Are you ever picked last?

[StrawberryPez]

With my friends I always seem to get picked last. Whenever they call me to ask if I want to go anywhere they always tell me how they called like, 5 people before me and no one was home but me. So I always feel like I'm last. Like I'm the unimportant friend, that I’m just back up.

Does this happen to anyone else?

If so, how do you cope?

Do you mind being picked last?

 

[Guest]

They merely saved the best for last, darlin'.
Think of it, that way.

 

[Marquis]

That's not a problem I have now, but one I have had earlier in life.

It really does suck. I always struggled between my pride and my humility in these situations.

My pride wanted to tell my friends I had other plans and next time they should call me earlier so they realised I couldnt just be their bitch.

My humility wanted me to be happy I was called and use the oppurtunity to become better friends with these people and maybe move up the call list (also I wanted to go out!!)

 

[T.H. Oughts]

I always got asked last at school...... wearing glasses through puberty was not good......

 

[T.H. Oughts]

The one I hate is when you invite people to a party and its a few weeks away and they say... "We will see what's happening closer to the time"..... fuck how much time do you want!!!!! My homemade chip dip can't be that bad...

 

[Black_Bird]

With my friends I always seem to get picked last. Whenever they call me to ask if I want to go anywhere they always tell me how they called like, 5 people before me and no one was home but me. So I always feel like I'm last. Like I'm the unimportant friend, that I’m just back up.

Does this happen to anyone else?
If so, how do you cope?
Do you mind being picked last?

When I want to spend time with my friends, I usually want to get together with them in a group... so nobody is really last.

A friend doesn't pick who is last; they try to make every single one first.

 

[Black_Bird]

The one I hate is when you invite people to a party and its a few weeks away and they say... "We will see what's happening closer to the time"..... fuck how much time do you want!!!!! My homemade chip dip can't be that bad...

That
Just
Sucks.

 

[Weird Harold]

... call me to ask if I want to go anywhere they always tell me how they called like, 5 people before me and no one was home but me. ...

I'm sometimes last to be called by lonely friends. Other times I tell them no and they call somebody else -- making me "next to last" at the very least.

That doesn't happen often, because my friends all know I'm a recluse and hate to leave my apartment.

I'm also often the first to be called, but that's usually my daughter needing a babysitter for my granddaughters.

 

[April]

At least you get called, Miss Pez. *dramatic sniffle*

 

[Rambrat]

Growing up, I was always picked last for team sports. Even when they came to me, they would say..."I don't want him!"

To this day, I can never watch a whole game of any sorts.


I'm better now...really I am...

 

[Kitte]

Pez...

We really need to get together and eat chocolate and talk.

*hug*




Im asking you first...

 

[SilverVeil]

Yup ... I am usually the last picked, called, asked, whatever. It got so I began doing things on my own rather than waiting around for people to decide to call me. Suddenly they began seeing me places and meeting interesting people and I was " the cool one to go out with " cuz I knew all the off beat places to go to and knew people there.

But I never called them, and I let my machine pick up calls for me. If I was out, I might call back, if I had time.

 

[Guest]

Damnitalltohell.

I never get picked at all.Think I'll stay in and polish my horns.

 

[riff]

Sure! It happens! Not all the time, but it happens.

I cope by reminding myself that self-pity will just make me pitiful and that ain't no kinda way for a riff to live.

More often than not (not saying this is the case with you though), when I feel that kind of self-pity, it's because I have been "waiting" to be picked. Well, that's just bullshit on my part. So rather than waiting to be picked, I get off my ass and I go do my own picking. It seems to work, because most of the time I find people whom I like and who are quite happy to hook up.

 

[millieteases]

Of course I've been picked last. But at least I was picked.

If I get tired of it I do the picking - and not just my nose - it has been known to lead to some very interesting experiences - and to my spouse!

 

[Silverluna]

always. i hate standing there, the team leaders staring at you, measuring your value to their group.

i swear it still happens! "oh you're with smitty mcgee over there....Good luck "

I've been guilty of dreading the one "loose end" that was in my group/team....anyone else?

 

[JerseyBoy]

never used to be picked last...

..and then there was the annual Lit kickball tourney...*sniff*

 

[Cheyenne]

At least you get called, Miss Pez. *dramatic sniffle*

Hey, you beat me to it! Same thing I was going to answer.