Articulate and Arousing Connection

[Whimsical_Enchantress]

I find deep conversations a turn on. This mature, passionate woman is beyond intrigued at your thoughts and perceptions about life or subjects where we may share the same interest. I adore someone who likes challenging my thoughts. Exchanging our ideas and opinions via a debate allows for a deeper connection, and I desire someone who expands their mind and passions instead of shying away from the subject. I seek a connection online with individuals who show eagerness to share their knowledge while tempting or enticing me.

I am looking for someone who wants more than just a physical attraction. You may look good, but if you can't engage in exciting conversation, my time is better spent elsewhere. I enjoy and seek a slow-building attraction which increases as I learn more about you. Let's take our time learning about each other, which helps each of us ease into the relationship. I admire someone who can keep their cool in stressful situations. I like someone who uses their intellect to solve problems.

Please respond in this thread or PM if you would like to connect.

 

[theeonanist]

I find deep conversations a turn on. This mature, passionate woman is beyond intrigued at your thoughts and perceptions about life or subjects where we may share the same interest. I adore someone who likes challenging my thoughts. Exchanging our ideas and opinions via a debate allows for a deeper connection, and I desire someone who expands their mind and passions instead of shying away from the subject. I seek a connection online with individuals who show eagerness to share their knowledge while tempting or enticing me.

I am looking for someone who wants more than just a physical attraction. You may look good, but if you can't engage in exciting conversation, my time is better spent elsewhere. I enjoy and seek a slow-building attraction which increases as I learn more about you. Let's take our time learning about each other, which helps each of us ease into the relationship. I admire someone who can keep their cool in stressful situations. I like someone who uses their intellect to solve problems.

Please respond in this thread or PM if you would like to connect.

Best of luck finding whom you seek, WE. There are some good people on here.

To thine own self be true.

 

[Whimsical_Enchantress]

Best of luck finding whom you seek, WE. There are some good people on here.

To thine own self be true.

Thank you, that's very kind of you!! . Wishing you much happiness and a fabulous weekend!!

 

[Magineer]

A "physical attraction"..? On here..?

Would there be a teensy need for a reality check here or am I missing something?

Just "using my intellect", you understand...

 

[Whimsical_Enchantress]

A "physical attraction"..? On here..?

Would there be a teensy need for a reality check here or am I missing something?

Just "using my intellect", you understand...

You could just be attracted to visual, thus, a visceral physical reaction. Thereby, a physical "attraction." I know, men and women are never like that? . I'm still searching the abyss. *Winks, I am cheeky.*

 

[theeonanist]

A "physical attraction"..? On here..?

Would there be a teensy need for a reality check here or am I missing something?

Just "using my intellect", you understand...

“Sexy” is in the mind. Sexy is attractive. Attractiveness is in the mind.

My lover is gorgeous, I knew this before she sent me any pics and if she looked like the back of a bus I’d still fancy the pants off of her because everything she does is as sexy af. Luckily, to my eyes, she’s as gorgeous to look at as to chat to.

 

[Magineer]

You could just be attracted to visual, thus, a visceral physical reaction. Thereby, a physical "attraction." I know, men and women are never like that? . I'm still searching the abyss. *Winks, I am cheeky.*

My point is that you seem to be implying the possibility of physical attraction over the internet. I would dispute the suggestion. The vast majority of people need personal presence to have any "physical attraction" worth the name. Even if it were remotely possible via, say, pictures and the like, any thinking individual would always and inevitably be cautioning themselves against the possibility of these being stolen or... of "some antiquity", as turns out all too frequently to be the case. Sexual titillation, to which the above poster is alluding, is of course a related but separate matter.

Let's be frank, in the specific case of Literotica, a majority of the people parading themselves as female on here are actually males. It's as bad as that!

 

[KatieDoes]

My point is that you seem to be implying the possibility of physical attraction over the internet. I would dispute the suggestion. The vast majority of people need personal presence to have any "physical attraction" worth the name. Even if it were remotely possible via, say, pictures and the like, any thinking individual would always and inevitably be cautioning themselves against the possibility of these being stolen or... of "some antiquity", as turns out all too frequently to be the case. Sexual titillation, to which the above poster is alluding, is of course a related but separate matter.

Let's be frank, in the specific case of Literotica, a majority of the people parading themselves as female on here are actually males. It's as bad as that!

It’s not easy to find the right fit, but it’s possible for that sort of connection to be made here. Especially once you reach the point of trusting someone enough to participate in live cam with them. Sometimes geography and a global pandemic make that all you’re able to do for a while, but it’s still very real.


- and yes…MANY of the ‘women’ here are absolutely men. That isn’t going to be as much of an issue for this poster, as she’s seeking a man. Her challenge will be weeding through the riffraff and finding the good one(s).

 

[MrMikelobe1952]

Physical attraction over the internet

I think that the Enchantress is absolutely correct that on-line relationships can and usually do include a component of physical attraction.
I have been "playing" on line occasionally, on and off, since the early days of the internet.

At first, cyber-sex consisted almost exclusively of the exchange of messages. (Excruciatingly slowly, at that.) Even then, messages would include exchanges of descriptions of physical characteristics. Not to mention the ubiquitous "what are you wearing?" Of course, the participants would be free to lie, but the point of the descriptions was to create an element of physical attraction, albeit through the use of words rather than visuals.

Phone sex would include similar descriptions of physical characteristics. And I would posit that hearing the voice of someone sharing arousal with you is a form of physical attraction. But I suppose that is a matter of semantics.

But now, any on-line relationship using any messaging or video platform will almost inevitably involve the use of visuals for stimulation. This is clearly a form of physical attraction.

Of course, none of this involves touch (well, other than touching oneself). But when I think if physical attraction, I think of being drawn to a woman by her appearance, or the way she carries herself, or, yes, by the sound of her voice. And of course, an enchantress can do powerful things with her voice.

But it is also true, as the Enchantress has said, that communication and a mental connection usually must precede the physical, especially in an online relationship.

 

[Alostsoul]

My two cents...

I cant speak for everyone but what I am looking for online isn't always a physical attraction. And being a shy guy I do get self conscious but I hide it well. The thing I have gotten from other online relationships in a cathartic release of stree. I think if done right online bond can be stronger than in life ones. I like online connections because I choose to think that the other person values my opinions, feelings etc. At one point an online friendship was the only thing to stop me from hurting myself. The things I get are acceptance, non judgemental honest genuine care. Ok sorry to rant. Oooo I hope everyone here has a good day and I just wanna say with the world being crazy I love being here.

 

[theeonanist]

I cant speak for everyone but what I am looking for online isn't always a physical attraction. And being a shy guy I do get self conscious but I hide it well. The thing I have gotten from other online relationships in a cathartic release of stree. I think if done right online bond can be stronger than in life ones. I like online connections because I choose to think that the other person values my opinions, feelings etc. At one point an online friendship was the only thing to stop me from hurting myself. The things I get are acceptance, non judgemental honest genuine care. Ok sorry to rant. Oooo I hope everyone here has a good day and I just wanna say with the world being crazy I love being here.

Didn’t seem like a rant to me. Sounded very much like my experience.

I sincerely hope you are past hurting yourself and in a much better place now. I know I am. Thank you Lit.

 

[cutcrystal]

Impressed...

...to an extent which had me sending a PM. And I can confirm from my own experience that what you envisage can and does happen...

 

[Whimsical_Enchantress]

“Sexy” is in the mind. Sexy is attractive. Attractiveness is in the mind.

My lover is gorgeous, I knew this before she sent me any pics and if she looked like the back of a bus I’d still fancy the pants off of her because everything she does is as sexy af. Luckily, to my eyes, she’s as gorgeous to look at as to chat to.

That's really beautiful, you understood what I was trying to convey!! . Thank you for expressing it so well!!

 

[Whimsical_Enchantress]

...to an extent which had me sending a PM. And I can confirm from my own experience that what you envisage can and does happen...

I appreciate others who share similar thoughts and ideas; I was trying to express the importance of stimulating the mind, and the body.

 

[Whimsical_Enchantress]

That is truly a realization that others feel similarly, it's ok if others do not. As I always say, "Do what works and is right for you, I'm trying to be honest with my desires and needs, and do overall, what I want and need." I hope everyone finds their happiness!!

 

[theeonanist]

That is truly a realization that others feel similarly, it's ok if others do not. As I always say, "Do what works and is right for you, I'm trying to be honest with my desires and needs, and do overall, what I want and need." I hope everyone finds their happiness!!

This is beautiful WE. I truly hope you find who you’re looking for too.

 

[Whimsical_Enchantress]

This is beautiful WE. I truly hope you find who you’re looking for too.

It's been rather difficult, my friend, because people appear not to read the POST. Rather they view pictures and my words in threads, and assume they "KNOW" what I want or can change my mind. But, what I have learned is that it is them underestimating my intellect and knowing myself. Truly though, sadly, it makes them appear selfish and obtuse. Do people even look deeper at someone or their words? Hmmm.....here's a quotation I ponder, "So many men think women want money, cars, and gifts. But the right woman wants a man's time, effort, passion, honesty, loyalty, smile, and him choosing to put her as his priority." - Charles Orlando

 

[theeonanist]

It's been rather difficult, my friend, because people appear not to read the POST. Rather they view pictures and my words in threads, and assume they "KNOW" what I want or can change my mind. But, what I have learned is that it is them underestimating my intellect and knowing myself. Truly though, sadly, it makes them appear selfish and obtuse. Do people even look deeper at someone or their words? Hmmm.....here's a quotation I ponder, "So many men think women want money, cars, and gifts. But the right woman wants a man's time, effort, passion, honesty, loyalty, smile, and him choosing to put her as his priority." - Charles Orlando

Don’t give up hope WE, he’s out there. On a few posts today I’ve seen the best and and worst of my gender. (Not that it’s confined to men, women can be assholes too, but we’re focusing on men here).

Yes there are complete arseholes, yes there are the arrogants with their male entitlement and yes there are the selfish and stubborn, but there are lots and lots of good men out there. The ones that “get you” from the off are the ones that are worth pursuing. So think of your post as a filter. If they just see your sexy avatar and think “I want some of that” without taking the trouble to find out what you want, then you’ve dodged a bullet. It might mean few men self qualify, but when (not if, but when) you’ll at least have a good basis for a potential match. The rest will be up to both of you.

Best of luck

 

[MrMikelobe1952]

It's been rather difficult, my friend, because people appear not to read the POST. Rather they view pictures and my words in threads, and assume they "KNOW" what I want or can change my mind. But, what I have learned is that it is them underestimating my intellect and knowing myself. Truly though, sadly, it makes them appear selfish and obtuse. Do people even look deeper at someone or their words? Hmmm.....here's a quotation I ponder, "So many men think women want money, cars, and gifts. But the right woman wants a man's time, effort, passion, honesty, loyalty, smile, and him choosing to put her as his priority." - Charles Orlando

I felt that I tried to listen and respond to what you had to say. Yes, I was attracted to your body and the way in which you have displayed it, but I thought my messages were also responsive to your words.

 

[MacGuffinn]

Nerdalicious

Let's see. If you had to choose between films and source material, would you keep the Iron Man comics, Superman comics, Dune novels, and the Philip K. Dick books or all those flicks?

 

[Whimsical_Enchantress]

Let's see. If you had to choose between films and source material, would you keep the Iron Man comics, Superman comics, Dune novels, and the Philip K. Dick books or all those flicks?

I would keep Iron Man Comics and the Dune Novels; I appreciate the debate here, and truly hear the honesty. I hope you ALL find or have what you seek! Sending everyone much happiness and sincere kindness!!

 

[MacGuffinn]

I would keep Iron Man Comics and the Dune Novels; I appreciate the debate here, and truly hear the honesty. I hope you ALL find or have what you seek! Sending everyone much happiness and sincere kindness!!

All right, let's go a mite further. Where would you land: Star Trek, Babylon 5, Red Dwarf, or Farscape? And... why?

 

[Superman2008]

I find deep conversations a turn on. This mature, passionate woman is beyond intrigued at your thoughts and perceptions about life or subjects where we may share the same interest. I adore someone who likes challenging my thoughts. Exchanging our ideas and opinions via a debate allows for a deeper connection, and I desire someone who expands their mind and passions instead of shying away from the subject. I seek a connection online with individuals who show eagerness to share their knowledge while tempting or enticing me.

I am looking for someone who wants more than just a physical attraction. You may look good, but if you can't engage in exciting conversation, my time is better spent elsewhere. I enjoy and seek a slow-building attraction which increases as I learn more about you. Let's take our time learning about each other, which helps each of us ease into the relationship. I admire someone who can keep their cool in stressful situations. I like someone who uses their intellect to solve problems.

Please respond in this thread or PM if you would like to connect.

Ahhh, where have you been hiding?!? I NEED deep conversation, I can't have anything with anyone unless they can make me think, smile, and laugh. I want the idea of talking to you to excite me on many levels, a slow burn always creates the best FIRE.

Life is too short to settle for anything less than that.

 

[NC_Coastal]

It’s not easy to find the right fit, but it’s possible for that sort of connection to be made here. Especially once you reach the point of trusting someone enough to participate in live cam with them. Sometimes geography and a global pandemic make that all you’re able to do for a while, but it’s still very real.


- and yes…MANY of the ‘women’ here are absolutely men. That isn’t going to be as much of an issue for this poster, as she’s seeking a man. Her challenge will be weeding through the riffraff and finding the good one(s).

I agree with you there, Katie. Who would think that geography would matter in an online relationship? Simply put, time zones matter.

 

[Whimsical_Enchantress]

Ahhh, where have you been hiding?!? I NEED deep conversation, I can't have anything with anyone unless they can make me think, smile, and laugh. I want the idea of talking to you to excite me on many levels, a slow burn always creates the best FIRE.

Life is too short to settle for anything less than that.

Please send me a message, then.