Are You a Jealous Person?

BlackSnake

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I’ve had sex with other men’s wives with them present. Now that I’m married I wondered if I could walk the walk. I never thought of myself as a jealous person. Lots of people checkout my wife when we are together and probably more when we are not. I am, at times, kinky and my wife find it sexy and fun. She sometime go without panties and at times people get views of what she’s hiding. Her sexiness really turns me on, not that the wind wouldn’t turn me on.

My neighbor a few houses down, who has become a close person friend has had the hots for my wife since we first met. No real secret there. His wife and mine are aware of it. As I’m constantly looking for a new story idea, I wondered how I would feel seeing my wife with another man. I’ve written stories about it, contemplated my reaction, but I really didn’t have a clue.

I wondered if I would get that rush of fear shooting through my body seeing another man’s hands on her in a sexual way. Call it research. That’s what I labeled it. I talked to my wife about it. I asked her did she think I would get upset or jealous if I saw another man with his hands on her ass. She looked at me and was silent for a moment. I felt that fear rush immediately. Had I insulted her? She said that she didn’t know. She said that I didn’t act like a jealous person, and given the things that I’ve done, she didn’t think so. I told her that I wasn’t emotionally invested in anyone, so that doesn’t really count. I asked her had our friend had ever touched her ass. She said that he had brushed against it a few times, but never really grabbed her. I told her that I would like to know if I could stand another man having his hands on her. As soon as the words came out of my mouth I felt that same rush of fear again. She asked me did I want her to let someone touch her. I told her that I was sure that our friend would love to put his hands on her ass, and she laughed agreeing. She said that his wife might not like that. I told her that I would talk to his wife about it since we got along well, and coming from me it probably would go over better since she knew that I write “nasty” stories. My wife found it funny and agreed. I think she may have been wondering if I truly trusted her, but I didn’t go there. I trust her, she tells me the truth even when I don’t really want to hear the truth.

I had been thinking about this for a while, and have been trying to keep it a secret from my buddy. I got a chance to talk to his wife about it, and found out that she wonder how he would react in a similar situation. She talked to my wife, and my wife reported back to me that they would allow it. She added that he might want to do it again, but added would not let it go any further than that. I didn’t think about that part…felling the rush again.

Well, it finally came to pass in my garage. I was showing off my new car. I did mention that I trade my car in for a new mid-size sedan, didn’t I. I love it. It’s smaller than my other car. It’s a four door Dodge Stratus. Anyway, the four of us were in the garage drinking beer and checking it out. My wife leaned over into window to turn up the radio. I said nice ass and my wife wiggled her butt to everyone’s amusement. I put my hand on her butt-cheeks rubbed and squeezed it. I told my buddy who was standing on the other side of her, his wife was standing directly behind my wife, to feel how soft my wife ass was. His wife laughed and my wife wiggled her ass again. He did it. He actually put his hand on my wife’s ass, but that’s not all. He rubbed it, squeezed it and ran his fingers down to her crotch. I’m such a dump ass, my dick got hard. His wife joked that she bet he wants to screw her. He continued doing it, rubbing her butt-cheeks and her crotch while I stood there drinking and joking like an idiot. Then he did something that I really didn’t expect. He pulled her shorts down to the middle of her thigh and fingered her. I didn’t know what in the hell was wrong with me. Instead of calling a halt to it, I continued drinking and joking. He said that his wife had a nice ass too. He pulled his fingers out of my wife’s cunt and licked his fingers. My wife stood up and pulled her shorts back in place. My dick was so hard that I could stand it. I was not jealous, but I wanted to fuck my wife right there. They were laughing hysterically. I thought they were laughing with me, but I found out that they were laughing at me. Why couldn’t I figure out that they would let him in on it? They had turned the tables on me. I guess it was funny.

Has anyone else done anything just to see how they would react to it?

I really didn’t mean for this to be a book. It only happened over a period of five to ten minutes.
 
I think everyone has a certain amount of jealousy to a degree, I think though, that when fantasy becomes a reality, that's when the true feelings come out.'
I can be a jealous person at times, so I would have to really think about it first before being put in that situation.
 
ABSTRUSE said:
I think everyone has a certain amount of jealousy to a degree, I think though, that when fantasy becomes a reality, that's when the true feelings come out.'
I can be a jealous person at times, so I would have to really think about it first before being put in that situation.

He can be a cocky bastard sometimes :D
 
I'm not really jealous...not much. I don't mind my man talking to, or flirting with other women, doesn't really bother me.

Now, the hands-on thing - that would bother me. That's when the green-eyed monster would definitely rear it's ugly head.
 
I honestly have no jealousy in me at all. It has been more of a detriment than a benefit. People assume I am blocking and girlfriends have assumed I don't care....
 
Besides ending up with pie in my face, I really wasn't. I guess it had to do with her and not him. I got hornier for her, and I don't really think it was because of his hand on her. She does have a nice ass, and my favorite position is doggie-style.
 
If that was me, no way in Hell would his hands get that close!!

Maybe I'm just a prude, but 'till death do us part' carries a strong sentiment with me.

Just my two bobs.
 
doormouse said:
If that was me, no way in Hell would his hands get that close!!

Maybe I'm just a prude, but 'till death do us part' carries a strong sentiment with me.

Just my two bobs.

It's probably going to be until I depart...;)
 
cloudy said:
I'm not really jealous...not much. I don't mind my man talking to, or flirting with other women, doesn't really bother me.

Now, the hands-on thing - that would bother me. That's when the green-eyed monster would definitely rear it's ugly head.

You alreay now. I've done more than grabbed my share of asses. It never brother me before, because I never really invested emotionally to anyone. I'm married now, so it's a different game. I wanted to know if that green monster lived inside of me.
 
I'm not jealous just possesive in a get your god damn hands off my wife kind of way.
 
Snake, jealousy comes from many different sources, but not often will it come out from a planned event except for those that are extremely jealous. Now, if you were to walk in on your wife with another man in the middle of sex, and you had not known about it at all, it would hurt you emotionally, and you would want to take that hurt out on the other man. This is what we define as jealousy. It is an outlet of our emotional pains, in one simple irrational moment.

But, it is my opinion that since you planned for your neighbor to touch your wife's ass, that you more got off on it than anything else. That they took it further than what you were expecting was a surprise, and one of our core responces to surprise is excitement. The fact that your wife had probably set that up with him in advance, just to see if you would get jealous shows that you wife was trying to go an extra step.. Because you just wanted him to grab her ass, but that really wouldn't of made you jealous, so she implemented something that you didn't know about, but it still didn't make you jealous. So what does that speak about yourself? You aren't a jealous person, you are a horny as hell person, but not a jealous person :p

Take care BlackSnake, I hope that there is never a situation where you have to be jealous..
 
I'm not the least bit jealous, nor do I believe in the ridiculous practice of trying to impose limits on a significant other's sexual freedom. If one chooses sexual exclusivity, that's great. But, I believe this is solely a personal choice, the right to which neither society nor a partner can abrogate. That having been said, I still wouldn't want to be a party to swapping, swinging and the like--the exceptions being a girl/girl/me menage a trois or the higly improbable girl/girl/girl/me menage a quatre.
 
tolyk said:
Snake, jealousy comes from many different sources, but not often will it come out from a planned event except for those that are extremely jealous. Now, if you were to walk in on your wife with another man in the middle of sex, and you had not known about it at all, it would hurt you emotionally, and you would want to take that hurt out on the other man. This is what we define as jealousy. It is an outlet of our emotional pains, in one simple irrational moment.

In that situation, I would see that we had a problem. One, she didn't let me know that she had a problem with me. I'm not a young guy, and I've been damn lucky. I know one of these days my luck is going to run out. I don't think that I would hurt the guy unless he was raping her. To me, he would be doing what I would do...um, have done.

But, it is my opinion that since you planned for your neighbor to touch your wife's ass, that you more got off on it than anything else. That they took it further than what you were expecting was a surprise, and one of our core responces to surprise is excitement. The fact that your wife had probably set that up with him in advance, just to see if you would get jealous shows that you wife was trying to go an extra step.. Because you just wanted him to grab her ass, but that really wouldn't of made you jealous, so she implemented something that you didn't know about, but it still didn't make you jealous. So what does that speak about yourself? You aren't a jealous person, you are a horny as hell person, but not a jealous person :p

They double crossed me. But I don't think that I'm cocky...just confident ;)

Take care BlackSnake, I hope that there is never a situation where you have to be jealous..
 
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Why would they go out of their way to plan for him to finger her just to make you feel double crossed? I don't think that was their intent. Or is that what your wife has told you already?

I still think that she was trying to help you see if you wre jealous or not.. which it did work, you weren't jealous. You just stood there and watched. BUT, these feelings of betrayal (double crossed) you have, that is also linked from jealousy normally, you just skipped the jealousy part and went right to the root of the problem. It is somewhat odd that you do that, I find, but perhaps it is because you've been with so many women, and have been so 'unattatched' for all your life that jealousy was never an issue, thus you were always able to get right to the root of the problems in the first place, and now, even in your marriage, you are still able to do it. Even though there are much deeper emotions involved now that is, for you said you weren't 'emotionally invested' in anyone prior to your wife.

Now, the feeling of being double crossed, it is in your mind a lot isn't it? Whenever it pops into your head, you probably feel perturbed, or even slightly upset (or since I don't know you that well, maybe mildly annoyed for all I know).. but the point is, that it does bother you, doesn't it?

I'll wait to say more till you respond to that..
 
Renza's post about being possessive got me thinking. I still say that I am not in any way jealous in the sense that I do not fear any man or woman's influence over my wife. No one can take her from me and I think that this is the root of "jealousy". If she wanted to leave me I would consider that a problem between her and I, not her and someone else. But I can conceive of a thing that would upset me.

If she was to make another a higher priority than me, that is to say, she was to choose time with the other over time with me, that would bother me.

But I still don't think that is jealousy. I think that is selfishness at worst, and I admit to being selfish.
 
I can't think there's a single person lliving, who, having loved, has not also felt jealousy at some time, however fleeting.

Feeling jealousy is not the issue. How you deal with it is.

For me, personally. It simply hurts.

Mat
 
I am a jealous person. I've flirted with the fantasy of sharing my woman with someone... just like in all those stories. But, in actuality, I would probably get physical really quickly and get all violent if anything like that really happened.
 
Belegon said:
Renza's post about being possessive got me thinking. I still say that I am not in any way jealous in the sense that I do not fear any man or woman's influence over my wife. No one can take her from me and I think that this is the root of "jealousy". If she wanted to leave me I would consider that a problem between her and I, not her and someone else. But I can conceive of a thing that would upset me.

If she was to make another a higher priority than me, that is to say, she was to choose time with the other over time with me, that would bother me.

But I still don't think that is jealousy. I think that is selfishness at worst, and I admit to being selfish.

I think of my wife before myself, because she seems to be always available to me and my horniness. She checks with me before she make plans with her mother and sisters, I think that's awesome. I change my plans she wants to do things with them. I can wait. I give her what she want, because she has never failed to give into me. Why anyone wouldn't kiss their wife's feet is beyond me. I don't think I would want to be with anyone who is not like her.

I would think that we had a problem if she did something without telling me.
 
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