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anyone like overwieght guys?
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pleasteasme
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highguy18ky said:
I like the big cuddly teddy bear look. . . but more importantly, I like what is inside, not outside.
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I've heard that alot, but never experianced it. I think it's just something seen in movies and from gals hundreds of miles away!
pleasteasme said:I like the big cuddly teddy bear look. . . but more importantly, I like what is inside, not outside.
I've heard that alot, but never experianced it. I think it's just something seen in movies and from gals hundreds of miles away!
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Re: Re: Re: anyone like overwieght guys?
So, I think you are calling me a L*@r? WOW, I never. . . . . Too bad you think that. . . .
I wonder too though, if it were reversed? I know that there is the BBW thread, but are men really attracted to BBW? Or is that something they say to get more PM's? *to turn the tables on your response?*
docsnore said:
So, I think you are calling me a L*@r? WOW, I never. . . . .
Too bad you think that. . . .I wonder too though, if it were reversed? I know that there is the BBW thread, but are men really attracted to BBW? Or is that something they say to get more PM's? *to turn the tables on your response?*
I didn't mean to ruffle your feathers Pleasteasme! I was trying to get some response with i did get from you. Thank you.
But being a man of extra size I find that i can make friends but no one seems to want to go that extra step. I really meant that the only ones that seem to say those things are the gals that are in relationships or a safe distant apart.
As for so many men saying the reverse, I sometimes wonder that same question. Do some feel that a BBW is an easy target for sex? I personnelly would never know what a thin gal is like and would feel uncomfortable and have a silly fear of smothering/breaking her. And yes I do like a woman with size. In fact i do have a date with a wonderful gal this weekend that after time we got to know each other. I think we both share the same concerns about the size issuse, but there truely is more then the outside package. Sounds like a typical comment form the big person, but it really is true, and it is something learned with age too.
So let me tell you I do believe you. Just never experianced it myself.
Doc
Well that might stir things up a bit in here!
Have a great day!
But being a man of extra size I find that i can make friends but no one seems to want to go that extra step. I really meant that the only ones that seem to say those things are the gals that are in relationships or a safe distant apart.
As for so many men saying the reverse, I sometimes wonder that same question. Do some feel that a BBW is an easy target for sex? I personnelly would never know what a thin gal is like and would feel uncomfortable and have a silly fear of smothering/breaking her. And yes I do like a woman with size. In fact i do have a date with a wonderful gal this weekend that after time we got to know each other. I think we both share the same concerns about the size issuse, but there truely is more then the outside package. Sounds like a typical comment form the big person, but it really is true, and it is something learned with age too.
So let me tell you I do believe you. Just never experianced it myself.
Doc
Well that might stir things up a bit in here!
Have a great day!
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Personally, i drool over a man who has a belly than over a guy who has a hard six pack. There's only one thing on a man that i care about whether it gets hard or not. The rest can be a "give and take".
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just a quick reply from the other side of the table as a bbw most of the guys I have spoken to that claim to love Big women it is usually just a way to get a woman to them pm them. I did one time have a guy tell me he wanted a big woman because they are usually so desperate they will let him do anything or act anyway he wanted and he never had to worry about them cheating on him because who else would want them. whats on the inside is what really matters, unfortunately a lot cant see past the wrapping paper
bbwsweetiekat33 said:
Thank you sweetiekat for your comment and forwardness. I also am sorry for that jerk that told you that, but at least he spoke his mind, and you knew where he was coming from.
Ok with that said, I'm sorry if my intical response was negative. But on the other hand i do feel there is much double talk and pertending just to get a person to talk or PM. I'm glad to here there are loving ladies that apperciate a man for more then his size. And just like Erimale, i don't think height is frowned upon as much as weight, but then again, i'm 5'11", and don't see from your view. Good luck to you.
Now where are the 40'ish ladies, that love anextra large man in Illinois? Hmmmmm??
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I'm a fairly big guy and, just to let the fellow big boys know, it really is your mind and personality, how you carry yourself, that will get noticed over your weight. Same is true for women.
Yeah, unless you meet someone online or over a phone dating service or some other non-visual medium, you take notice of appearances first. It's unavoidable. And, yeah, we tend to make snap decisions on attraction based solely on appearances. I think we're all shallow to one degree or another. We all have those little physical traits we like, whether it's big breasts or big muscles, red hair and green eyes or blonde hair and blue eyes, short and cute or tall, dark, and handsome. But unless it's purely sexual - and I mean purely sexual, like meet, not say a word, fuck, and then instantly leave without talking - the personality is going to be the more important factor. Being intelligent, funny, caring, outgoing, respectful, and confident are going to make you more attractive to a member of the opposite sex than any physical traits. But the catch is, you really have to be comfortable in your own skin. You have to be confident, maybe even a little cocky or arrogant. But it's not something you can fake. You genuinely have to like who you are and how you look.
I don't consider myself to be a great looking guy. I'm certainly not hideous, but I'm not GQ material by a long shot. And, yet, I've had some insanely hot girlfriends in the past. You know those fat bastards you see walking through plazas with gorgeous cheerleader/model type women clinging to them? I've been one of those guys. Of course, I've also dated cute, girl-next-door types, short and thick women, tall women, plump women... I'm attracted to all types of women, assuming they have the mind and personality to hook me. Looks are definitely nice and a great body is always a treat - and, keep in mind, what one person finds attractive doesn't always match another person's opinion, so there is no true universal concept of beauty, only a socially skewed and corporately marketed image of what some people think beauty should be - but it's really the chemistry between two people that matters most.
If you're overweight (or short or bucktoothed or whatever), but you're comfortable with and confident in yourself, you should be able to attract the sort of person you're looking for. If you aren't comfortable in your skin and aren't truly confident in yourself, then you need to work on that before you worry about finding someone for relationship, or you're just going to fuck up the relationship when you start having doubts, start questioning what that person sees in you and why they're with you. (And, for the record, it's exactly that insecurity and self-loathing that some people prey on when they use people for sex or money or whatever. If you think you're worthless and unattractive, if you don't love and respect yourself, you can be sure that's exactly what other people will think of you, too.)
Oh, and if you're angry, hostile, and bitter over the fact that women don't just flock to you...yeah, trust me, that's going to kill a woman's interest regardless of what you look like.
Yeah, unless you meet someone online or over a phone dating service or some other non-visual medium, you take notice of appearances first. It's unavoidable. And, yeah, we tend to make snap decisions on attraction based solely on appearances. I think we're all shallow to one degree or another. We all have those little physical traits we like, whether it's big breasts or big muscles, red hair and green eyes or blonde hair and blue eyes, short and cute or tall, dark, and handsome. But unless it's purely sexual - and I mean purely sexual, like meet, not say a word, fuck, and then instantly leave without talking - the personality is going to be the more important factor. Being intelligent, funny, caring, outgoing, respectful, and confident are going to make you more attractive to a member of the opposite sex than any physical traits. But the catch is, you really have to be comfortable in your own skin. You have to be confident, maybe even a little cocky or arrogant. But it's not something you can fake. You genuinely have to like who you are and how you look.
I don't consider myself to be a great looking guy. I'm certainly not hideous, but I'm not GQ material by a long shot. And, yet, I've had some insanely hot girlfriends in the past. You know those fat bastards you see walking through plazas with gorgeous cheerleader/model type women clinging to them? I've been one of those guys. Of course, I've also dated cute, girl-next-door types, short and thick women, tall women, plump women... I'm attracted to all types of women, assuming they have the mind and personality to hook me. Looks are definitely nice and a great body is always a treat - and, keep in mind, what one person finds attractive doesn't always match another person's opinion, so there is no true universal concept of beauty, only a socially skewed and corporately marketed image of what some people think beauty should be - but it's really the chemistry between two people that matters most.
If you're overweight (or short or bucktoothed or whatever), but you're comfortable with and confident in yourself, you should be able to attract the sort of person you're looking for. If you aren't comfortable in your skin and aren't truly confident in yourself, then you need to work on that before you worry about finding someone for relationship, or you're just going to fuck up the relationship when you start having doubts, start questioning what that person sees in you and why they're with you. (And, for the record, it's exactly that insecurity and self-loathing that some people prey on when they use people for sex or money or whatever. If you think you're worthless and unattractive, if you don't love and respect yourself, you can be sure that's exactly what other people will think of you, too.)
Oh, and if you're angry, hostile, and bitter over the fact that women don't just flock to you...yeah, trust me, that's going to kill a woman's interest regardless of what you look like.
Well,
I am tiny...105 lbs and I have been in search of a man to fulfill my latest fantasy of over 65...(older the better) and a belly is requirement.
I must be in my grandpa mode or something.
So yeah babe, there a few of us out here that LOVE getting on top of a big guy. I feel we both win...I get my fantasy fulfilled and he does too.
Good luck darlin
I am tiny...105 lbs and I have been in search of a man to fulfill my latest fantasy of over 65...(older the better) and a belly is requirement.
I must be in my grandpa mode or something.
So yeah babe, there a few of us out here that LOVE getting on top of a big guy. I feel we both win...I get my fantasy fulfilled and he does too.
Good luck darlin
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let's hear it for us big guys!!!
Everyone has made some very valid comments. But I have to ask doc, has your weight issue been initiated by the general public, meaning, were you teased while growing up. My weight issue has made me hate the idea of meeting people. I am so self conscious, after so many years of being ridiculed. Modern mephisto is right about its all the way you carry yourself. But if youve been tormented all your life, you tend not to carry yourself well. I have been called ugly by my mother for being overweight. My brother and his friends ridiculed me growing up, and I still remember when I was eight my mother took me to the doctors about it. He said, quit buying him bigger clothes and he'll have to stop eating. This was coming from a doctor who had to be tipping the scale at 300 lbs. And left family practice to be a shrink...go figure!!!
Oh yeah... I salute you ladies that know a mans heart shouldn't be measured by his waist size!!!
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Everyone has made some very valid comments. But I have to ask doc, has your weight issue been initiated by the general public, meaning, were you teased while growing up. My weight issue has made me hate the idea of meeting people. I am so self conscious, after so many years of being ridiculed. Modern mephisto is right about its all the way you carry yourself. But if youve been tormented all your life, you tend not to carry yourself well. I have been called ugly by my mother for being overweight. My brother and his friends ridiculed me growing up, and I still remember when I was eight my mother took me to the doctors about it. He said, quit buying him bigger clothes and he'll have to stop eating. This was coming from a doctor who had to be tipping the scale at 300 lbs. And left family practice to be a shrink...go figure!!!
Oh yeah... I salute you ladies that know a mans heart shouldn't be measured by his waist size!!!
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Pearl Diver,
The answer is no. I really never had the weight ridicule issue. And i agree with MM for the most part, Bu ti don't sit around whineing about my self and never had, I take my owe issues in hand. I was just responding, not in anger but it reality that a larger guy just doesn't turn the heads and get the come ons. That is all. I'm sorry that you grew up with that kind of rejection. it often makes matters worse.
Excessive weight isn't just a problem from over eating, and i'm not copeing out about it. but your owe metabolizim. How many of you have ever eaten with someone that eats more and is still tiny, and they don't work out either.
I am thankful that there are ladies that can see past it. I do know that personnely now too. Why can't us fatty's and skinny's get along and instead of saying it like i like a big man or BBW, just look at a person and see the person first? and just be attracted because they make you feel good.
The answer is no. I really never had the weight ridicule issue. And i agree with MM for the most part, Bu ti don't sit around whineing about my self and never had, I take my owe issues in hand. I was just responding, not in anger but it reality that a larger guy just doesn't turn the heads and get the come ons. That is all. I'm sorry that you grew up with that kind of rejection. it often makes matters worse.
Excessive weight isn't just a problem from over eating, and i'm not copeing out about it. but your owe metabolizim. How many of you have ever eaten with someone that eats more and is still tiny, and they don't work out either.
I am thankful that there are ladies that can see past it. I do know that personnely now too. Why can't us fatty's and skinny's get along and instead of saying it like i like a big man or BBW, just look at a person and see the person first? and just be attracted because they make you feel good.
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I couldn't agree with you more.pleasteasme said:I like the big cuddly teddy bear look. . . but more importantly, I like what is inside, not outside.
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Re: Re: Re: anyone like overwieght guys?
There you go, Hunny! Movies are not'real life'.docsnore said:
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i don't post very often unfortunetly, and it's threads like this that make me regret that fact. i'm a large guy, 6'2" and quite overweight ( not sure by how much, kinda afraid to find out).
Attraction does seem to have more to do with how one carries themselves rather than looks, at least once the initial contact has been made. My youth and the ridicuale i went through, be cause of my size, did create a ratrher large social anxiety so that tends to be my downfall. But at the same time, it does tend to be difficult let alone immpossible to find a woman who actually prefers large men.
and the whole idea of men seeking out bbw's simply because they seem easier is reprehensable. I tend to find myself attracted to large women more so than not, if for no other reason than i assume them to be more accepting. eventhough it seems like many are just as bigoted towards fat men as thier skinny counterparts.
Attraction does seem to have more to do with how one carries themselves rather than looks, at least once the initial contact has been made. My youth and the ridicuale i went through, be cause of my size, did create a ratrher large social anxiety so that tends to be my downfall. But at the same time, it does tend to be difficult let alone immpossible to find a woman who actually prefers large men.
and the whole idea of men seeking out bbw's simply because they seem easier is reprehensable. I tend to find myself attracted to large women more so than not, if for no other reason than i assume them to be more accepting. eventhough it seems like many are just as bigoted towards fat men as thier skinny counterparts.
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Gentlemen, if you don't mind. I am a bbw and I like larger men. I don't want the attitude that comes with the "Barbie" mentality or maybe that should be "Ken" mentality.
I like my men confident, strong, and unafraid to deal with whatever I happen to throw at them. And sometimes that can be a double handful believe me.
The biggest man that I have ever had sex with was over 500 lbs. He was an absolute joy and I would do it again in a heartbeat. Why? Because of his attitude and his self confidence.
I like my men confident, strong, and unafraid to deal with whatever I happen to throw at them. And sometimes that can be a double handful believe me.
The biggest man that I have ever had sex with was over 500 lbs. He was an absolute joy and I would do it again in a heartbeat. Why? Because of his attitude and his self confidence.
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I am a big man 6\2 275 and I also love bbw, I am not against thinner women however bbw are my preference
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highguy18ky said:
It's what's inside that counts, highguy...don't ever forget that.
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Re: Re: anyone like overwieght guys?
So true and the ones that won't look past the outside to see that, well, I don't waste my time.
sweetestdreams said:It's what's inside that counts, highguy...don't ever forget that.
So true and the ones that won't look past the outside to see that, well, I don't waste my time.
Missingmeds said:
Yes!!!! AMEN! So Right.
I so agree. After years of hunks, jocks, and hotties that treated me like I was their Barbie doll, I am so OVER THAT!!! Although I admit I enjoy looking at hot guys, they don't get very far with me. I have found that the fun guy that tags along with the hotties, you know who they are...end up being the coolest ones. Much to the shagrin of the "stud" they sometimes call me a freak cuz I'll surpass them for their less attractive, chubby or whatever friend.
Fat, bald, old, handicap, you name it is sexy to me if the man is smart, fun, clean, respectful and sexually creative and expressive.
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My bubbie has gained weight since we have been together. He has gained about 40 or 50 xtra lbs, but I love him better now, then when we first got together in High School. But then again...I am about that much larger than I was too, guess 3 kids and getting older does that to you.
I am a BBW and I love my life and my husband. I agree, not All women like Ken's.
Have a great day sweetie
I am a BBW and I love my life and my husband. I agree, not All women like Ken's.
Have a great day sweetie
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MM,I sure do like your posts,but I love your attitude!Highguy-that's what it's all about...attitude.Not the stuck on yourself kind,but the kind where you see yourself for who you really are.I'm a BBW and an older one at that.If someone doesn't like me,well,tough shit!This is me!Take it, or get the hell out of my way,cause I have life to enjoy!I don't care if someone is GQ material,or how tall they are,or how much(or little)they weigh,as long as they have that sparkle of mischief in their eye's.As long as you know who you are,that's what attracts me.
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