Are other bi/bi-curious females suspicious

[Marilyn37MWF]

When the other FEMALE? states that her male will be there??

I am.

 

[iansearchof]

When the other FEMALE? states that her male will be there??

I am.

Of what? That it's a threesome or a show for him? What else could it be? Is this not implicit?

 

[fille]

Of what? That it's a threesome or a show for him? What else could it be? Is this not implicit?

I don't think that's necessarily the case. A woman who is bi-"curious", i.e., having no experience in having sex with another woman, and who is in a relationship with a man, may feel that she can only fulfill this desire if her partner is with her. She may be too hesitant or too nervous to do it without him, or she may feel that it's not cheating if he's with her. Certainly, her partner may be encouraging her because he wants to watch and/or participate, but that doesn't mean that's why she's doing it.

 

[sultryslayer]

I personally don't care for the men to be there...

only cause even if you agree that you don't want sex from the male he always tries something and I am just a girl that can't say no.

 

[iansearchof]

I don't think that's necessarily the case. A woman who is bi-"curious", i.e., having no experience in having sex with another woman, and who is in a relationship with a man, may feel that she can only fulfill this desire if her partner is with her. She may be too hesitant or too nervous to do it without him, or she may feel that it's not cheating if he's with her. Certainly, her partner may be encouraging her because he wants to watch and/or participate, but that doesn't mean that's why she's doing it.

You make very nice distinctions that seem to go only to her motivation, but unless I miss something, the distinction lacks difference at least from the suspicious one's viewpoint. I do like the "it's not cheating if he's there" rationale.

 

[iansearchof]

only cause even if you agree that you don't want sex from the male he always tries something and I am just a girl that can't say no.

There is a god!!! The republicans are correct!

 

[dirtylittleslut]

As a woman in this situation, being bi curious and wanting my husband to be there, I just thought I would voice my personal point of view on it. I obviously can't answer for every woman in this situation, but here is my two cents worth.

For me, it is a bit of; not cheating if he is there, more comfortable with the situation and my number one reason..because that is how we play.
When we have men involved, he is also in the room. We do not play alone, it is our personal rule in this situation.
And we both strongly believe that what happens with the other woman is up to the other woman. If she doesn't want anything to do with my man that is perfectly fine. More for me to enjoy. lol

I think that if adults are talking to each other and discussing playing with each other, there should not be any problems just asking..why? Why do you want your man there? Etc. Everyone has their own reasons and boundaries for things.

 

[fille]

You make very nice distinctions that seem to go only to her motivation, but unless I miss something, the distinction lacks difference at least from the suspicious one's viewpoint. I do like the "it's not cheating if he's there" rationale.

Well, I guess I thought the "suspicion" was as to what the woman's motivation really was - whether she really wanted to have sex with the other woman, or was just doing it for her boyfriend/husband's pleasure.

 

[iansearchof]

Well, I guess I thought the "suspicion" was as to what the woman's motivation really was - whether she really wanted to have sex with the other woman, or was just doing it for her boyfriend/husband's pleasure.

Your points are valid as are those of the preceding poster. The result is the same from the guy's point of view--participation whether active or passive. The exception would be having him on premises but away from the action (safety).

The best point is "ASK" for godsake.

 

[Sandra Seis]

and your problem is?

I think if you are planning on having sex with a bi woman .. the man comes with the territory .. if you don't want a man there .. go find a lesbian .. we couples do this for us .. and if you want to be involved with us and enjoy sex with me, then good .. but don't complain about my man being there when I am having sex .. if you don't like it .. go away .. he's staying .. {:0)

 

[Marilyn37MWF]

I guess I wasn't real clear

When I said suspicious I was refering to my experience that there is not really a woman involved.

I have run into so many males (notice I didn't refer to them as men) posing as women that I wonder if there is really a eager female waiting for my reply.

 

[iansearchof]

When I said suspicious I was refering to my experience that there is not really a woman involved.

I have run into so many males (notice I didn't refer to them as men) posing as women that I wonder if there is really a eager female waiting for my reply.

Thanks for the clarification. With that I bow out.

At least I got to experience fille's lovely AV!

 

[fille]

At least I got to experience fille's lovely AV!

Thank you.