Are gay/bi people more promiscuous?

[noise]

most of my friends are straight and in relationships or wanting relationships but i on the other hand couldn't imagine being in a relationship as i feel there are too many people to meet, since coming out a bit over a year ago i have met 9 guys and most of my friends have been in a relationship that long or longer.

 

[killallhippies]

little pointer: you don't have to fuck everyone you meet.

 

[Etoile]

killallhippies, you're back!

No, I don't think gay/bi people are more promiscuous by nature. You might be afraid of committment but many gay and bi people are happily married and have been for a long time. My wife and I just celebrated our 10th anniversary which is a helluva lot longer than almost everyone else I know.

 

[hoodooman]

mmm...yeah

yeah they are......at times anyway......especially guys but girls too....and in case you're wondering: i spent years with lesbians..in the girl bars, parties and even in some of their beds...

i suspect it's because if you've had to deny your own sexuality you've stifled one of the strongest and most persistent of all human urges...we're just hard wired for sex..

so once you acknowledge your own desires it's time to make up for all the missing out...

most older gays seem happy to have a relationship but they're still randy little critters...smile...

what i think is remarkable is how many married men (lots of them) like to have sex with other men...

too bad we can't just boink, fuck, suck, bang or make love to whomever we want without betraying someone or a principle or moral code...shrug

 

[Etoile]

yeah they are......at times anyway......especially guys but girls too....and in case you're wondering: i spent years with lesbians..in the girl bars, parties and even in some of their beds...

I would say SOME are. But so are some straight people. As for lesbians, well, a look at Alice's "chart" on The L Word proves that theory.

i suspect it's because if you've had to deny your own sexuality you've stifled one of the strongest and most persistent of all human urges...we're just hard wired for sex..

I agree with you that repressing your sexuality can make you run rampant once you don't have to anymore. Not all people are hard-wired for sex though, or obsessed with sex. Some people are completely asexual (don't want sex at all) and some just don't feel it is a priority in their lives.

most older gays seem happy to have a relationship but they're still randy little critters...smile...

Nope, I know several people my age (late 20s) who have long-term relationships. Hell, I'm 27, and I've been in this relationship for 10 years. But again, not everybody wants to fuck all the time. When it's a priority for you, you might feel that it is (or should be) for everybody. But in reality it's not that important to everyone.

what i think is remarkable is how many married men (lots of them) like to have sex with other men...

Now THAT I agree with you on. How many threads on this very board are started by men who have urges but are married and afraid to act on their urges? A whole lot.

too bad we can't just boink, fuck, suck, bang or make love to whomever we want without betraying someone or a principle or moral code...shrug

Interesting. I think most people want relationships at some point in their lives, and plenty of people aren't interested in cheating. If we could fuck whoever we wanted, we'd all be polyamorous, but in reality monogamy is dominant. It would be an interesting world if we were all poly...I wonder if there are any cultures that are like that, where everybody shares sex with everybody else. I don't think it could happen in the Western world, we are so strong on monogamy here, even if it makes some people unhappy. But maybe elsewhere in the world, it happens.

 

[hoodooman]

Thaks Etoile

i don't disagree with you...just my casual observations...

it's interesting to me how much has changed since i was growing up so many decades ago...married people in sitcoms wore ironed bed clothes and slept apart...playboy magazine moved the thing forward and later dr ruth stunned and shocked many... but kids today take that stuff for granted...it's a good thing imo

my mother earnestly believed it was important for a girl to keep her virginity for her wedding night....i suspect that same advice might get peals of laughter today..."are you kidding grandma? i had sex when i was 14"

or something like that...

as for me; when i get too old to have fun i'll have lots to smile about...i feel sorry for those who wanted to act out but never did

 

[killallhippies]

no offense, but the hardwired for sex line is usually used by people trying to justify their inability to commit. of course most people love sex, but, seriously, that does not equal having to fuck every single person you are attracted to. some people actually want relationships because, shockingly, they veiw other people as something more than a means to an end.

 

[kalalau]

no offense, but the hardwired for sex line is usually used by people trying to justify their inability to commit. of course most people love sex, but, seriously, that does not equal having to fuck every single person you are attracted to. some people actually want relationships because, shockingly, they veiw other people as something more than a means to an end.

No offense, but I presume you have studies to prove this? Or is this just an opinion?

 

[killallhippies]

No offense, but I presume you have studies to prove this? Or is this just an opinion?

i'm going from experience. try it sometime.

a study? jesus christ.

 

[Bill3250]

I am promiscuous because I am bi. Or I am bi because I am promiscuous? Regardless which statement is correct, I have had a very active and very enjoyable sex life, and in my sixties, I continue to enjoy an occasional cock in my mouth as well as being quite active with my lovely and understanding wife.

 

[killallhippies]

you are promiscuous because you are promiscuous. you are bi because you're bi.

 

[Bill3250]

you are promiscuous because you are promiscuous. you are bi because you're bi.

I don't know. I really don't care. But I sure as hell enjoy it!

 

[killallhippies]

I don't know. I really don't care. But I sure as hell enjoy it!

sure you don't.

 

[kbate]

Studies show that Gay Men are more likely to have multiple partners and shorter lived relationships than lesbians or straight people.

Bisexual persons are difficult to study for something like this - as you have to break them into so many classifications in order to gain results which can be quantified.

 

[CuriousNiceGuy]

Probably it has again to do with sex. Women are more interested in a deeper connection with the other usually. Men also have that but I think it is in a much smaller percentage.
So it is kinda justified why lesbians and straight people seem to have longer relationships compared to gay men.
I'm bi and I couldnt care less for one-night stands(okay i could, but you know what i mean.)
I want a relationship. It's kinda frustrating cause when I go out with guys and they learn that I am bisexual they go like:"WHAT? you sleep with women too?"
and i end up hearing the stereotype: Bisexuals only like to fuck around.
That is sooo wrong -_-

 

[KokopelliRises]

The constant stereotyping of bisexuals as people who sleep around/have multiple partners/aren't (can't be) committed to one person because they like both sexes is complete hooey. Each person has preferences about how they go about dealing with sex/relationships. Some bi people are married and are monoamorous. Some bi people are married but polyamorous. And so on, and so forth.

 

[Bluestreak363]

I'd say they have more opportunity to be promiscuous, but bisexuals are not always that way. I'm not.

-R

 

[The Mutt]

Studies show that Gay Men are more likely to have multiple partners and shorter lived relationships than lesbians or straight people.

Bisexual persons are difficult to study for something like this - as you have to break them into so many classifications in order to gain results which can be quantified.

Gay Men are more promiscuous than Straight Men because Bachelors are more promiscuous than Married Men.

Let them get married and watch the numbers even out.

 

[limplizzard]

little pointer: you don't have to fuck everyone you meet.

Why not?

 

[killallhippies]

because of a lot of them aren't worth the effort.