submission.

 

[DarkTalon]

Hay we are rare down here in texas too. But I was glad to share my views with an oppend mind

 

[catalina_francisco]

I am a Spiritualist (closely related to Buddhism), and I have been studying for several years. I am also a submissive. I was asked the other day by a friend of mine, "How can someone as strong and independent as you are, be willing to give up all your power and control in a relationship?" I have given it some thought and decided to share it here and see if any other submissives feel the same way or can offer other opinions.

I believe being comfortable with myself, my desires and my emotions, so comfortable that I can open them up to another person, and make the choice to submit to them is very important. With this choice comes great power and I believe authentic power, because it is only the power I possess and am willing to let go of that makes it possible for me to submit. I believe giving my submission shows a great deal of strength on my part.

And yet another who is spiritulist in the Buddhist sense more so than anything else...and I agree with what you say. I think it is a point you arrive at in time where you are confident and at peace enough with who your authentic self is to not fear giving over control to another you know you can trust. I think if I had done this early in life I very well could have had doubts as to my own strengths and abilities without a Dominant to guide me etc., but having led a full life, survived some major traumas and situations and even triumphed over them in the worst of circumstances, I have no doubt about my strength and confidence with standing alone if I had to.

Catalina

 

[FungiUg]

I'm agnostic -- my own personal beliefs include elements of many things. My lover is more on the spiritualist side.

Having said all of that, I think being submissive takes a lot of strength and courage. It's not something that can be done well from a position of weakness.

 

[landcruisergal]

I'm agnostic -- my own personal beliefs include elements of many things. My lover is more on the spiritualist side.

Having said all of that, I think being submissive takes a lot of strength and courage. It's not something that can be done well from a position of weakness.

to quote a friend...
you can't take power from the powerless ...

ty quinntsensual

 

[Princessintrng]

to quote a friend...
you can't take power from the powerless ...

ty quinntsensual

Well put, I couldn't agree more.