AS PROMISED!!

[Big Willie]

OK try this one on for size.

I'm 18 and have met the girl of my dreams one year and 2 months ago. she is 17 less than a year younger in case you are wondering. Both of us know we are a perfect match, so I'm going to ask her to marry me. Picked out a ring, haven't bought it (me poor impovrished student!) its gold and a rock that puts Gibralter to shame, hell you may be invited to the big event, chances are you could go skating on it!!!! ok enough, its £2500.

AM I TOTALLY STUPID, i love her more than life and i want her more than anything but i'm kind of nervous i'm doing the wrong thing, but i'm following my heart(check out the new signiture!). IS the ring ok price wise, i'm new to this tell me everything.

Peace
BW

 

[CreamyLady]

The rule of thumb is that the ring costs no more than three months' salary. That particular ring is far too expensive for you.

My own opinion is that you are very young, far too young, to even think of a commitment of this sort. However, everyone is different.

Would it really hurt to wait another year or so?

 

[sallygirl]

Oh Willie, don't you know that size doesn't matter? LOL
Seriously, don't stress over the ring. It's a symbol of love and committment. Don't put yourself in debt for years to try to impress her. I know I would prefer something small and elegant to something big and showy, and I'm sure your sweetie would too.

Getting married is a HUGE decision, especially for someone so young. The ring should be the least of your worries.

 

[Skitten]

Willie; The size and the price of the ring really shouldn't matter. My feeling for you is if you are both totally committed to each other. Why not wait until you are both settled in your relationship as well as in your lives as individuals. You need to be settled in a job as well as she should be too. It takes a lot to make a marriage work love has a lot to do with it. As well as commitment and you haven't been going out that long to know what each other wants out of life and how you both feeling about the future and what you want in your life. So I think that dating a little longer could only help your relationship grow stronger. Take some time getting to know one another and really see how committed you are to one another don't rush into something you both may not be ready for. Go to college and get a degree in something, that way you know that you will have a decent job and be able to both have the things you want. And also proving to her family that you want what is best for her. Good luck to you.

 

[Big Willie]

well i'm already at university going into my second year. Hannah has been accepted into scotlands top university to study english.
As for commitment, well true we haven't been together that long, but we see each other as much as possible. its like a full time job!!! and i like it!

 

[Earthgoddess]

Willie take some time-the old phrase measure ten times cut once,comes to mind-I rushed into marriage with the man I adored,and we were too young-we divorced and went through some crazy times we are back together now-and hapily re-married, but it took 7 years...and BTW my ring cost $29, both times my ring was less than 30(American Dollars).
enjoy and grow in deeper love before you jump into a committment,nuture it and let it blossom. Best of Luck.