Are your memories accurate and true to the events?

[Five_Inch_Heels]

When you remember something from years ago and play it back in your head, do you remember it the way it really was, or the way you wish it could have been?

Let's say it was with another person and it didn't go well, but you wish it had. Do you remember the bickering and fighting or do you sort of sugarcoat it and remember it less bad than it was?

 

[allateup]

When you remember something from years ago and play it back in your head, do you remember it the way it really was, or the way you wish it could have been?

Let's say it was with another person and it didn't go well, but you wish it had. Do you remember the bickering and fighting or do you sort of sugarcoat it and remember it less bad than it was?

What did you do with the body?

 

[Hypoxia]

The best memories are carefully edited.

I remember what my first spouse looked, felt, smelled, tasted like. I vaguely remember their voice. I have edited-out everything they said. I do not need those words now.

I try not to fool myself by twisting my memories. I remember my fuckups all too well. I may rewrite my failures as stories: speculations, extrapolations, what-ifs. But I'm quite aware of facts, fictions, fantasies, and fuckups.

Fooling others is fine. Fooling yourself is foolish.

 

[VaticanAssassin]

The more often you remember a event the more likely it is not accurate.

Memories are not from the actual event, but from the last time you remembered it....

 

[Noor]

I was worried about that, so I wrote stuff down after Byron died. I have many chats, videos from his friends, some voice mails, a few letters, emails I wrote after he did something that was just so him. However, I really wish I had a journal from my time with him.

I try to write things down the first time I remember them so they are somewhat accurate.

Recently, I discovered that he put his bestie's birthday in my calendar. I had forgotten that I had given him access to it. When I saw it, I remembered the day I did that because he said "you, you move around... a lot, I never know where. What if you are lost or something?"

My having an erratic schedule and driving in snow storms unsettled him, this way he at least knew where I was planning to be and if I was there.

I also gave him access to my GPS. Both things worked out to my advantage.

I wonder if I should write down the bad stuff as I remember, although most of the bad stuff I have a written record of already.

 

[bronzeage]

When you remember something from years ago and play it back in your head, do you remember it the way it really was, or the way you wish it could have been?

Let's say it was with another person and it didn't go well, but you wish it had. Do you remember the bickering and fighting or do you sort of sugarcoat it and remember it less bad than it was?

I've had some good times and some bad times. With time, I'm able to remember both and understand what made the good times good and what made the bad times bad.

There are some times that I replay, over and over again.

 

[Hypoxia]

I have kept diaries and a travel blog.

"If you don't write it down it never happened."

Those help keep some memories on track.

But yes, we synthesize our memories.

Sometimes the chemistry is wrong.

 

[removed9556]

 

[Starscream_UK]

I'm pretty certain the memories of my alien abduction are kosher...I mean, what else could they be...???

 

[Five_Inch_Heels]

I tend to re-script many of mine. I can clearly see the places and faces and most of the circumstances, but the dialog changes dramatically.

Or, I'll change the events using those same faces and places. Twist them more into fantasies than memories I guess.


The reality is that the memories suck in a really big way.

 

[Sean]

How could I possibly know?

 

[removed9556]

 

[NOIRTRASH]

There are no such things as memories.


“If our view of memory is correct, in higher organisms every act of perception is, to some degree, an act of creation, and every act of memory is, to some degree, an act of imagination.”
(Edelman and Tononi, 2000:101)

 

[RealDonaldTrump]

When you remember something from years ago and play it back in your head, do you remember it the way it really was, or the way you wish it could have been?

Let's say it was with another person and it didn't go well, but you wish it had. Do you remember the bickering and fighting or do you sort of sugarcoat it and remember it less bad than it was?

I have the greatest memory of all time. Everybody knows that.

 

[Five_Inch_Heels]

I have the greatest memory of all time. Everybody knows that.

That's not what Marla told me.

 

[NOIRTRASH]

You folks are 30 years behind science.