Anyone on right now?
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ScarlettRose
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Hey puppi, nope you're not alone. What's wrong?
Anymore, that is a loaded question. Where to begin...where to begin?
I guess the fast summary is: My life sucks.
I fear my relationship is falling apart. Most nights I sleep on the couch. I have not had sex since last Dec. Every night my fiance sits at his computer (next to my computer where I am checking posts at Lit) and jacks off to "porn that isn't even porn". (He jacks off to pics of women on the net in their clothes-mostly.) I don't know what to do anymore...
I guess the fast summary is: My life sucks.
I fear my relationship is falling apart. Most nights I sleep on the couch. I have not had sex since last Dec. Every night my fiance sits at his computer (next to my computer where I am checking posts at Lit) and jacks off to "porn that isn't even porn". (He jacks off to pics of women on the net in their clothes-mostly.) I don't know what to do anymore... 
deliciously_naughty
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is it your apt? Kick him out...
Diablogrl
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Have you tried talking to him? Is there some reason that he doesn't want to have sex anymore?
I'm only in my mid-20s, so my experience with men has always been unsuccessful, but it would seem that if your relationship isn't working out like you want, and especially if the physical side is very deficient, it may be time to leave him. There's nothing harder than considering it, especially if the two of you are engaged, but my last relationship was great until the sex went bad...which was only a manifestation of the fact the two of us were growing apart.
You deserve only the best...and clearly you aren't getting it.
I'm only in my mid-20s, so my experience with men has always been unsuccessful, but it would seem that if your relationship isn't working out like you want, and especially if the physical side is very deficient, it may be time to leave him. There's nothing harder than considering it, especially if the two of you are engaged, but my last relationship was great until the sex went bad...which was only a manifestation of the fact the two of us were growing apart.
You deserve only the best...and clearly you aren't getting it.
Diablogrl said:
I try. When I try to get him to open up, he gets mad.
I don't know what I'm doing here. (On this thread.) I guess I just needed to vent some and get this out. I'm not looking to "advice" or "help"...just some people to say "hi" or whatever.
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Puppi said:
It is. I love him. This is complicated. I'm not a high school kid who is going to "dump" a guy because times are "tough"...
Hun, no offense, but if he's not letting you touch him and you guys haven't had sex since december, times for you are a bit more than just "tough".
Don't mean to patronize. But i've been there and done that. Hung on to it for 18 months. Sometimes, no matter how much you love, it doesn't work.
it just doesn't work..................................
Diablogrl
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well hi then....and feel free to vent some more.
I apologize for giving unwanted advice...for some unknown reason, my friends use me as their own personal advice column. Unfortunately, giving bad advice has now become second nature.
I think its like the saying, "those that can't, teach"...or in my case, give advice.
I apologize for giving unwanted advice...for some unknown reason, my friends use me as their own personal advice column. Unfortunately, giving bad advice has now become second nature.
I think its like the saying, "those that can't, teach"...or in my case, give advice.
Diablogrl...
No need to apologize. I never stated in the beginning what I was "looking for" in my thread.
I know what it's like being the "community shrink", though. And, I gotta tell ya, sometimes we flip out too. I've often asked others: Where do the advice givers go when they need help?
No need to apologize.
I never stated in the beginning what I was "looking for" in my thread.I know what it's like being the "community shrink", though. And, I gotta tell ya, sometimes we flip out too.
I've often asked others: Where do the advice givers go when they need help? 
T.H. Oughts
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Tiggs it sounds like your man needs to chat to someone... It sounds like it's more than just you darlin....
I wish I had an answer that would fix every thing for you....
I wish I had an answer that would fix every thing for you....
Thank you, T.H.
Heroic, my man and I are the exact opposites of our sexual stereotypes. I have (had, before this trouble started) a high sex drive, he does not. I am the one who was into "kinky" things and introduced him. I am the one who is open about sex and tries to get him to be more open...
Heroic, my man and I are the exact opposites of our sexual stereotypes. I have (had, before this trouble started) a high sex drive, he does not. I am the one who was into "kinky" things and introduced him. I am the one who is open about sex and tries to get him to be more open...
