Anyone want their wife or GF to do this?

[Mike260]

For years I've had an insatiable desire for my wife to sleep with another man. I want her to cum in shuddering moans, and to do it again and again. To pine for his arms and his cock...to need him inside her...and then to go to him in the middle of the afternoon only to tell me afterward.

 

[Vixandra]

So you want your wife to sleep with another man who's also better in bed then you?
And what's to keep her being your wife after this?

 

[Mike260]

I think that's a pretty literal reading of the fantasy. As well, I'm a part of the whole equation.

 

[Mike260]

Sorry to keep posting, but I want to finish my thought. A while back, my wife totally fell for another guy-- really turned on by him. We discussed it. It amped up our sex like crazy. And then the passing fancy passed. We went back to getting off on other things.

 

[Eilan]

Been there, done that, but oddly enough, I didn't get any stinkin' t-shirt!

I can't speak for my husband, but for me, the fantasy was MUCH more appealing than the reality. In fact, if we never again had another MMF, I can't say I'd be all that disappointed. It's still a lot of fun to talk/fantasize about during sex, though.

 

[Mike260]

No T-shirt! That's it. I'm done. The fantasy no longer interests me.

Thanks for your thoughts Eilan.

I'm actually more interested in my wife having sex with other men than having a threesome.

I wonder whether we'd have a similar experience of the reality not matching the fantasy. First, I worry that my jealousy would override the eroticism. And, second, I wouldn't be surprised if the sex wasn't so great. Not because no one could ever match me, but because, as I remember them from way back before we were married, first time sex experiences with people tended to be pretty mediocre.

If you don't mind talking about it, I'm curious about what led you to try a MMF with your husband and why it was a disappointment.

 

[Eilan]

It was something that my husband brought up once, about three years ago, during sex and we both started fantasizing about it. I have to admit that I was really nervous about turning the fantasy into reality, even though it was something that we both wanted. We had our first RL experience this past September, so it took a long time for us to finally decide to act out the fantasy.

We're not looking for anyone at the moment, but when we were we had a heck of a time finding a third (but that's because I'm so damn picky). The experiences that we had weren't particularly disappointing, other than the first-time awkwardness. It's just that I prefer my husband.

 

[Mike260]

Eilan:

You sound like a wonderful combination of devoted mother and wife, and sexual adventuress.

Your husband is a lucky guy.

 

[Eilan]

Awwww. . .thanks.

But, really, I'M the lucky one.

 

[MiloDRemix]

I'm the opposite. I think it would be the worst feeling in the world to know that my significant other was sleeping with someone else. Call me crazy, but I like sex between me and my partner - no extra people. I'd feel like something was very off in our relationship if she had to sleep with someone else for excitement. Sex that's so casual and emotionless...I don't understand it.

 

[Bobmi357]

For years I've had an insatiable desire for my wife to sleep with another man. I want her to cum like she never has, and to do it again and again. To pine for his arms and his cock...to need him inside her...and then to go to him in the middle of the afternoon only to tell me afterward.

Call me selfish, call me insecure, call me narrow minded. But no, I never felt any sort of need to push my wife onto another man and pray he's capable of doing a better job of pleasing her than I can. I've never felt like it would be a really good turn to watch my wife pine for someone elses arms and cock. I just can't see myself sitting there listening raptly to her recount her adventures either.

Some of us, perhaps not all, but a significant number still, I believe, take our marriage vows seriously. I, for one, have never felt any desire to have my wife pleasured by another. Whats the point? So you can whack off in a corner while your wife gets laid by another man? Thats not fun, thats just sad.

 

[bytor2112]

call me dude...i'll fuck your little tramp ho wife....

1-800-big-cock.....

and for a little extra i'll make her gag ....

 

[Travelintheways]

^ Sure, let's belittle other people now instead of, I don't know, offering advice about how he might go about this You don't have to like it, but it's neither illegal nor emotionally damaging (though potentially complicated).

EDIT: to clarify, I meant bobmi. Everyone already knows bytor's an ass.

 

[bytor2112]

^ Sure, let's belittle other people now instead of, I don't know, offering advice about how he might go about this You don't have to like it, but it's neither illegal nor emotionally damaging (though potentially complicated).

EDIT: to clarify, I meant bobmi. Everyone already knows bytor's an ass.

who said i was joking.....i'm making a legit offer to bang his wife...and i figure he thinks she's a tramp if he wants her to fuck other men....

i know, people here are "open"...woohoo..another lame excuse for psychologically screwed-up....but hey we can't admit that right

 

[Travelintheways]

I never DID think you were joking. Just an ass

 

[MiloDRemix]

^ Sure, let's belittle other people now instead of, I don't know, offering advice about how he might go about this You don't have to like it, but it's neither illegal nor emotionally damaging (though potentially complicated).

Offer advice on how a guy might be able to get his wife to have sex with someone else? This is just so off to me. Why do people bother getting married if they still want to have sex with and date other people? What's the point? When did sex cease to be "special"? With all of the STDs that are out there today... it's just stupid. And VERY emotionally damaging, in my opinion. A great partner is someone who is interested in you... not someone that has to go to someone else to bring excitement into your relationship. I realize that I'll probably get yelled at for being closeminded and judgmental...but I'm just a monogamous kind of person who thinks that marriage doesn't include cheating. But hey, whatever it takes to get you off

 

[Eilan]

Wow. I logged on to Lit this evening to find that I'm probably well on my way to being emotionally damaged because my husband and I had a handful of MMF threesomes a few months ago. Who knew?

Although I haven't been a registered member for very long, those of you who have bothered to read my posts might have noticed that I'm extremely vocal toward people who try to make their partners do things that they're not sure about doing--particularly threesomes. Yeah, I was nervous at first--who wouldn't be? But I don't play without my husband, nor do I have any desire to, and his presence makes all the difference. Furthermore, it's something that we may never do again, and that would suit both of us just fine, because it's still a fun fantasy.

My husband's not insecure. Far from it--he's a pretty arrogant fucker, actually. And, honestly, based on what we encountered a few months ago, he has every damn right to be! Nothing that I experienced makes me, for even one millisecond, want to run out and screw around on my husband with every Tom, Dick, and Harry who expresses interest. We were interested in something, so we tried it, and our marriage vows are none the worse for wear.

All I was trying to do was give a fellow Litster some input based on my own extremely limited experiences. I didn't tell him that he should or shouldn't encourage his wife to screw another guy. That's for him and his wife AS A COUPLE to decide. Unless he's trying to force something upon her, it's not for us to condemn.

 

[MiloDRemix]

Wow. I logged on to Lit this evening to find that I'm probably well on my way to being emotionally damaged because my husband and I had a handful of MMF threesomes a few months ago. Who knew?

I said that it would be emotionally damaging in my opinion. If sleeping around is your idea of a good time, by all means, have fun. I'd never be able to touch my significant other again if she cheated on me. The fact that she could take something as special as our sex life and just throw it on with anyone...the moral fabric of society is frightening these days.

"That's for him and his wife AS A COUPLE to decide." You're not really a couple if you're having sex with multiple people. Dragging other people into a relationship to act as your sex toys...the appeal is lost on me.

 

[LadyNatasha]

"That's for him and his wife AS A COUPLE to decide." You're not really a couple if you're having sex with multiple people. Dragging other people into a relationship to act as your sex toys...the appeal is lost on me.

It's a good thing he's got you here as the voice of authority on the subject of relationships. Imagine him trying to continue his marriage without your sage advice.

 

[Mike260]

(Because I was initially confused about how the forums were constructed in Literotica, this post/thread is in both GLBT and HT. Some of the posts in HT got pretty viscious. This is largely a response to those posts.)



Wow!

First, I want to thank everyone who has offered me a sincere response. Obviously, I posted on the forum because I wanted to know what other people thought and felt. I’m still interested in anything else anybody has to say.

Travelintheways and Anne, from the bottom of my heart, thank you! On the old “I’m OK/You’re OK” vein, I’m glad somebody thinks I’m OK.

And other people who offered honest criticism, thank you too.

To me, the most trenchant criticism raised an issue I’ve wondered about—Am I pushing my wife to do something she doesn’t want to do? Marriage is a complex thing. We’ve been married for 17 years and push/pull dynamics are never simple. In this case I think we’ve reached a compromise where we’re each doing a bit of both.
I’ve urged my wife to go ahead and do this, but never pressured her. At this point, she is almost always the one who brings up the subject of erotic adultery. Her input rarely goes beyond, “I met a guy I thought was pretty hot. I thought you would be interested.” I respond, “Well, you have my permission to sleep with him,” and then she doesn’t. And that’s it.
In bed, we bring up the subject pretty often. It turns her on and drives me wild. She also has a pretty fetishistic interest that’s a mainstay of our sex life. That one, I’ll leave to her to post about.

Several people also cautioned that I might be biting off more than I can chew. Maybe. To be honest, though, I think that risk is part of the thrill of any sadomasochistic thing—and there is definitely a razor-sharp masochistic blade hanging over me here.

But I was surprised that several people got so angry and insulting about this. Why? What chord is it striking for you?

For several of the comments, I’m not going to stoop to the level of what would amount to a spitting fight.

But there are a couple I will address. First, no, I’m not fat. And my kids aren’t whiners either. Yes, the house can get pretty messy, but we all have a pretty good time, do the best we can at our jobs and school, and love each other a lot.

And Bobmi, yes it is sad. But so are a lot of things in life, like S&M, anal sex, unrequited love, tearjerker movies, and rooting for the Chicago White Sox. And I’ve done them all without a moment’s regret. Perhaps, for you, sex is all about romance and affection. Great. Go for it. But sex involves other things for me beyond romance. Something else makes my cock hard, my heart race, and my soul full. And I think that’s great too.

I’m new here, but I hope this would be a safe forum to discuss sexuality. (I mean, in the role play section, there are threads about sexual practices that would send you to jail for crying out loud.)
I’m a firm believer that we can’t change what turns us on. If we could, homosexual reorientation camps would work. The question is, then, “How do we fit our sexual urges into our lives?” Personally, I think gay people should fuck each other however they like to and then, if they want, get married and raise kids like everybody else.
As for the rest of us, when the lights go out, we can all wrestle with whatever flavor of sexual intimacy brings us closer to ourselves and the people lying next to us. But here’s the thing—if it is going to bring us genuine intimacy, it’s going to be at least a little bit different for every single person on earth.

 

[Eilan]

I said that it would be emotionally damaging in my opinion. If sleeping around is your idea of a good time, by all means, have fun. I'd never be able to touch my significant other again if she cheated on me. The fact that she could take something as special as our sex life and just throw it on with anyone...the moral fabric of society is frightening these days.

"That's for him and his wife AS A COUPLE to decide." You're not really a couple if you're having sex with multiple people. Dragging other people into a relationship to act as your sex toys...the appeal is lost on me.

It's really amusing to hear you talk about the decaying moral fabric of our society on the bulletin board of an erotic story site.

I think that you and I have different definitions of what cheating is. My definition of cheating involves doing things without a spouse's knowledge; apparently your definition is a little more rigid than that. I respect that, but I would also appreciate it if you didn't apply your rules to my relationship.

In the time that my husband and I have been together, we're talking about events that took place in the fall of 2004--a number of experiences that I can count on ONE hand. We didn't DRAG anybody into anything. All of us were well beyond the age of consent. Perhaps you should concern yourself with situations where people are actually being abused or exploited.

If the appeal's lost on you, then fine. There are lots of things discussed on Lit that don't exactly float my boat. I have no desire to blow my brother while a chimp in a tutu smears shit on my back, but, hey, if someone gets off doing or watching that, who am I to criticize? Not that I've ever seen anything like that discussed on here, but you get the picture.

So my husband and I aren't really a couple. Who would have thunk it? Well, I have a piece of paper that proves otherwise. But you know what? I've wasted way too much time already justifying myself to a stranger on a message board.

 

[Lust Engine]

What people do in the comforts of their own bedroom are their thing. If it floats your boat- then great. I'm sure there are things I do that might repel you too and vice versa, but I'd rather not pass judgment on you.

It'd be honest to say it wasn't for you but why cast a stone onto what someone else considers sound??

 

[SkyyAngel]

It's really amusing to hear you talk about the decaying moral fabric of our society on the bulletin board of an erotic story site.

I REALLY don't see what one has to do with the other.

 

[tsk3us]

I agree wholeheartedly with the "if it works for you and your SO - Great!".

Of course, the way the original thread was started - make sure everyone is understanding of the possible repercussions.

Originally when my SO and I ended up getting together, I was involved with a long-time lover. My SO and I have been friends for a long while before we became involved, and he found hearing about my exploits very 'stimulating'. Once we became involved, I found out just HOW stimulating.

Now, he doesn't (nor has he ever) asked or expected me to be exclusive to him - it's something I decided. However, a couple months back I ended up being with another man. The SO and I discussed it - and we found that he wasn't so keen on that idea anymore.

So, we've left our devices to "fantasy". Coming up with a fantasy in our minds...what "imaginary lover" did, how he did it. What it's ended up being is one hell of a turn on for both of us, and also a way for me to express to him what I want via our "imaginary lover".

I don't condemn anyone. If it's just the fantasy that you need, great. If it's the actual thing, that's great too. Just enjoy and ensure that everyone is on the same page - and remember - there are always little things that can happen unexpectedly (jealousy).

 

[Lust Engine]

Basically put--is it betraying your significant other's trust if you're up front about it and they're okay with it too??