Are you the unique woman I look for?

[LTMMC]

Not the superwoman many dream of, but unique in terms of deep needs, which don’t seem to get satisfied by most you talk with? Then possibly you and I should meet each other, to check out how well we resonate.

In terms of responsiveness, for instance. I mean: will I take you up on things you raise with me. Subjects that concern you and you wish you could discuss with a dear somebody. And do you react in kind to my thoughts? I mean: by allowing yourself to understand what moves another person?

A curious interest in subjects and questions another person raises, that sort of thing seems to be getting lost more and more. Getting replaced by “show and tell” attitudes and habits, which Facebook loves to cultivate in people for FB's benefit. Far too many “threads” here and in many other places are not conversations but mutual showing & telling exercises.

And I’d love to find a woman to resonate with, in terms of your sexuality being as “affirmative” as mine. I mean that we both stand behind our sexual desires squarely, and not disguise them out of shame and timidness. Or to achieve conformity in the interest of being an acceptable person, to the hypocrites surrounding us.

And then, I hope you deeply yearn for interchanging thoughts & ideas that can be enriching and not just entertaining.

Of course, I hope deep down inside of me that you and I will find each other likeable and more. Because conversing with a mail partner who is not just loveable as a person, but who feels attracted to oneself, ….. only that makes conversations worthwhile. I hope this applies to you as much as it does for me.

 

[LTMMC]

I wonder, how do I elicit trust from you?

You have two choices basically: go through life wary and distrustful, or accept the possibility of getting hurt, in return for a chance to find happiness and joy. OK, the first alternative offers more certainty; the certainty of getting nowhere. While the second one entails pain possibly, but also at least some chance to luck out.

I have chosen the second way always, and I have never lucked out yet, at least not for truly long periods of time. But for several years I had felt quite elated and at times overly so. So of course I would repeat my supposed mistakes of yesteryear over and over again.

And when it comes to you: no way!! I can “elicit” trust from you. You’ve got to give it to me, there’s no other way about it. And there exists a corollary to trust also: an ability to allow yourself to “fall into” enthusiasm. Maybe gullibly so, but I say “better become a gullible man when luck seems to be happening, than a cold fish forever”.

OK, I am sure you are understanding my message loud and clear: I am convinced that passion never happens to the timid of this world. When one is not daring at least something at your age and mine, one may as well make grandiose plans for one’s funeral.