Suzi said:
, if I was younger I would probably be desperate. I really do not know what my color truly is. I just have to remember that being on your own allows a certain level of spiritualism that is not possible in a relationship.....a relationship causes distractions, in my case anyway. 
John Roberts said:
Nah...just having a little fun
I find playing here on LIT does distract me from morose thoughts.
but trying to form friendships here is rather difficult....people are pretty cynical and hard.
Good luck to you.
JR
I think my color is red for sexy!!! lolJohn Roberts said:
Nah...just having a little fun
I find playing here on LIT does distract me from morose thoughts.
but trying to form friendships here is rather difficult....people are pretty cynical and hard.
Good luck to you.
JR
Suzi said:
Well John...not all people are to be interpreted that way. Some people are being cautious--perhaps because they have encountered players before, or been taken for a ride before, or had their heart broken before. The trick is John: dispense with the catchy lines and phrases, be yourself---be REAL. Yes people do come here to flirt, for a pleasant distraction from their everyday, but there are just as many who are themselve. What you see is what you get. Wildrose, for ex., is a real sweetie *hugs*
Suzi said:I know we did not always agree. I had an attitude before. I think I judged you by the AV. I thought you were one of the "beautiful people". Some of my experiences with them have not always been positive (some were so stuck on themselves, they had no room for other people). I was wrong about you. I actually got to see your pic, and saw you. You are not that way at all. I apologize.
Suzi
Suzi said:
The trick is John: dispense with the catchy lines and phrases, be yourself---be REAL.
I donot mean to be disrespectful but you presume too much.
The core of what I am is a dark mass of depression and also a creature of light, my experience is that people usually dealing with their own "distortions" are really not willing to form friendships with those trying to deal with depression. I am a responsible person and will not let a relationship go too far without letting that person know what I am all about. The reality is I am working on it and I do have a good sense of humor most of the time and that is a part of what I am. As far as showing my real self, I doubt anybody does, most people cannot even look at themselves in an honest light, One thing I do know, I am honest, I am caring, I am forgiving, I am gentle, I do not hurt others either emotionally or physically, I have a clarity about myself that few people possess, I am attracting positive forces to my life, I am not a "player" but if I happen to find a really good friend what is the harm? However I realize there are those that are predatory and that people must be cautious.
I am a dreamer....what are you?
wildrose70 said:
Awwwwww gee sweetie...not all of us are cynical and hard....actually I'm very soft, cuddly and loving....just too darned far away!!!!
John Roberts said:
I agree with Suzi...you are a sweetie.
JR
Emerald_eyed said:
John Roberts said:Suzi said:
The trick is John: dispense with the catchy lines and phrases, be yourself---be REAL.
you presume too much.
The core is a dark mass of depression, my experience is that people are really not willing to form friendships with those trying to deal with depression. I am a responsible person and will not let a relationship go too far without letting that person know what I am all about. As far as showing my real self, I doubt anybody does, most people cannot even look at themselves in an honest light. I am not a "player" but if I happen to find a really good friend what is the harm? However I realize there are those that are predatory and that people must be cautious.
I am a dreamer....what are you?
Not everything I say is a presumption John; I apologize if my statements are in anyway ambiguous.
I understand all too well about depression, as I have Borderline Personality Disorder. When men or ladies ask if I work and I tell them I am disabled, they ask why. They hear that diagnosis and you can almost feel the change... They think you are some kind of basket case. Sometimes I feel like one....lol. but like you, I am striving. I am on meds.
As for doubting if ANYbody shows their real self, I am glad you said doubt (insinuating it is your opinion). There are people who hide behind the 'net mask, to be sure. There are also some who even in person, still hide behind a mask and only show their most sensitive innermost selves to people they COMPLETELY trust. Surely you must understand what THAT is like?
As to what I am, I am an idealist, with a sprinkling of dreamer.
Suzi said:
"I understand all too well about depression, as I have Borderline Personality Disorder. When men or ladies ask if I work and I tell them I am disabled, they ask why. They hear that diagnosis and you can almost feel the change... They think you are some kind of basket case. Sometimes I feel like one....lol. but like you, I am striving. I am on meds."
I have victimized myself with anxiety and depression most of my life, I do not respond well to meds so I use the cognitive method(Stimulus-interpretation-feeling) which until it becomes habitual is very difficult to accomplish(Got to interrupt the auto-pilot thought processes). My family is very dysfunctional so basically they attempt to undermine my efforts to better myself because it is a threat to their denial about themselves......I am the most sane out of the lot
"As for doubting if ANYbody shows their real self, I am glad you said doubt (insinuating it is your opinion). There are people who hide behind the 'net mask, to be sure. There are also some who even in person, still hide behind a mask and only show their most sensitive innermost selves to people they COMPLETELY trust. Surely you must understand what THAT is like?".
John Roberts said:
I believe us to be more alike than we realize
