are you a jealous person?

[lovetoread]

sometimes i get a smidge jealous of people who dont have to work for a living.

but other than that though, i dont really feel jealousy like one is supposed to

i have now watched 3 murderporn shows in a row where the person is killed because someone thought they were cheating or being intimate with others

i feel as long as one is told beforehand or immediately after what is going on, then all is good but apparently my feelings are different from others cause i aint gonna do a murder over it

 

[Fingerfuxs]

sometimes i get a smidge jealous of people who dont have to work for a living.

but other than that though, i dont really feel jealousy like one is supposed to

i have now watched 3 murderporn shows in a row where the person is killed because someone thought they were cheating or being intimate with others

i feel as long as one is told beforehand or immediately after what is going on, then all is good but apparently my feelings are different from others cause i aint gonna do a murder over it

The green headed monster that makes those kinda shows is scary , interesting and really fun to observe,,, from a distance.

I can’t say that I’ve never felt “ jealous “ in the realm of sexually in the moment or afterwards. I talked to it , we came to the agreement that * actual in the flesh * Love , I have plenty of and there’s nothing to get worked up about.

 

[FGB]

This day and time...NO.

I have noticed over the years that jealousy only makes things worse.

Seems sometimes it's question of mind over matter.

If you really don't mind if they are fucking someone else, it really doesn't matter.

And If the are not fucking you, what does it matter whom they are fucking?

 

[rockcasbah]

The three times I've felt jealousy turned out to be times ( I later realized) that my jealousy wasn't irrational...it was accurate and well-founded...I was being deceived.

Sure, there are people who become jealous on their own...it's always a head-shaker to see it.

But for me, it's always been my intuition telling me something I should have listened to.

 

[HisArpy]

Envy is not Jealousy, although they are often confused as the same thing.

Envy, OTOH, is 1 of the 7 deadly sins.

 

[Fermina_Daza]

I am sure I would be described as "jealous" by some(one). It was a trait I had not shown or experienced before either so it was tough for me to cope with and comprehend. I was not happy with or proud of my feelings or behaviors. It took a while, but eventually I realized it was not jealousy I was emoting but fear from a lack of transparency. And really, most of our undesirable behaviors are the result of fear in some way.

J and I are in an open relationship, with both of us being "with" other people pre-Covid and I did not have the same "jealous" responses as previously. There was also complete transparency and honesty.

But I too get envious of those who do not have to work. I would rather spend my day reading or taking care of other people's pets then further my career any further. I'm trying to tell myself it's burnout from the extra hours put in a year now because of Covid.

 

[MrZeno]

Unfortunately yes I can be, but I am not all the time. I don’t get jealous of things but I’m possessive.

 

[HisArpy]

I am sure I would be described as "jealous" by some(one). It was a trait I had not shown or experienced before either so it was tough for me to cope with and comprehend. I was not happy with or proud of my feelings or behaviors. It took a while, but eventually I realized it was not jealousy I was emoting but fear from a lack of transparency. And really, most of our undesirable behaviors are the result of fear in some way.

J and I are in an open relationship, with both of us being "with" other people pre-Covid and I did not have the same "jealous" responses as previously. There was also complete transparency and honesty.

But I too get envious of those who do not have to work. I would rather spend my day reading or taking care of other people's pets then further my career any further. I'm trying to tell myself it's burnout from the extra hours put in a year now because of Covid.

I don't believe very many of us prefer working over leisure.

I know I prefer leisure over slaving away every day, but the things I want in life aren't free. (Nor will they ever be, no matter how much someone promises that they are or should be.) That means I have to work to earn the buying power to get what I want.

And, of course, "the system" has figured out how to take most of what I earn in order to keep me in the hunt longer. As a case in point; DeBeers calculated (which actually means "created a marketing campaign") that engagement rings should cost 3 months of the buyers income. This same type of "calculation" has been applied to houses, rental apartments, food, clothing, etc. If you want to live like a "normal person" it's going to cost you X dollars as a percentage of your income. And, as we all know, the guy who pays you that income is also in on that calculation for his products/services. Which translates to the fact that your income is calculated to be approximately what it costs for you to barely squeak by.

For me, and I suspect for others too, the answer was to put in more hours early in my career developing the alternative skills needed to augment my labor and create supplemental income that I don't have to slave to earn. I know what it took for me, what that avenue will be for others depends on their unique talents and how diligently they try to develop them. It is also never too late to start.

 

[gtnlynn]

Not now. I was terribly jealous in college when my girlfriend/future wife was dating other guys. I only saw her once or twice a month, and they were with her every day. The other dates ended when we became engaged, and my jealousy went away.

 

[nowisthetime]

I'm not jealous of any other woman, not worried about another woman "capturing the attention" of my man.

if he lowkey stares at a pretty woman walking by, that's all good, I was never one of those women who would roll their eyes, because I know he's human. Humans like pretty things. Well shoot, I'm not blind and I'd have my eye on a cute guy walking by, too.

Now I am jealous of people who never have to work for a living! Must be nice.

 

[FGB]

The three times I've felt jealousy turned out to be times ( I later realized) that my jealousy wasn't irrational...it was accurate and well-founded...I was being deceived.

Sure, there are people who become jealous on their own...it's always a head-shaker to see it.

But for me, it's always been my intuition telling me something I should have listened to.

I do sometimes get envious or even outraged on occasion...Then I remember to chill because every dog has his day.

Some are past, sometimes it is now and some are in the future.

 

[sunshine57]

Yes, I can be a jealous person, but I think that sometimes those feelings can build trust in a relationship. Communication from BOTH SIDES is something I have found to really help when I am feeling a little green. : ) Like you said, if things are talked about beforehand, it changes the narrative! Totally agree!

 

[DestinyRoad]

Been jealous a few times but I have anger issues so its not a good thing for me. I tend to do the quiet mad and been told its not pretty.

 

[LittleSammie]

I used to be jealous a lot, but learned to let that go most of the time. Possessions have mostly lost their meaning Self-consiousness in a relationship is still very much a thing though.. I don't want to mind if my partner looks at or sleeps with someone else, but so far it has always fired up my insecurity and made me so sad.

Working on that!

 

[Noor]

Apparently I don’t have a jealous bone in my body, or so I’m told.
I sometimes wonder if I just don’t care, or would rather the people I care about be happy even if it’s not with me.

 

[sweepthefloor]

i have a small jealous bone. it's usually transient and passes through quickly. i was a little jealous about the work part when i was the only person in my family reporting for duty shift after shift, and working overtime that i did not want to work. then i felt guilty for being jealous.

 

[hanban24]

I don’t think I’m as jealous as most people, but I think we are all at least somewhat jealous. What gets me the most is when I feel like people get good things they don’t deserve. That’s my biggest jealousy.

 

[SissySalina]

Yes, very jealous of beautiful women every time sissy sees them.

 

[Fingerfuxs]

Yes, very jealous of beautiful women every time sissy sees them.

Is it light or dark in your cage in the evening

 

[SissySalina]

Is it light or dark in your cage in the evening

Have you discovered fire yet in that cave?

 

[Fingerfuxs]

Have you discovered fire yet in that cave?

I have ,

 

[shewantsmore]

Jealous no but envious oh yes many many times over many things. . Being jealous can only cause problems

 

[y=mx+b]

Jealous no but envious oh yes many many times over many things. . Being jealous can only cause problems

Same.

All sense of jealousy died off the vine once I turned 30.

Envy... that dirty cat rides on my shoulder and digs it's claws in. Motivating me to feel greatful for what I have, unaffected by that which I do not, and reminds me to feel happiness for those that do. No matter what my opinion of them might be.

 

[oneblueye]

hey...

Am I a jealous person?
I don't think so but I do feel these twinges when I see these young pain-free people, rushing to work to beat the clock and get that check. Rather than staying home all day and just collect SSD.
Jealousy about having or not having sex?
Not if EVERYONE is playing by the same rules of engagement.
Step outside those guidelines..., Anger is more my first feeling.

 

[zoso682001]

I think it's interesting the way you find out that you're not a jealous person . It's probably different for different people .

I'm not .