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Shadowsdream
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Since I do a lot of computer work and have My ICQ open for many hours a day I recieve dozens of requests from both male and females looking for their first experiences. They never get past the first message if they come looking for slavery. Slavery is a state that one arrives at through submission in My opinion.
I believe that you will be more successful getting to first base by starting from the reality of submission.
That being said My next comment is *patience* and lots of it. Read as much information online as you can to determine if you are really interested in submission in or out of the bedroom. When you have made that determination you will know which kind of Dominants to approach. If you are just looking for casual play your best chances will occur at BDSM events and clubs where it is not unusual for casual in the moment play to occur and with positive emotions between the partners sometimes follow up can occur.
If you are looking for real training that will take your mind deeper than you can imagine your chances of success will increase with the pride you have in your submission.
If you are looking for real training past the bedroom I would advise that you never offer yourself on a first meeting and get the mistaken impression that you are making a Dominant think She or He is special. They will feel your desperation and will KNOW it is NOT Them you desire..but Their Domination. Which can be very insulting since We know you will be making the same offer to every Dominant you meet!
I believe that you will be more successful getting to first base by starting from the reality of submission.
That being said My next comment is *patience* and lots of it. Read as much information online as you can to determine if you are really interested in submission in or out of the bedroom. When you have made that determination you will know which kind of Dominants to approach. If you are just looking for casual play your best chances will occur at BDSM events and clubs where it is not unusual for casual in the moment play to occur and with positive emotions between the partners sometimes follow up can occur.
If you are looking for real training that will take your mind deeper than you can imagine your chances of success will increase with the pride you have in your submission.
If you are looking for real training past the bedroom I would advise that you never offer yourself on a first meeting and get the mistaken impression that you are making a Dominant think She or He is special. They will feel your desperation and will KNOW it is NOT Them you desire..but Their Domination. Which can be very insulting since We know you will be making the same offer to every Dominant you meet!
cymbidia
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That is very good, very impressively complete advice, Shadowsdream. I offer you a most sincere welcome to this forum.
If you would, please have a look at this thread (http://www.literotica.com/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=79591) wherein we're currently discussing the need for a more obvious and formalized set of standards of conduct here in this Forum. One thing of which there is little disagreement is that we don't allow personals ads here.
There are many places for BDSM-themed personals ads on the net; this is not one of them. I have personal experience, as do others here, of close-knit and viable communities like this one falling to pieces after the introduction and subsequent riotous overtaking of personals ads. We don't want them here.
Of course, someone posting here asking, "How do i begin to do what i've only dreamed about" is different than someone saying, "I am a sub and i want to find a Dom/me who will bind me and switch my butt with willow switches". Sometimes, however, there;s a really fine line between the two of them and in the end, we don't want personals ads here. We don't want them posted here and we don't want to respond to them here. When the moderators of the forum see such ads, they'll be made to magically disappear into another realm, nevermore to be visible in this forum.
Anyway, you sound experienced with online communities. You seem to have the kind of skin-to-skin experience that we most definitely dovetail our thoughts and words and advice and questions toward, and you're literate, to boot! If you'd like to peruse our rules-in-the-making thread, perhaps you could offer something we haven't yet discussed. (Or not. No pressure.)
Again, welcome to the BDSM forum at Lit, Shadowsdream.
cym
If you would, please have a look at this thread (http://www.literotica.com/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=79591) wherein we're currently discussing the need for a more obvious and formalized set of standards of conduct here in this Forum. One thing of which there is little disagreement is that we don't allow personals ads here.
There are many places for BDSM-themed personals ads on the net; this is not one of them. I have personal experience, as do others here, of close-knit and viable communities like this one falling to pieces after the introduction and subsequent riotous overtaking of personals ads. We don't want them here.
Of course, someone posting here asking, "How do i begin to do what i've only dreamed about" is different than someone saying, "I am a sub and i want to find a Dom/me who will bind me and switch my butt with willow switches". Sometimes, however, there;s a really fine line between the two of them and in the end, we don't want personals ads here. We don't want them posted here and we don't want to respond to them here. When the moderators of the forum see such ads, they'll be made to magically disappear into another realm, nevermore to be visible in this forum.
Anyway, you sound experienced with online communities. You seem to have the kind of skin-to-skin experience that we most definitely dovetail our thoughts and words and advice and questions toward, and you're literate, to boot! If you'd like to peruse our rules-in-the-making thread, perhaps you could offer something we haven't yet discussed. (Or not. No pressure.)
Again, welcome to the BDSM forum at Lit, Shadowsdream.
cym
