Ask the gynecologist is back after a hiatus.
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I think my first question would be: are you a certified gynecologist?
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Yeah. An MD? DO?
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University of Phoenix graduate at least?
Yeah I'm curious as well and I'm a guy. LOL!! I remember back when I was working that one of the guys in our marketing department who had "the look" of an MD and could adopt the demeanor by having a fair amount of knowledge and the right words used to love to tell women he met that he was a GYN. He was always trying to offer advice and free exams. As far as I know, he didn't find anyone who was naïve enough to go for it. Nice try though.
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I think it's better to enjoy this thread for what it is and not worry about credentials. We could all just go visit our gynecologist if we are that concerned.
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When I was younger, I used to say "If I was to practice medicine without a license, it would be gynecology."
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Actually, I think I still say that.
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Actually, I think I still say that.
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He has posted here before and the questions he answered publicly seemed to be legit. Some women for various reasons are uncomfortable asking their gyno/doctor certain questions.
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All the same, I think I'd like a little reassurance before I'd put much weight in the answers.
But if he/she is really is as labeled, I would assume that bigmahi would be up on the current literature and provide citations. That could be useful.
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Humm how does one legitimize their authenticity?
If you truly are a GYN then I have a legit question...for a friend... seriously!
My GF is recently divorced after 17 years of marriage. So back on the dating scene and now in our mid 40’s we are hit with the STD questions. Like after being manogamous to celibate for years she’s freaking out lack of knowledge and understanding.
Now I talk with my partners. And I have to trust they are not lying but even I am back in old school thinking about STD.
So yeah imagine she doesn’t have the relationship with her GYN to bring this up.
Where would you suggest is a legitimate place for her to research without being too much like a teenager scanning the internet for the first time
Assume college educated but not in medical line.
Thanks in advance! I await your response.
If you truly are a GYN then I have a legit question...for a friend... seriously!
My GF is recently divorced after 17 years of marriage. So back on the dating scene and now in our mid 40’s we are hit with the STD questions. Like after being manogamous to celibate for years she’s freaking out lack of knowledge and understanding.
Now I talk with my partners. And I have to trust they are not lying but even I am back in old school thinking about STD.
So yeah imagine she doesn’t have the relationship with her GYN to bring this up.
Where would you suggest is a legitimate place for her to research without being too much like a teenager scanning the internet for the first time
Assume college educated but not in medical line.
Thanks in advance! I await your response.
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hahahaha are you sure he isn't on here actually? I'm pretty sure I dated him for a while
yes, I'm apparently that naive. Dude did also have quite the brain and the demeanor to pull it off. Too bad he was more genuinely himself on reddit and whoops gave me his screenname there once. *snaps fingers* oh what a tangled web and all that. For the GYN if you are legit: my partner who I intend to meet in a few months is with a long term partner who has Herpes Simplex 2, yet he has never caught it from her despite open outbreaks etc. Because he has never ended up catching it (I keep thinking he has caught it he just doesnt have outbreaks) #1 is < that possible/probable?
#2 if he hasnt caught it, is it possible that he is resistant to it, and if so, would he likely be resistant to Herpes Simplex 1 as well?
#3 if he has caught it and doesnt have outbreaks for whatever reason would that be likely to occur with exposure to Herpes Simplex 1 as well?
Thank you in advance!
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Hell, I can answer this and I'm only a doctor of computer science...
Make them use a condom until they can produce proof that you can verify that they are disease free.
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Certainly condoms are one way of limiting the risk of STDs, but you might also suggest to your GF that she put relationship before sex. Just because a woman goes on a date with a man doesn't mean she has to go to bed with him. She could wait until trust is established.
Jumping in bed on the first date is a good way to contract an STD and condoms are not 100% I would suggest waiting until she knows him well enough to trust him.
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Wow... yall are are bizarre. Great advice, but it had nothing to do with the question asked. He was asking for REFERENCES and RESOURCES for her to get educated on. This is a good place to start: https://www.health.harvard.edu/diseases-and-conditions/sexually-transmitted-disease-at-my-age
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Ps. Worst day of my life having to walk into my GP's office to ask to be tested after finding my husband cheating on me. Been there. ♡ glad she has someone supportive around!
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Ps. Worst day of my life having to walk into my GP's office to ask to be tested after finding my husband cheating on me. Been there. ♡ glad she has someone supportive around!
No offense, but if you don't mind, I'll stick with my advice. If you don't want to get sick, don't hang around people who are sick.
But if all she want is information, use the same resource we all do, GOOGLE. It will give you more information than you can read in a month.
No offense meant.
But if all she want is information, use the same resource we all do, GOOGLE. It will give you more information than you can read in a month.
No offense meant.
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Plenty of people have caught STIs from partners they trusted, often from people they were married to. Not always through deception, either - plenty of folk with STIs have no idea they have them. Neither trust nor waiting till the n'th date will protect against that.
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Dude, I hope you were just trying to be funny
No. It's called safe sex. Ever hear about it?
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Wow... yall are are bizarre. Great advice, but it had nothing to do with the question asked. He was asking for REFERENCES and RESOURCES for her to get educated on. This is a good place to start: https://www.health.harvard.edu/diseases-and-conditions/sexually-transmitted-disease-at-my-age
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Angie
Ps. Worst day of my life having to walk into my GP's office to ask to be tested after finding my husband cheating on me. Been there. ♡ glad she has someone supportive around!
Thanks!
I think the men completely overlooked the fact that we ( my gf and I) are both women in our 40’s with kids as I stated.
And their answers are indicative of why men of non medical backgrounds should not be making health decisions.
Btw... after 20 years of having condomless sex.. it’s a bitch on a woman to to watch a man fumble around with the rubber. And if he didn’t do his job good enough to where I’m not as wet.. then we had had some issues.
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How old do you think I am? Why would I advise relationship before sex? Sometimes I have sex to see if the man is with my effort to start a relationship.
I’m not asking for judgement on our actions but advice on precautions to our actions.
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Yeah where there used to be a thing called fidelity.
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Thanks!
I think the men completely overlooked the fact that we ( my gf and I) are both women in our 40’s with kids as I stated.
And their answers are indicative of why men of non medical backgrounds should not be making health decisions.
Btw... after 20 years of having condomless sex.. it’s a bitch on a woman to to watch a man fumble around with the rubber. And if he didn’t do his job good enough to where I’m not as wet.. then we had had some issues.
Ps.
Great article! I actually read some in AARP about Sex after loss of a spouse. It’s pretty difficult for a lot of people. Cultural background to plays a big part in reluctance to have intimate discussions.
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Thanks!
I think the men completely overlooked the fact that we ( my gf and I) are both women in our 40’s with kids as I stated.
And their answers are indicative of why men of non medical backgrounds should not be making health decisions.
Btw... after 20 years of having condomless sex.. it’s a bitch on a woman to to watch a man fumble around with the rubber. And if he didn’t do his job good enough to where I’m not as wet.. then we had had some issues.
You are welcome! <3
I'm very glad it was useful.
Yeah.. I can imagine the troubles. I'm not there yet, myself, but I think I would struggle to keep a straight face.
If you need anything, even just to commiserate, my inbox is open. I'm in my mid 30s with a teenager and a grade schooler, so I can relate to a degree.
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Of course there is. It's still around for some of us. Married 48 years, never strayed. I've been around, grew up in the age of free love, etc.
Nowadays, you have to be careful and condom or dental dams are the only way until tests are run and confirmed.
I stand by my advice. And if you don't like the way he is handling the situation then put the thing on him yourself.
