As a budding submissive did you wonder

[WriterDom]

if you would like spanking/flogging/whipping type play or did you instinctively know you would? And how was your first experience?

 

[intothewoods]

It was so many years ago, I have no idea if I'll remember.

I had no idea if I would like it, and thought I probably wouldn't. I'm not so into pain. More and more, it's all about the power exchange for me - or more accurately, control. I like to be controlled. I like him, or her when I've played with women, to have the control. Dispensing pain, dishing it out, etc., can be a way of showing who's in charge. Other than that, it just fucking hurts.

 

[Netzach]

As a budding Dominant I doubted I would, but who knew?

 

[nh23]

if you would like spanking/flogging/whipping type play or did you instinctively know you would? And how was your first experience?

I am grounded in reality..sometimes to a fault. I knew that I liked the idea that I would be spanked/flogged etc..but I had no idea if the fantasy would live up to the reality. The first time I experienced it... it lived up to the reality for sure. My first experience was amazing. I was spanked and had a cane and a crop used on me. I was fortunate enough that I experienced subspace the first time. After my first experience I knew that the thoughts I had were not just a passing fancy, or a fantasy..it was who I am. A part of me that I have to have in my life.

 

[Rox_shybutcurious]

if you would like spanking/flogging/whipping type play or did you instinctively know you would? And how was your first experience?

I had a feeling I would, do to a variety of self explorations over the years, but I wasn't sure about actually experiencing it from another person. I found I enjoyed it very much.

I haven't had a chance to do much experimenting since that time, but I'm hoping I'll get to learn more and see where it all leads me at some point.

 

[catalina_francisco]

I felt instinctively I would love it, but being the cautious and thorough creature I was, I opted to bottom to some who offered to allow me to experience it and find out for real. My first experience entailed, spanking, followed by a wooden paddle, followed by a crop, followed by a flogger, and then a hairbrush to top it off. I was black and blue for about a week and within minutes of it stopping, begging for more...thus began the hunger which never seems to go away, the itch that can't always be scratched in just the right way but loves trying.

Catalina

 

[WriterDom]

I was paddled in high school once and I don't remember liking any part of it.

 

[BiaTcHiNFiRe]

I was paddled in high school once and I don't remember liking any part of it.

*chuckles*

I've never experienced a spanking from a Dom and from someone else either. The only spanking I ever had was the one I was told to give myself some time ago and I can say just this: 'I FUKIN LOVED IT!!' So I know if I will ever get this in real I will enjoy it real bad, way much more than when I do it to my self. If the belt was in hand of my Sir OMG I would get pwned so bad lol. I had my ass nicely red just as SexyCatz has it on her AV.

It was incredible feelin and from that time I crave it and long for it. Anytime I see the belt now I am tempted to give myself few lashes with it and I damn wish my Sir could bend me over his knee and give my ass a nice work out with it. Well not just to my ass lol, to my thighs, pussy and breasts as well!!

The first time he wanted me to use it on myself I laughed, but my Sir changed my mind and made me respect the belt. It's one of a less things that have my attention when I am about to being punished cuz I know the pain can be pretty intense and I always get as much as needed to change my attitude or the way I behave at times.

I have a heavy army belt and it just do its job even if I try to be soft with it lol, not like my Sir allowe me to be gentle to myself when I need a lesson. I like it while play, but I fear it when I have misbehave yes. Both times it makes me dripping, but only the play time its a pleasure as well. While being punished with its just a torture. Deserved one but still tortue cuz it gets me damn hot, but theres no chance to get some release. It always break the bitch I surely am at times.

 

[myinnerslut]

actually, on my very first list of limits, i put whips and floggers. as a budding submissive (yeah, i know, cuase it was soooo long ago) i was very unsure as to what i would like.

 

[WriterDom]

actually, on my very first list of limits, i put whips and floggers. as a budding submissive (yeah, i know, cuase it was soooo long ago) i was very unsure as to what i would like.

But you like them now?

 

[NALA CAYENNE]

I've always felt that I would love it and when I finally got my first experience of being spanked, flogged, cropped and caned, while I did squirm quite a bit towards the end, it was the most erotic experience ever.

I was almost upset when my bruises went away and now I want more

 

[rida]

When I was first given my Limit List to fill out, I marked almost everything involving pain as a hard limit, with few things like ass spanking/light flogging and breast torture as something I would accept just to please my Hubby, but that I would not like. So Hubby was nice and just gave me few swats and a little flogging once in a while. Did not like the pain, and would actually enrage me, but somewhat didn't mind the tingling left in my butt. And from time to time I would wiggle my butt up for a couple of swats.

Fast forward to a month or so ago, when I finally embraced my submissive nature and started researching it more and joined Lit. Went over the list and all the spanking/flogging/caning are now in the want/wish to try list. I still do not like pain ... but for some reason I have been craving a good spanking/flogging and wish to taste the cane.

Finally dared admitting it to Hubby a few weeks back and got myself a nice ass spanking. Did I like it? I am not sure. Did it made me hot? I am not sure. Did it turn me off? No. Did I want more? Hell yes! and I want to try knew implements *grin*

So, no I didn't know I would like it. Actually I thought I would not. And I still cannot say I like it. But for some reason that I am not sure about, I crave it.
The closest reason I can think of is that it allows me to feel the rage and anger I bottle up, and that I like the sense of awareness I am left with when I feel my butt tingling afterwards. And of course, I love how hot & pleased Hubby gets when he does it.

 

[SubKekiLee]

if you would like spanking/flogging/whipping type play or did you instinctively know you would? And how was your first experience?

As a budding submissive I wasnt sure what I would like the Dom I played with didnt give me a choice... and the one who has me now he asked me where I like things but it is not my decision.. it is ultamately his decison. But as yall know from a previous AV i dont mind getting flogged and spanked with a blet, wooden spoon whatever is handy..

 

[HB1965]

I started spanking myself as a kid, and it just grew from there

 

[myinnerslut]

But you like them now?

yes. please. but A doesnt use them often, prefering to use his own hand of whatever he happens to pick up from around the room.

 

[JupitersGirl]

I started spanking myself as a kid, and it just grew from there

Ewww! Really?

I actually was afraid of the pain, but when the pain began to combine with the control, it took on a totally different meaning for me.

I still can't spank myself though.

 

[HB1965]

Ewww! Really?

I actually was afraid of the pain, but when the pain began to combine with the control, it took on a totally different meaning for me.

I still can't spank myself though.

Yeah I used to use differnent things to spank myself with. One was a bamboo cane. Well I suppose you could say I was actually caning myself

 

[EmpressFi]

I think I just always knew.. I knew I'd like it.. I didnt know if I could stand as much pain as I thought, hoped, I would

 

[madetotakeit]

Although I haven't experienced in more than a Kinky sex aspect in a vanilla world, I had never really though it would be something I would enjoy. The spanking I didn't, but that was more the context. In another situation it would certainly have it's appeal. I'm not sure what category this would fall under-I'm still learning correct terminology. He took a thick silken upholstery cord and knotted it halfway down the length, the rest was unraveled and each cord knotted at the end. It's touch could be either sensual or stinging. That was the first time my inner self made noise. "Hello, what's this? Can I have more?" unfortunately even though I referred to that night and other things that we did as being so incredibly. Not so subtle hints that I had never been so turned on, etc. He never had the desire to repeat or go any further. So in a nutshell, I didn't know I would, but I definitely found out!

 

[subkitty72]

i did wonder / worry about this.

i'd had masochistic fantasies from the time i was a very young child (i blame the children of Fatima, dammit. lol. long story) and i wanted to feel available for that kind of use.

But i didn't know if i would actually be able to handle the physical sensations.

i've done pretty well, but i am a sissy about some things, which is a drag because i want to earn my pony girl tail and well, let's just say, i squandered a good opportunity.

 

[snowy ciara]

Interesting questions, WriterDom.

I already knew that I liked pain before I became sexually aware. So when I began mentally exploring my submissive side, I knew that I craved pain in sexual way but I never really thought a lot about how I'd like to receive it. I did have the Victorian schoolgirl fantasies but I also had the torture/interrogation ones. The method of the pain wasn't a really important focal point of the fantasy.

When I began taking the steps out into the real world, bdsm wise, I suspected that I'd like pain, but spanking didn't really interest me in a real life sort of way. I was more looking forward to flogging, and to a lesser extent, strapping. Caning scared the snot out of me and still does. I enjoyed flogging as much as I thought I would, but I don't really enjoy OTK spanking. Because OTK spanking has an element of humiliation to it (in my mind) which does not turn me on. Implement spanking is sometimes enjoyable, but it comes down to context. I like the pain, but the mental component is as important as the pain component. If they're not gelling, it doesn't work well for me. I think part of my disconnect is while I do fantasize about certain scenarios, I/we don't role play. I may wank to the idea of the Evil School Marm drilling multiplication tables the hard way, but when it comes to the bedroom, it's me and Ms. T and the multiplication tables are a pervotic tool for mutual satisfaction.

Nowadays, I love a good flogging, followed by a leather strap or tause. I may want to explore whips or canes eventually, but I'm incredibly ambivalent about them. Sometimes I think it'd be okay, but then at other times, I don't want it at all. From what my Domme has said, the decision may be out of my hands at some point in the near future.

I hope that answered your question and that it made sense.

 

[the captians wench]

I was curious about pain play before I was willing to be a submissive. My first bdsm experience, I was sitting in the shop that sold my costumes with a girl who was "employed" there (ie she was such a regular they left the shop in her care some times, she worked with out pay). Her and I were just talking, found out we had a lot in common. Married right out of highschool, devorced/seperated 3 years later, and the subject turned to fantasy. I mentioned some of the things in the shop that I was curious about, and she mentioned knife play. That made me drool, but I told her that my ex was not into these things at all, and I'dnever even been teased with a knife. Just then one of the guys (another regular turned "employee") walks past. She looks up at him "J. wenchie's never been teased with a blade" (handing him her throwing knives)"isn't that sad" He grins and says "come here wenchie"

Next thing I know I am standing there in pure heaven, in the middle of the shop with him standing behind me, his arm wrapped around me holding me close, and the other hand tracing the blade along my exposed flesh. When he reached a certain spot on my neck I blurted out "R's my new best friend" totally mindlessly. They got a good chuckle out of it, and we still laugh about it now. She also got me my first spanking/flogging/caning provided by the same guy.

I loved the experience. The next one was with breath play. Then I started into the floggers paddles, canes, and whips. It was a few months after that that I started to toy with the idea of taking my submissive nature into a relationship.

 

[FurryFury]

Yes, I wondered. No, I didn't instinctively know. I knew I loved it in fantasy so very, very much that it was rather mind blowing to me.

That's why I told my husband I might in fact, turn around and slap the shit out of him if he tried. Well, I guess that worked (though I was only trying to be honest, not challenge him) because to my surprise, he tried and I loved it.

 

[catalina_francisco]

I was curious about pain play before I was willing to be a submissive. My first bdsm experience, I was sitting in the shop that sold my costumes with a girl who was "employed" there (ie she was such a regular they left the shop in her care some times, she worked with out pay). Her and I were just talking, found out we had a lot in common. Married right out of highschool, devorced/seperated 3 years later, and the subject turned to fantasy. I mentioned some of the things in the shop that I was curious about, and she mentioned knife play. That made me drool, but I told her that my ex was not into these things at all, and I'dnever even been teased with a knife. Just then one of the guys (another regular turned "employee") walks past. She looks up at him "J. wenchie's never been teased with a blade" (handing him her throwing knives)"isn't that sad" He grins and says "come here wenchie"

Next thing I know I am standing there in pure heaven, in the middle of the shop with him standing behind me, his arm wrapped around me holding me close, and the other hand tracing the blade along my exposed flesh. When he reached a certain spot on my neck I blurted out "R's my new best friend" totally mindlessly. They got a good chuckle out of it, and we still laugh about it now. She also got me my first spanking/flogging/caning provided by the same guy.

I loved the experience. The next one was with breath play. Then I started into the floggers paddles, canes, and whips. It was a few months after that that I started to toy with the idea of taking my submissive nature into a relationship.

Hmmm, now that brought a smile to my dial...so much I had to stop being so lazy and post it to the calendar thread.

Catalina

 

[Stegral]

if you would like spanking/flogging/whipping type play or did you instinctively know you would? And how was your first experience?

I instinctivly knew I wouldn't
Coming from a very abusive childhood (physical & mental) I wince even watching a flogging, cower hearing a whip or crop singing in the air & flinch if I hear spankings/paddlings being administered.
the Top I am involved with for well over a year now has only JUST recently added in VERY light & only a few spankings per ass cheek during play to bring me down a bit.
During our 3 hr negotiation chat he realized I am going to take alot of work & patience, unfortunately I need more than he has time for, with work (he is military & is gone alot) & his G/F (who is kink friendly).
A very wonderful Pro Domme in the play group has sat with me & showed me all the different floggers (soft deerskin to actual rubber) She has & I paniced when I eventually had her put the deerskin one ever so LIGHTLY across my shoulderblade, no force or real swing behind it at all.

even when I "Top" to people that enjoy this type of play I find I have to be in a very sadistic frame of mind to do it. I can crop easier than I can cane & will ONLY use a denim flogger... (I know... I am a wussy Domme). My first attempt I ended up feeling VERY ill & wanted to puke.
Thankfully the Domme that was instructing me was ok with finishing off the subbie chained to the cross when I needed to leave very suddenly.

looking back tho I realize if I know I am getting them I can block everything.
I was seeing a fella & somehow I had "accumulated 100 spanks" & he was going to give them.
I laid over his knee & counted them all rather dryly...
He was NOT impressed & we seperated soon after.