Are you confident to just accept the fact that people love you?

[Mia62]

Or do you always question it? And test it to make sure that it is real?

 

[Vinny]

Very confident

PS I know someone who really wants you though

 

[Mia62]

Aww, Vinny...

Wanting is different than accepting that it is your right in life to have people adore you. Some people are so confident that they just almost expect to be loved and adored. Others have to work on allowing themselves to be loved.

 

[Vinny]

Love is something that grows between 2 people and should not cease to grow<Hugs>

 

[Bluesboy2]

Mia, I hope yoou know that there is at least one person here who adores you for just being you...

 

[BgMma]

I always seem to doubt it.

I have the lowest self-esteem.....

 

[Johnny Mayberry]

Confident? Absolutely...I'm a kick-ass guy, and people love me. How could they not? Well, I mean, I know they could...but I trust the feelings of my friends(and 'more-than-friends) that their feelings are real.

If you doubt that someone loves you, that probably says something about you, and your feelings about them.

 

[nitelite33]

After a while people become wary of being tested about anything...

There comes a point where you should know positive or negative how someone feels about you.

If after that point you still 'don't know', it's likely a sublimated denial of a negative.

 

[lilminx]

I'm cynical by nature, so it's difficult for me to accept love, compliments, etc from people.

 

[CoolidgEffect]

People can be so manipulative.

 

[Johnny Mayberry]

I'm cynical by nature, so it's difficult for me to accept love, compliments, etc from people.

You're hot, and I you...accept it!


Oh, and I've got a beer waiting for you.

 

[Mia62]

I'm cynical by nature, so it's difficult for me to accept love, compliments, etc from people.

I can totally relate to this...I always wonder what else they are after.

Guys...it isn't that I am doubting someone's love right now...this is more of an internal reflection question, I guess. How do you view yourself in terms of accepting love, adoration, compliments, etc...

 

[Mia62]

People can be so manipulative.

I am not following how this fits in here? Help me out?

 

[lilminx]

I can totally relate to this...I always wonder what else they are after.

Exactly. As CoolidgeEffect said, people can be manipulative. I always feel like they have an ulterior motive or just aren't being sincere.

 

[Guest]

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[Bluesboy2]

To answer the question, what others see when they look at me and what I see vary greatly. So no, I usually feel quite undeserving of affection or love.

 

[Johnny Mayberry]

I think that giving love makes me more comfortable accepting it. My friends know I love them, because i generally tell them. It makes it more painless to accept love back without self-doubt.

 

[CoolidgEffect]

I am not following how this fits in here? Help me out?

It would fit into the "you always question it" category.

 

[Pixie]

To answer the question, what others see when they look at me and what I see vary greatly. So no, I usually feel quite undeserving of affection or love.

Ditto that!

 

[Guest]

I fight that demon daily.
I think I'm done.

 

[Johnny Mayberry]

Exactly. As CoolidgeEffect said, people can be manipulative. I always feel like they have an ulterior motive or just aren't being sincere.

No, I really you!!

 

[curious2c]

Good question.

I think that I am confident that someone must love me. I have a big family, so that helps.

As for other people...I just don't know for sure. I would like to think that there are some out there who love me...but some wouldn't say that out loud...some are probably not the type to say it to me.

I will stick with I am confident that some people do love me. I hesitate to 'test' love. As nitelite said about...it can backfire on you testing what may be a negative.

I accept it or don't. What else can one do?

 

[lilminx]

No, I really you!!

You're just trying to get into my pants.

 

[Mia62]

It would fit into the "you always question it" category.

It made sense after lilminx referred to it as well. Thanks.


As babies and little children...we just absorb all the love that can be given to us.

When do we change and start to question this? Why is this one nurturing part of ourselves not able to carry over from infancy to adulthood?

(yikes...is this too deep for a Friday?)

 

[Johnny Mayberry]

You're just trying to get into my pants.

Nah...I doubt we waer the same size pants anyways. Now, if you've got a comfy oversized sweatshirt...