Asking the ladies: maybe I am over thinking it, but when rubbing a girls clit

[mrsexyman]

Is there a preferred direction when rubbing a girls clit, either during doggie style, or just oral or fooling sround: like circular, side to side, or up and down... Is it a personal preference thing? I want to make my girl cum as hard as possible...

Thanks...

 

[AmandaJane]

Is there a preferred direction when rubbing a girls clit, either during doggie style, or just oral or fooling sround: like circular, side to side, or up and down... Is it a personal preference thing? I want to make my girl cum as hard as possible...

Thanks...

I like counter clockwise around the hood, preferably with a tongue.

 

[MatthewVett]

Is there a preferred direction when rubbing a girls clit, either during doggie style, or just oral or fooling sround: like circular, side to side, or up and down... Is it a personal preference thing? I want to make my girl cum as hard as possible...

Thanks...

...Ask her? Or do it one way and see how much she purrs, then switch and listen again. Every girl is different.

 

[amofiga]

Some women like it up and down and some side to side and some circular, some want a little of all of the above depending on how things are progressing. Some like it very gentle and some like it with pressure. Usually you start gently and sometimes they want increased pressure as orgasm approaches. The thing is that dry rubbing is almost always a no-no. You need to use her own natural lube or your saliva or some other type lube. Think about your own cock. Dry rubbing is usually more of an irritation than a pleasure. In many ways, a clit is just a mini-cock. Think about how you like your cock handled, licked, sucked.

As someone else said, it's a personal preference and the best thing to to is ask, not a constant questioning of "is this good" sort of thing, but talk to her when you aren't actually in the heat of battle as it were to find out the things she likes and encourage her not to be embarrassed to tell you how to change it up while you're doing it if necessary. It'a all about communication and not about guess work. Women are like snowflakes, no two are alike.

 

[sunandshadow]

The most sensitive spot is on the underside of the clit, just like the spot under the head of a dick. But the u-spot an inch or two below the clit is also sensitive so you might want to visit down there occasionally.

 

[nayia]

I like it to start soft, and teasing. When I do it to myself I use circles, but I think any soft touch feels good. And not directly on it right away, start on the area around it and slowly slowly work your way towards it.

 

[mike2010fc]

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[LadyVer]

Everyone's different. What turns one woman on may do nothing for another...

 

[wellnow]

This is my favorite recreational activity, looking forward to the responses here! I'm also curious if there are any techniques for other places, like the part underneath (the vestibule I think?) or above/around the love button etc,

Mike

I'm with you Mike. If I have a choice of having sex or eating her pussy but not both, I'll go with eating pussy. No thought needed. I've found that women often have a hard time believing that.

 

[lynn-23]

I like sort of a circular motion, with the flat of his tongue, not the tip. Then when I get close to orgasm, i like it side to side. For getting started, I recommend a trick my husband uses, spell out the letters of the alphabet with your tongue. Sounds crazy, but drives me wild. Also, once reach the stage where I am really panting, I want thim to keep doing exactly what he is doing, do NOT change.

 

[cfuhrer]

What works for me:

Circular (actually almost ovals)
Clockwise.
Flats of finger, not tips
Steady, light pressure
Without getting faster or harder as I come.

We do lots of other stuff too but this is what works best for producing orgasms in my case.

 

[Saxon Stonedyke]

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[luvnmyboys]

I agree with the others - ask or watch how she responds. I'm a fan of circular or side to side. Up and down is uncomfortable for me. I like gentle- from just barely touching to soft pressure. I also agree that if you can see she is getting close, keep doing the exact same thing.

 

[sweetsoccermom]

Perfectly stated, same here ...
To really draw out the process, I like when he slips a few fingers inside and "brings up the wet" - we do this several times throughout - great tease, and natural hot lube.
In terms of position, I want to be on my back on the floor or other hard surface so I have to feel it all. This also makes for easy access to the nips

What works for me:

Circular (actually almost ovals)
Clockwise.
Flats of finger, not tips
Steady, light pressure
Without getting faster or harder as I come.

We do lots of other stuff too but this is what works best for producing orgasms in my case.

 

[sweetsoccermom]

indicators ...

Check for the squirm, twitch and hip moving factors. If she raises her hips, she likely wants more pressure. If she slides to the right, stay where you are, she is adjusting to you. (Kind of like if you are scratching someone's itchy back, but aren't quite at the right spot.) As others have stated, the verbal is a biggie, too!

 

[ratherabsurd1]

Very insightful .. It is true we are all different ..

 

[NightL]

Unless of course you want to delay or withhold orgasm.

...and get punched

 

[GiggLeGasm]

watch her masturbate.. she'll let you know by the way she touches herself

 

[othbndy]

Hi Lynn,

I loved your response to the question Mike asked about what is the right way to lick a clit. I've written a 'how to' on how to make love to a woman orally. If it gets accepted, would you be willing to read it and let me know what you think? It's my first time trying to get something published on here.

Dave

 

[superduff]

watch her masturbate.. she'll let you know by the way she touches herself

If my fiance did that, it wouldn't work. I don't know why. When it's me, it's side to side, when it's his fingers, it's up and down, when it's his tongue, it's a mix of circles and up and down.

 

[Sunship]

spell out the letters of the alphabet with your tongue.

Upper case or lower case?

 

[ThinkWrite]

Upper case or lower case?

I always seem to get best results with upper case - in cursive!

Especially with the "Q'