Are looks important?

[Guest]

OK let's say you have been talking to someone through email and IM's for a while. You have shared every intimate detail of your lives with each other and have planned to meet.

A romantic weekend filled with sex and all the fantasies you have been sharing for months is the plan but you have just received your first picture of then and it is not someone you would have even been attracted to what do you do?

Do you go anyway, after all they know your heart and it will be a fantastic time OR do you not go, while they know your heart physically you are not attracted?

 

[Ambrosious]

It's me, isn't it?

 

[Guest]

It's me, isn't it?

I have never seen a picture of you so I would have to say no it is not you.

 

[TonyG]

If I have been sharing every intimate detail with someone then I have been turned on by their mind and the physical feature would not be a problem. Unless they don't bathe.

 

[Bonnie Wee Lassie]

I personally don't think looks matter. You sound like you were very attracted to this person before you saw the picture. I think you should still meet and if the sparks still don't fly at least you tried. If you don't you may regret it.

 

[Closet Desire]

Dangerous stuff...

I think looks do matter, but in a subtle very odd way and maybe it isn't that way for everyone. You see, I have this weakness for petite, slender, European women. I can't explain it...they just press all the right buttons. All through school I dated French, Swedish, and German women who were petite and slender. Then I married a woman who was none of those things (okay...farm girl from Iowa). It wasn't bad, but it wasn't great. We were married for over 20 years before we divorced (still friends). There was never a lot of passion and, for me at least, passion doesn't grow unless there's a seed and lots of water. Now I'm deeply, passionately in love and married to another woman who is...you guessed it...petite, slender, and English. There's lots more to our relationship than just that, but it turned out to be important to both of us...

 

[Countess DeWinter]

If I have been sharing every intimate detail with someone then I have been turned on by their mind and the physical feature would not be a problem. Unless they don't bathe.

I've had it both ways. I've "met" people online and got to know and like them without ever seeing their face. When I finally did, after a moment's consideration, I realized that they appeared far more attractive because I knew what was behind that smile!

I've also met incredibly good-looking people who were so shallow and vain that they appeared very unattractive in my eyes, no matter what they had going on in the looks department.

Sure, some people are pretty ugly inside and out, but they're rare. It's even more amazing that more people than you'd think are beautiful on the outside because they're so beautiful on the inside.

 

[Xander]

You know it's funny. IRL when people see me I'm generally regarded as one step over dog shit, in the looks department.
yet coming online here, where no one has seen me, there are some who thinks I'm beautiful.
And with the chance of sounding like a complete sap. For someone who has been told all his life that he's ugly as sin..sometimes even worse. That means a great deal.

 

[Thumper]

WELLLLLLL yes and no...

How's that for a definite answer.

Yes looks matter...but not totally. I would never leave someone hanging and just stop seeing them or chatting with them. However I would never let it get to the stage of meeting in real life without a picture first. Attraction is very important in re the physical side of a relationship. Then again I have met some extremely attractive women and as soon as they opened their mouth...instant zero...Either stupid or obnoxious...big turn off.

Do looks matter to women?

On Brainy Beauty's thread about the AmIhotornot website (http://www.literotica.com/forum/showthread.php?threadid=18587) I mentioned posting a couple of photo's there. The first was a picture that was in the Lit newsletter and thanks to the ladies here was well received. ( I think they were just being nice)
That picture got a whopping 1.9 on the other website. My guess is the picture and it's attitude put a lot of women off. Maybe they thought OK looking but he's so "desperate for attention" OR "Look at me!I am so hot". Not an attractive trait I think. Now why did the women here say much better things...I believe it is because they knew me through my words and before they saw the pictures. They sort of "got to know me" beforehand. And then again I think they were just being nice...which is cool too. That means they consider me a friend. (I have seen the remains of those who earned their wrath.....not pretty)

The Goofy picture got a 4.3 last time I looked...maybe I'll score more if I walk around looking like a "tard" LOL

For men and women it is different...

BTW thanks for the votes on the first picture ladies....I must have been way down there to get a 1.9 after your votes were counted..LOL

Xander...you do not look like dogshit...if you did you would look like my boss...Hey wanna be in our band?

[Edited by Thumper on 12-15-2000 at 01:20 PM]

 

[Silverlily]

Ok, once and for all, Xander is NOT ugly as sin and Thumper does not have an attitude.

There was a time in my life when looks were everything, but then I graduated from 10th grade and grew up a little. Physical attraction is still important, but now more often than not, what I see when I look at pictures of various BB members isn't just a body (I could, however, look at Thumper's all day), it's the tangible aspect of the beauty inside. (Ok, that probably made no sense.)

Anyway, I have yet to get a picture from anyone here that I have not found attractive. You are all too terrific inside to be anything but outside.

 

[Sammyjo]

To me, looks aren't incredibly important. Two years ago, I was at the point of choosing between an average joe, and a former playgirl model...they were both very challenging in their own ways, and I went out of my way to make them both mine...yes, I played with both of them, and subsequently lost both of them...heehee...I now have both of them begging to be a part of my life again.

Anyway, the average guy, of Toronto fame, has some very intriguing qualities. I was attracted to his mind for sure. When he did show me his picture, I wasn't turned off...I actually thought he was "cute"...when I saw him IRL, I was a bit ummm...let down. I could tell his picture had been taken some time ago, probably high school, he had changed quite a bit. This did not stop me...I carried on a very long time with him...and I'm still talking to him, but not exactly sure where things stand.

The model...whew...what can I say? He is a total babe. He looks good, but I'm not sure if he's got everything I've always dreamed of in a mate. He'd be good to show off. I don't know if he'd be worth keeping. He is planning a trip here in June...we'll see.

Looks can be nice, but it is the total package I'm looking for. I have yet to find someone that has it all...but I can't wait to make him mine when I do.

 

[Cyan BloodsBane]

that was beautiful

Waaaa... sniff sniff... that was so beautiful.....

But I still say, I look like a beast from hell and I can prove it.

Just stopped in to say hello! now I must say good bye again... back to the grind stone.... dam my ass hurts from the grind stone... sheesh.. turn that dam thing off already...

 

[Silverlily]

Re: that was beautiful

But I still say, I look like a beast from hell and I can prove it.

Bullsh#t! I can prove to the contrary.

(Psst- the dragon is really 6'1", green eyes, blondish/brown hair, and rather cute.)

 

[Cyan BloodsBane]

Me cute... ahhaahahahah.... I am a demon from hell... well thats what the priest said when I through the holy water on the candles... hehe...

ROAR....

ROOOOAAAARRRR.....

ROOOOOOOOOOOOAAAAAAAAAAARRRRRRRRRRRRR.....

sorry I am half drunk again

 

[Xander]

Xander...you do not look like dogshit...if you did you would look like my boss...Hey wanna be in our band?

In your band Thumper??? Sure!! I miss stroking the strings in a band

Ok, once and for all, Xander is NOT ugly as sin

Thank you Kitty!!

 

[Cyan BloodsBane]

Yeah he is as ugly as hell.... hjahhaahahahahaha...


I made a funny...

 

[Silverlily]

No Cyan, that wasn't funny.

 

[Cyan BloodsBane]

I am sorry...

HAHAHAHAHHAHAAHa....

i thought it was... sorry Xander!

Me bad dragon... me going to find more beer..... heheh then off to my party... PARTY!!!

 

[Xander]

Cyan go pop another cold one okay LOL
Looks like it's the booze talking right now. Oh and down blow fire while sucking on a bottle of strohm rum.

 

[Guest]

Thanks for all the answers to my question.

 

[Cyan BloodsBane]

LALA... HEHEEHEHe... driving in the snow would have been fun... but sheesh people... don't want me to...

O well... have fun Xan... O btw: The mix of the instrutments sound kool... but I STILL WANT MY ACID TECH CD BACK... now where did I put it???

 

[Juliangel]

That's a tough call. Looks can make a difference to some people, I have learned they are not important.

To me it is what's on the inside that matters and if you are this attracted to the inside of this person the outside should not matter.

 

[Cyan BloodsBane]

That's a tough call. Looks can make a difference to some people, I have learned they are not important.

To me it is what's on the inside that matters and if you are this attracted to the inside of this person the outside should not matter.

Yuck.... like guts and heart and stomach...... Woo Hoo..

 

[Cheyenne]

I would never leave someone hanging and just stop seeing them or chatting with them.

How about thinking you've connected with a true friend from this bb, developing enough trust in him to tell him your real name and send him a picture of your face, only to find you never hear from him again? Not another email. Nothing. No acknowledgement that you ever even existed. And he still posts on this bb, so you know he hasn't died. Would you think looks were important then? I'm guessing they must be.

*And no, I'm not referring to Thumper. He just hit a tender spot in my heart at the moment with his comment.*

 

[Earthmuffin]

Just my lil' ole opinion....

Looks are only important if your soul is blind, deaf, and mute.