anyone else have some advice?

[Willing and Unsure]

so.. i've put this up once already... i guess i'm just lookin for some more advice on it.... and i'll start from the begining so it'll make some sense

two of my closest friends, say Joe and Lyn, are dating and have been for nearly 2.5 years. Lyn decides she's not happy and decides to end the relationship after having cheated on him twice (he doesnt know this, but i do). Joe receives the news and takes it somewhat badly. So Joe, being depressed, turns to his friend Dan for some advice. Well, Dan starts telling Joe that I told Lyn to break up with him because I wanted Joe to myself. and I know that is a lie, as does Lyn. But, Joe doesnt and wont talk to me to find out anything, or to Lyn for that matter about what I said to her. So now, Joe has decided not to have anything to do with me because of a lie. That has really pissed me off to the point of not wanting to talk to Joe anymore. And what makes it even worse is that Dan, Joe, Lyn and I used to all be the best of friends. Things happened and Dan and I grew apart some and dont really talk anymore, and Joe is still a good friend, as is Lyn.

So, what I'm getting at... would you just say screw it and not have anything to do with Joe anymore? (I've already washed my hands of Dan, so that's not a problem)

 

[Andra_Jenny]

If you realy want a response, I'd say it all sounds small, petty, and time for someone to cultivate some brand-spanking new friends. The younger you are the more seriously you take things like this, but after a while, these things will roll off you like rain on a duck's back. Like when you give your second wife the boot, much easier than when the first one split.

 

[Willing and Unsure]

well... i guess you're right AJ, this may seem petty to a lot of people, but i find it to be rather important to me. this friend that i may lose because of this has been there for me in some of the hardest times of my life and is the reason i am still here now. and for me to consider the thought of not having him anymore as a friend brings tears to my eyes, especially after all that we've been through.