Are you submissive and a masochist?

[WriterDom]

Poll to follow

 

[BiBunny]

I picked yes. I don't know if I'm a real, certifiable painslut or not (who decides, anyway?), but I'm both submissive and masochistic. It often depends on the kind of mood I'm in, though.

 

[WriterDom]

I picked yes. I don't know if I'm a real, certifiable painslut or not (who decides, anyway?), but I'm both submissive and masochistic. It often depends on the kind of mood I'm in, though.

I don't know who decides. But we have two. Might ask them.

 

[eastern sun]

No. I'm submissive, but I'm not a masochist. (I do like a fair amount of pain mixed into my pleasure, though.)

 

[CutieMouse]

No. I'm submissive, but I'm not a masochist. (I do like a fair amount of pain mixed into my pleasure, though.)

Ummm... masochists enjoy pain, so how is it that you aren't a masochist, if you enjoy pain with your pleasure?

 

[Evil_Geoff]

I am neither submissive, nor a masochist.

I'm just evil!

*BWAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!*

 

[CutieMouse]

I am neither submissive, nor a masochist.

I'm just evil!

*BWAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!*

You forgot dork... the dork part? Very important- totally substitutes for the masochism thing.






*nods wisely*















*runs away laughing*

 

[ChainedRebel]

Ummm... masochists enjoy pain, so how is it that you aren't a masochist, if you enjoy pain with your pleasure?

The terms have been massaged and adapted over time but many folks consider a masochist as someone who craves pain and/or even requires it for pure functionality aside from sexual gratification.

Also, the type and degress of pain can play a role in that one who might enjoy spankings but despises other forms of pain may not be considered a masochist.

You can enjoy pain, without being a full masochist.

 

[CutieMouse]

The terms have been massaged and adapted over time but many folks consider a masochist as someone who craves pain and/or even requires it for pure functionality aside from sexual gratification.

Also, the type and degress of pain can play a role in that one who might enjoy spankings but despises other forms of pain may not be considered a masochist.

You can enjoy pain, without being a full masochist.

Interesting... I've never seen masochism defined outside of craving/needing/enjoying pain as part of a BDSM relationship... hmmm...

 

[graceanne]

You forgot dork... the dork part? Very important- totally substitutes for the masochism thing.






*nods wisely*















*runs away laughing*

LOL

I'm a masochist. Not pain slut.

 

[ChainedRebel]

Interesting... I've never seen masochism defined outside of craving/needing/enjoying pain as part of a BDSM relationship... hmmm...

Therein lies my point, a masochist craves the pain. Whereas a submissive may enjoy a particular kind of pain or pain at a certain time during a certain scene or wha have you but otherwise not necessarily want or enjoy pain as a part of their submission.

So you can enjoy pain, without being a masochist. Am I making any sense?

 

[CutieMouse]

Therein lies my point, a masochist craves the pain. Whereas a submissive may enjoy a particular kind of pain or pain at a certain time during a certain scene or wha have you but otherwise not necessarily want or enjoy pain as a part of their submission.

So you can enjoy pain, without being a masochist. Am I making any sense?

Yyyyyeeeesssss.

(she says very slowly, as she works out the above sentences)

 

[ChainedRebel]

Yyyyyeeeesssss.

(she says very slowly, as she works out the above sentences)

If it helps, I'm a bondage slut through and through. The constraint, the loss of control, the surrender and trust...Yes, that's where I live.

And I have a strong penchant for humiliation, the right humiliation, and from the right person.

Those are the prominent cookies that my Mistress crumbles.

But, I can also get in a mood to just be hurt. To be beaten and thrashed and tormented and can find intense pleasure and peace in it. But that is not my main drive, I don't crave pain all the time.

Or she may have a strong need to inflict pain on me and through my submission and in my desire to please her, I want it for her and offer myself to her. And through seeing her satisfaction and pleasure in using me in such a way, I am pleased. But that is a function of the submission, not the pain.

 

[graceanne]

Those are the prominent cookies that my Mistress crumbles.

I love this line.

 

[nh23]

I voted yes.

 

[ShyVixen]

I voted yes, because under certain circumstances I enjoy pain. Not sure I crave it, exactly.

 

[eastern sun]

Ummm... masochists enjoy pain, so how is it that you aren't a masochist, if you enjoy pain with your pleasure?

I guess it's how I define the words. I imagine a masochist enjoying painful stimuli, finding pleasure in the pain.

I enjoy the pleasure, and find the contrast between pain and pleasure to be mind-bendingly exciting.

I run from pain on its own.

(If that makes me a masochist, then I'll have to revote.)

 

[ssinlove]

And I have a strong penchant for humiliation, the right humiliation, and from the right person.

yes me too it is a turn on to be humiliated and treated as the bitch i am by my Owners.

i am Their pet and live and act as a pet and the more i am a slave the more i am happy. But they never beat me and i do not like pain, i mean pain with a whip or something like that.

Sexual pain is different. They can fuck me hard or pinch my nipples and it can be painfull but this is pain i like even if i don't crave for it either.

i love to be cuddled as a little pet, i need my Owners' love.

of course i fear Them but not about pain, just about the fact that one day They could not love me anymore or not be happy with me.

This is why it is very rare i am punished as They are good Masters and Mistress and They would not punish me if i am a good slave.

 

[neonflux]

I am a masochist because I greatly enjoy the sensation/high that pain brings. But I am not wired for submission (I have learned this past year that obedience while bottoming is not the same as submission). These days am beginning to understand myself more and more as a Top, although a "versatile" one, as one of my mentors would phrase it Neon

 

[ecstaticsub]

I am submissive but I wouldn't refer to myself as a masochist. I enjoy being spanked, flogged, and whipped because it makes my body open up so I can feel that surrender sweep over me. That feeling is what I crave. I don't like pain though. I put up with pain because it is the only way to get to that point. Humiliation works well, too. The combination of both is the best.

Hmmm, I'm thinking a little more about this. There is an element of pain that I enjoy. I like the heat that surrounds my body from it. And the sting. RIght now I need a spanking more than I need to be fucked.

Maybe I am a little masochistic? ..I don't know..

 

[WriterDom]

So roughly 2/3 like pain. Maybe a little more if eastern sun got a "do over"

 

[ownedsubgal]

i'm not sure how to vote. i know i'm not a masochist in the way it's typically meant in the bdsm world. i'm not a pain slut, i have a very low pain threshold, do whatever i can to avoid pain, etc. however i've always had a very strong need/craving for pain in the sense of suffering, both physically and emotionally (actually more so emotionally). without this pain i feel incomplete and unbalanced. yet the experience of the pain itself is torturous and never welcome. yet...i need it. what the heck does that make me??

 

[eastern sun]

So roughly 2/3 like pain. Maybe a little more if eastern sun got a "do over"

So, as pollmaster, are you responsible for my do-over?

I might like that.

 

[BiBunny]

i'm not sure how to vote. i know i'm not a masochist in the way it's typically meant in the bdsm world. i'm not a pain slut, i have a very low pain threshold, do whatever i can to avoid pain, etc. however i've always had a very strong need/craving for pain in the sense of suffering, both physically and emotionally (actually more so emotionally). without this pain i feel incomplete and unbalanced. yet the experience of the pain itself is torturous and never welcome. yet...i need it. what the heck does that make me??

I'd say it makes you a masochist to some extent. I'd also say that I can totally relate to what you're saying, 'specially the emotional suffering part.

 

[subtleone]

Well I went with my gut feeling and voted myself as a painslut! I crave the right sort of pain