Are we all really strangers?

[Savage Kitten]

Whisper,

WOW! look what you've brought out of so many people. I often thought it was just me. That I was a big ole softy. That I allowed myself, foolishly, to be concerned with people I came in contact with over the net. But now I see I am not alone. I Love the word DCL used "kinship", that explains it so clearly.

The thing I dislike most about 'cyber friendships' tho is how easy it is for someone to disappear off the face of the earth... as easy as changing a nick or an email addy.. we all invest so much of ourself here... on the street.. we may pass one another as strangers... but here... we all have a KINSHIP


[This message has been edited by Savage Kitten (edited 06-01-2000).]

 

[Ghost]

I'm a new guy around here. I usually don't stop and stay long at chat rooms or boards. They are time intensive. But I'm here. Duly registered and all. And anonymous.

I'm here because I sense deep connections and rich thought. I'm also here because I have a shadow side that I need to integrate and I'm too timid to air it in RL right now. I can't be here often. But I like this place.

We all run in cycles. Sometimes we need intimacy so desparately. Sometimes we need isolation equally desparately. Sometimes I need to have my feelings validated. Sometimes I want to smack anyone who dares to "grade" my emotional response.

The only things visible here are words. Carefully chosen words. There is a longer time delay between a person's center and the internet than between that center and the person's mouth.

At any rate, this is a good place. These are good people. I hope to make some friends here.

 

[Hullo_nurse]

I would have to say that I have many friends here at Lit on the BB. I have privately emailed a few of you & have gotten closer & even more personal with each other.

I don't have tons of friends in RL. Many aquaintances, but not that I can share this kind of stuff with. Even my own husband thinks I am insane for some of the fantasies I have. But you all accept me for who I am. You don't run the other way when you see how I look... you treat me as a person with a mind, not just a fat body.

Hubbie's best friend just got married. He met his wife in a chat room. Hubbie met the best friend from EGM magazine (you know when poeple write in comments & stuff). Hubbie & I met through one of those phone personal add BB's. It is the way things are going these days.

Anyway, sorry for such the long post. I really just wanteed to say that I feel closer to some of you than I do people I consider friends in RL. Even if I don't know your "real name."

Kisses to you all!!!!!

 

[Laurel]

We all run in cycles. Sometimes we need intimacy so desparately. Sometimes we need isolation equally desparately. Sometimes I need to have my feelings validated. Sometimes I want to smack anyone who dares to "grade" my emotional response.

Well stated. I have many acquaintances and friends in real life, but what I find attractive about the Internet is that I can come & go as I please. If I have friends over and suddenly get sick of them & want to be alone, I can't just throw them out & slam the door. But here - if I get busy, or annoyed, or whatever, I can visit the BB less. Having spent years in an industry that required almost constant socialization, I like the barrier the Internet provides. I need my privacy and my space, and relationships over the Net allow me to be entertained without sacrificing these things.

Like I said, it's not a substitute for real-life communication. But it does in a pinch.

 

[Neoapril]

Originally posted by Laurel:
[B/] If I have friends over and suddenly get sick of them & want to be alone, I can't just throw them out & slam the door. [/B]

Oh, but don't you just wish you could?
Sorry, couldn't resist!

[This message has been edited by Neoapril (edited 06-01-2000).]

 

[Laurel]

Uh huh! (nods vigorously)

 

[Jade]

Originally posted by Laurel:
Uh huh! (nods vigorously)

ditto

~Jade

 

[Rosebud]

i think that actually we know everyone else on this board a little better than thier real life friends do....we tell each other things that we would never tell anyone else...we might not know what some people look like but we accept them for what really counts....thier minds and hearts