Anyone ever get tired of vanilla?

[Cumonunow123]

Is anyone else’s spouse here super “vanilla”? Ever get tired of being force fed the same old flavor every time, wife not interested in trying new things much. Have gotten tired of asking things and getting told “no”, or made to feel my idea is “weird” or “not pure”. Wife was a virgin before me, wishing she had more experience sometimes. What can I do to get her to “learn” more without being the one to bring it up every time?

 

[Goldenfinger]

Is anyone else’s spouse here super “vanilla”? Ever get tired of being force fed the same old flavor every time, wife not interested in trying new things much. Have gotten tired of asking things and getting told “no”, or made to feel my idea is “weird” or “not pure”. Wife was a virgin before me, wishing she had more experience sometimes. What can I do to get her to “learn” more without being the one to bring it up every time?

My guess is that you’ve been with your wife 20 years give or take. Good luck

 

[Cumonunow123]

My guess is that you’ve been with your wife 20 years give or take. Good luck

You would be correct. 29 years.

 

[Mtnmike]

I used to complain all the time but I shouldn't have. We've been sexless last 13 years so my advice, keep quiet & enjoy it, it can be worse !!!!

 

[Goldenfinger]

I used to complain all the time but I shouldn't have. We've been sexless last 13 years so my advice, keep quiet & enjoy it, it can be worse !!!!

I believe you it could be worse. I have a buddy who complained to his wife about it and she made it way worse. We don’t hang out wit them anymore.

 

[Mtnmike]

I believe you it could be worse. I have a buddy who complained to his wife about it and she made it way worse. We don’t hang out wit them anymore.

Thank You, yeah I'd kill for even vanilla right now !!!

 

[hulmule]

Thank You, yeah I'd kill for even vanilla right now !!!

Yes take while you can, stock up on anything you can. Put it in your memory bank... You'll need it... lol

 

[Fingerfuxs]

Figure out how to bring up the words swinger , swinging.

Plant the seed , figure it out.

Let it be her idea , she googled AFF ,

Talk about what’s a good user name for yawl to use….joking hint hint.


It has to be her idea , curiosities are a feline pheromone, small talk is the garden to plant the seeds.


That and you have to be one slick mother fucker to pull it off. Once it’s done they will learn that woman have all the power swinging , they make the rules , no means no and swingers aren’t cheaters.

I’ve fucked more wife’s that where virgins when they got married then I can count on two hands. Some of the dawgs and I have had in depth conversations about how good their wife’s suck dick , fuck , handle two of us at one time ect. Ect ect.

You got this buddy , I’m rooting for you.

FF

 

[gunslinger42]

Vanila is awesome!

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[Darkenz]

I feel your pain here, I had my wife do they sex survey that I was completely amazed she actually did it and her score came back 97% vanilla. That was not a surprise to her and she completely thought that was a good thing. I am pretty sure she would take the vanilla out because it was to much flavor if she could and go with cold cream only. The same woman who complains on how the heck can people eat the same food 2 days in a row because it would be boring will have the same vanilla sex year after year. I know it could be worse but damn that does not make it good either.

What I just do not understand is does it not get boring for them as well?

 

[Cumonunow123]

I feel your pain here, I had my wife do they sex survey that I was completely amazed she actually did it and her score came back 97% vanilla. That was not a surprise to her and she completely thought that was a good thing. I am pretty sure she would take the vanilla out because it was to much flavor if she could and go with cold cream only. The same woman who complains on how the heck can people eat the same food 2 days in a row because it would be boring will have the same vanilla sex year after year. I know it could be worse but damn that does not make it good either.

What I just do not understand is does it not get boring for them as well?

My wife hasn’t taken the test here, but has taken a test on a similar type site and it showed how our answers matched. We matched on like 2 things. When I ask her about “fantasies” she either can’t come up with any, or they are boring AF. Happened last night. Decided to just go to sleep.

 

[BBCfan]

Yeah...this thread is scary. I have repeatedly shared all my kinks and fantasies with wife.

She is somewhat supportive and has done some hot kinky roleplay a few times...

but I think at her core she is vanilla and I'll always be hoping for more.

I am ok with vanilla often but need some kink mixed in. Have tried to make it very clear to her. I guess it's up to me to integrate it yet when I know she likely isn't that interested I just retreat into my fantasies and fuck her vanilla when she's horny.

In her defense life is very busy, especially for her so I do need to be patient and understanding.

Many replies here scare the shit outta me as to my chances of getting her more into kinkier sex more often.

The one poster seems right...has to be an inception of some sort perhaps.

 

[oneblueye]

hey...

I feel your pain here, I had my wife do they sex survey that I was completely amazed she actually did it and her score came back 97% vanilla. That was not a surprise to her and she completely thought that was a good thing. I am pretty sure she would take the vanilla out because it was to much flavor if she could and go with cold cream only. The same woman who complains on how the heck can people eat the same food 2 days in a row because it would be boring will have the same vanilla sex year after year. I know it could be worse but damn that does not make it good either.

What I just do not understand is does it not get boring for them as well?

you REALLY think that she is settling for just that vanilla that she relegates you to having???
I know of a bridge I think you may be interested in---.

 

[cqiam]

Why is Vanilla used interchangeably with "flavourless" or "dull'?

Vanilla is a really good flavour. Like there are Rice Krispy squares and then there are Rice Krispy squares with vanilla!

I mean, I do know why but Vanilla gets a bad rap as a flavour. For your consideration next time you have something vanilla flavoured

 

[PacerLJ35]

My ex-wife was very vanilla...she really wasn't interested in anything other than missionary. After I divorced, I dated a woman who was amazing in bed...definitely *not* vanilla. We fucked daily, any way imaginable. Problem was, she was a head case and was a nightmare to be in a relationship with.

Married my current wife almost 10 years ago...98% of the time she's a normal, every day "girl next door" wife. Wonderful lady...she doesn't fuck my brains out daily, but we have sex on a fairly regular basis...and she's really good in bed. And several years ago we began exploring our naughty, spicy side and we've been fantasizing about everything from public sex, voyeurism (she likes being watched), to having another man join us and both of us pleasuring her. It's a great sex life so far.

 

[HampshireBoy]

Why is Vanilla used interchangeably with "flavourless" or "dull'?

Vanilla is a really good flavour. Like there are Rice Krispy squares and then there are Rice Krispy squares with vanilla!

I mean, I do know why but Vanilla gets a bad rap as a flavour. For your consideration next time you have something vanilla flavoured

I agree entirely, a lot of vanilla can be good.

I guess the issue is one partner wanting something different and the other being unwilling to try.

My wife is fairly vanilla but is willing to explore and has made her own suggestions, however there are things that she won't try or I haven't tried suggesting.

 

[Fingerfuxs]

My ex-wife was very vanilla...she really wasn't interested in anything other than missionary. After I divorced, I dated a woman who was amazing in bed...definitely *not* vanilla. We fucked daily, any way imaginable. Problem was, she was a head case and was a nightmare to be in a relationship with.

Married my current wife almost 10 years ago...98% of the time she's a normal, every day "girl next door" wife. Wonderful lady...she doesn't fuck my brains out daily, but we have sex on a fairly regular basis...and she's really good in bed. And several years ago we began exploring our naughty, spicy side and we've been fantasizing about everything from public sex, voyeurism (she likes being watched), to having another man join us and both of us pleasuring her. It's a great sex life so far.

High ^5

V5 down low

This motherfucker is in the know lol

Good for you buddy , rock on with you bad self.

 

[Fingerfuxs]

I feel your pain here, I had my wife do they sex survey that I was completely amazed she actually did it and her score came back 97% vanilla. That was not a surprise to her and she completely thought that was a good thing. I am pretty sure she would take the vanilla out because it was to much flavor if she could and go with cold cream only. The same woman who complains on how the heck can people eat the same food 2 days in a row because it would be boring will have the same vanilla sex year after year. I know it could be worse but damn that does not make it good either.

What I just do not understand is does it not get boring for them as well?

I’m sorry to say it out loud dude. The fact she actually did the survey tells me it’s you not her. Think about this for a second , then digest it.

Women don’t want to be asked to be a freak in the bed room , they want to be shown , hand held into it. If you’re the one she wants to fuck without thinking about it and being spontaneous in the moment’s lust or planned out sexual adventures. You are going to have to man up.

Try this , look around the authors side of the site for a erotica story that you think is sexy and might make her wet. Copy and paste it , save it.

Find a moment when her good girl guard is down. Then and only then , face to face , tell her you found this for her. Pause ………..look her in the eye , smile , say out loud.

“I’m going to text you this , read it and let me know if it makes you wet. “ then leave the room.

Use your man voice , not your husband voice. Your fucking man voice. Wait , wait , wait


Have the balls to make her answer your question. “Did it make you wet “

Not are you horny now , what did you. Think , fuck that use the word WET

That’s a woman's boner , a throbbing hard I wanna fuck boner.

If you can get her wet you can be the Captain of the fuck ship , she’s crew and followers orders.

If that doesn’t work , you’re fuck’ta and boring sex it is.

Best of luck

 

[Islander55]

I am an older woman but have always enjoyed vanilla as long as I get my orgasm. I am no expert but I have been around the block a few times. If you want something other than vanilla, you need to start differently. Perhaps on vacation or in a different setting. Spend some relaxing time together so that she can unwind. Most women are not going to be the one to suggest or initiate something kinky so a guy needs to be suggestive without being pushy. Women are not all that different from men in that we do get horny and we do have some fantasies. From my experience, it is the guy with the gift of gab without being an ass that will have the most success. Generally we want to feel that we were talked into it and that it was not really our idea.

 

[Hipshot1554]

I am an older woman but have always enjoyed vanilla as long as I get my orgasm. I am no expert but I have been around the block a few times. If you want something other than vanilla, you need to start differently. Perhaps on vacation or in a different setting. Spend some relaxing time together so that she can unwind. Most women are not going to be the one to suggest or initiate something kinky so a guy needs to be suggestive without being pushy. Women are not all that different from men in that we do get horny and we do have some fantasies. From my experience, it is the guy with the gift of gab without being an ass that will have the most success. Generally we want to feel that we were talked into it and that it was not really our idea.

BINGO!!!!

 

[hanban24]

Not married but have been in more vanilla relationships before. Try to not let that sway my feelings of the relationship. Sex is a big deal to me, but shouldn’t be what ruins a good relationship.

 

[lil_jenni]

My Hubby is the (much) more vanilla one in our relationship. I've brought him along slowly, for the most part, on some of my kinks (rough sex, forced sex play, heavier bondage, Master/slave, cum play, etc.). But we've also compromised, and I have come to sometimes appreciate what he likes, which can be pretty darn vanilla.

And he has some hard limits. He won't be as rough as I can take. He won't incorporate other people (although we'll talk about it during), he's uncomfortable with age play if I'm playing too young, he won't permanently mark me (and even bruising me is sometimes too much for him), stuff like that. I live within those, although I would go for an FFM threesome or, to a lesser degree an MFM, in a heartbeat. And I'd give swinging a go if he wanted it. Shit, I'd do just about anything he wanted as long as it didn't hurt anyone else.

What I learned not to do was hit him all at once with the most extreme version of my kinks. Light bondage graduated to medium and now is sometimes verging on heavy. Forced sex play has gone from coercive or reluctance to full on me being forced. That didn't happen overnight. I worked up to it.

The OP didn't say what his kinks are, but maybe he could make them more palatable by watering them down, especially at first. If I'd told my Hubby he could fuck my throat hard enough to choke me or make me puke the first time he took control during a BJ, I think he would've had a stroke. But we started off slow, and now, if I catch him in the right mood, he is almost as rough as I want him to be.

 

[Naughtygirl201]

I’m sorry to say it out loud dude. The fact she actually did the survey tells me it’s you not her. Think about this for a second , then digest it.

Women don’t want to be asked to be a freak in the bed room , they want to be shown , hand held into it. If you’re the one she wants to fuck without thinking about it and being spontaneous in the moment’s lust or planned out sexual adventures. You are going to have to man up.

Try this , look around the authors side of the site for a erotica story that you think is sexy and might make her wet. Copy and paste it , save it.

Find a moment when her good girl guard is down. Then and only then , face to face , tell her you found this for her. Pause ………..look her in the eye , smile , say out loud.

“I’m going to text you this , read it and let me know if it makes you wet. “ then leave the room.

Use your man voice , not your husband voice. Your fucking man voice. Wait , wait , wait


Have the balls to make her answer your question. “Did it make you wet “

Not are you horny now , what did you. Think , fuck that use the word WET

That’s a woman's boner , a throbbing hard I wanna fuck boner.

If you can get her wet you can be the Captain of the fuck ship , she’s crew and followers orders.

If that doesn’t work , you’re fuck’ta and boring sex it is.

Best of luck

This is actually really good advice.... I had no idea I would enjoy things outside of vanilla until hubby taught me. He would just talk me through things... usually once we were already having sex. It was hard to deny that it got me going when I was soaking wet and coming on his cock. Not everything was a hit....but the ones that were....whoa! Now I'm probably the more adventurous one in the relationship and he has only himself to blame.

 

[Cumonunow123]

This is actually really good advice.... I had no idea I would enjoy things outside of vanilla until hubby taught me. He would just talk me through things... usually once we were already having sex. It was hard to deny that it got me going when I was soaking wet and coming on his cock. Not everything was a hit....but the ones that were....whoa! Now I'm probably the more adventurous one in the relationship and he has only himself to blame.

What types of things did he teach you? What things to you want to teach him?

 

[Naughtygirl201]

What types of things did he teach you? What things to you want to teach him?

That I like to get off on his thigh in sort of public places, be spanked, restrained, have my face fucked, lick his cock clean after sex, suck him off in the car, masturbate for him or watch him stroke, have anal, suck his cock with another woman (this is still a maybe but he's working on it very diligently). He learns from my responses and pushes me firmly but gently based on what works.