At long last!

[SweetCherry]

Well, it's finally happened. I've been having pretty bad marital problems for a couple years now. About 9 months ago, my hubby finally agreed that maybe he should move out. He kept telling me that for months and months. Well, it finally happened. He found a place to live.

I knew of someplace open and within his price range. I pointed it out to him, and within half an hour of me telling him, he'd agreed to take it. He's buying a small house and has promised to sign the house we are living in over to me and the kids. He's also apologized for being a jerk and refusing to help me pay the bills and support the kids for the past 6 months.

Some of you know that I'm living on disability and can't work. Well, if you know anything about SSD, you get a rather small amount once a month. It's just barely enough for me to cover the monthly bills and food for the kids. Anything extra I have to either take from my savings account or do without. He was trying to make me ask him for money, which due to my pride, I refused to do.

Well, he now sees all he did was make me more determined to make it on my own. And I will. He can start moving in the middle of next week, and is pretty much leaving me everything in the house. Only things he is planning on taking thus far is his clothes and personal items, extra furniture that's just sitting in the basement cluttering it up, the 2nd VCR, one of the 2 televisions (probably the big screen) and some of the day to day stuff.

I'm hoping he decides to leave the pc for a little while. My new one isn't here yet and I'd go insane without a link to the outside world. Once that's here, I'll get this one back in peak condition and let him take it willingly, so the kids can play computer games at daddy's house too.

Looks like things are finally going my way for a change.

 

[Simply Me]

That is so great Cherry! As I told you the other night, only good things are coming your way now. Keep smiling friend. Hugs to you..

 

[SweetCherry]

Thanks, Simply. It's all falling into place now. And after this morning with Draco, I doubt anything could take this smile from my face.

 

[april-wine]

Hugs cherry, good to see things are looking up.........Hope it all goes as planned......again hugs.....april

 

[Chuckus]

I don't know you Sweet Cherry but best of luck to you. I hope things work out amicably in your situation. I have seen it messy and I hope it goes smoothly.

Best of Luck and Glad to hear things are looking up.

 

[SweetCherry]

Thanks, April.

Chuckus, that's one of the resons I didn't make him leave before. I wanted him to see that he needed to do it, not think that I was pushing him out the door. We still do things together with the kids, because that's something that SHOULD be done. No matter what, he's their father and I would never take that from him, or from them either.

He still talks of a possible reconcilliation, but I don't ever see it. I have no love for him, just the typical concern for another human life that I feel for everyone in general. That is not enough, unfortunately, to build a marriage on.

 

[Chuckus]

Well I still hope things go well. Things can turn messy in a hurry.

I can't say I have been there and done that, because I kicked her ass out and took it all (EVERYTHING) and left her with squat ~ long story and she truly deserved what she got which was nothing ~ but I have seen them turn messy in an instant.

Just be mindful and watchful.

That is good that you both seem to want the kids to know both parents and spend time with both, that is so important.

Keep us posted, would ya?

 

[SweetCherry]

Will do, Chuckus. It's a long riad ahead, and not an easy one, but one that I'll gladly face if it gets me to the desired location.

 

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[SweetCherry]

Thanks, LL. I wish in the longrun things could have worked, but the drinking and gambling and the odd work hours he had just added up to more than I could take. I have finally learned that I'm a capable woman who can take care of myself. Might not want to all the time, but after 28 years of being taken care of by someone else, it's time I face it alone for a while.

The sex thing isn't really comperable with my situation. I've not had sex for a year, so I've long since forgotten what it's really like.

 

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[batter]

SweetCherry

i hope everything keeps going well for you.
i get the impression you are a very determined person, which is good to see.
wishing the very best for you and the children.
please, keep us posted on how you are doing.
hugs!

 

[lilminx]

Congrats and good luck Sometimes the decisions that work out the best are the hard ones...

 

[Fly_On_Wall]

Good luck SweetCherry, My parents had the same situation and it actualy worked out for the better. They get along a lot more now that they live in different houses (still married just haven't lived together in 5 years) My mom too is on Disability, that's why me and my brother still live with her.

But i'm sure you can make it without the help of others. And i'm sure things will just keep getting better now that he realises the situation he was putting you and himself through.

Lots of luck

 

[Renegade]

SweetCherry

That's great news to hear. Congrats and I'm very happy for you.

 

[Draco]

So...hubbys gone now...?
I take it your single and looking then...?
Ever thought of a kiwi for a lover..i know this guy whos available

 

[*bratcat*]

holy smokes!!!

 

[Debbie]

Hey Sweet cherry! Fantastic news. Look after yourself and kids.

Beta watch out for that Kiwi bloke. I just know you will have fun!

 

[SweetCherry]

So...hubbys gone now...?
I take it your single and looking then...?
Ever thought of a kiwi for a lover..i know this guy whos available

Hm, now that's a novel idea, Draco. So, tell me, what's this guy like then? He'd have to be pretty good for me to even consider him. Tho I've heard that kiwis are better lovers. Maybe you could arrange a meeting, say around xmas time. I'd like to have a big surprise to open on xmas morning.

And, yes, bratcat, Draco's very real. Trust me. My phone bill can attest to that.

And since Draco has drug this back up, yes, the hubby has moved out to his own place. The children and I are adjusting quite well to the change, tho it's not that much different than before with his habits of going out too much and his goofy work schedule. Thanks to all those who offered me support and advice. It's all been a great help.

Thanks also to my wonderful Draco, for all his support and guidance this past year and for his patience with me. I couldn't have done it without you, luv. You were my strength when I just wanted to die, and the one who always stood by me. I owe you more than I can ever repay, so instead, I offer you my heart and my love. I know you will value these more than any other material possession. Thank you also for your respect. It's given me the ability to grow and respect myself, something that I didn't know how to do til you came along. I am truly blessed to have you in my life.

I love you, Draco!

 

[Draco]

Aw shucks...SW..your words have brought tears to my eyes...
to all those that have offered kind wishes and regards...We both thank you...the folks at Lit have been one of the rocks in SW life over the past few difficult months...and to each and every one of you...My heartfelt thanks.

to all those that doubted...I am real...as real as they get!

Kind regards to All...DRACO (AKA Mike)