Apology

[LAHomedog]

I have been asked to publicly apologize for anything I may have done or said that made any female member of the Playground feel as if I was abusing them. I gladly make that apology. I never meant for anybody to feel that way.

Please forgive me from the bottom of my heart and if this applies to you, my sincerest apology.

 

[tnman03]

So ok, you've apologized. I'm just curious as to why you would persist in sending unwanted messages to women on here after they'd told you no, that they weren't interested or didn't want you messaging them? Or write the type of messages to anyone that have been mentioned unless someone told you that they wanted to roleplay to that stuff.

 

[AmberLGreen]

You were ASKED? So you haven’t done this because you are genuinely sorry?

You were ASKED by the women you were harassing to STOP. You totally ignored their request.

I think most of the people that this apology is aimed at will tell you to stick it up your ass.

 

[saustin5432]

That may be the worst apology ever. I have no idea what you're up to, but no one asks you to apologize, you apologize because you did something wrong that hurt someone else. Here're some pro tips...in case you don't know how google works:

Below borrowed from https://thinkkindness.org/all-things-kindness/5-steps-sincere-apology/

1. Name what you did wrong. Don’t just say: “I’m sorry you got hurt.” That’s not owning up to your actions. Instead say: “I’m sorry I sent out terrible private messages to many people on this site” or “I’m sorry I didn't stop when you said no.” Be specific about your actions and why you are apologizing for your behavior.

Even more importantly, don’t project your actions as someone else’s fault. “I've been asked to apologize” is not an apology at all. No one can make you react a certain way. You are the one responsible for your actions and words.

2. Use empathy. Maybe your actions wouldn’t have hurt you, but the fact is that they hurt someone else. Acknowledge their feelings as legitimate. Try to see things their way, and let them know you understand their hurt. For example: “I'm sorry that I'm a predator and sent those messages, I understand that you feel unsafe here because of my actions.”

Usually people get hurt because you are putting yourself first, so make sure you put yourself in their shoes when you’re apologizing.

3. Make it all about you. If a fight has erupted, and you’re the first to come forward and admit you were wrong, keep the apology all about you. Don’t focus on what the other person did wrong or how they provoked your actions. Pointing out the other person’s faults and demanding a reciprocal apology will undermine everything else you say. If you’re only saying sorry so they will say sorry too, you need to rethink your reasons for apologizing in the first place.

4. Keep explanations brief. You should definitely think about the root reason that you were unkind before you apologize. Like I said before, no one can make you react a certain way, so whatever the other person did is irrelevant. Maybe you were feeling insecure about yourself or maybe you were under a lot of stress at work or maybe you were feeling a bit jealous.

You can explain yourself if the reason is relevant, but keep it brief and remember that it doesn’t justify your behavior – and say so. “I need to seek counseling before I interact with woman again.”

5. Let it go. Once you’ve apologized, it’s time to take a cue from Frozen and let it go. What happens next isn’t up to you. As hard as it may be to put yourself out there and truly apologize, the fact is no one owes you their forgiveness. It’s not something that can be earned. Forgiveness is a gift, and quite frankly, one you never deserve.

 

[LAHomedog]

I apparently did this incorrectly. So allow me to begin with an apology about that. I thought that sort of wording was what was requested of me. I obviously misread and misunderstood. So allow me for apologizing for screwing that up. I'm sorry.

Now, let me say, that I am truly sorry to any woman who felt that I was abusing them or harassing them. I mean that. I am very sorry. Please take my words as sincere and honest. I am sorry. Please forgive me if I did that to any of you. My deepest and again, sincere apology. I truly mean it.

 

[LAHomedog]

Also, going forward I am leaving The Playground. I am sending a PM to Wife of Bath, the mod, to please block me from the thread to demonstrate my sincere sorrow for any and all of my actions.

Since I am leaving The Playground, allow me to take this last opportunity to once again say I am sorry. I was out-of-bounds and I'm sorry.

 

[LAHomedog]

I apparently am completely inept and cannot do this right. I am sorry for that.

I want to offer once again my most sincere apology. I was a complete and total asshole and abused and harassed woman on The Playground who deserved better. I did it, I own it, and I apologize for it.

I am also going to leave Literotica by sending a PM to the site owner and asking her to disable my account.

Goodbye.

 

[Wife of Bath]

I’m closing this thread. For no reason other than flaming and trolling seems inevitable.