Anyone care to give me a stroke?

[sophia jane]

You know, I really ought to be above this kind of thread, but I'm totally not. So I hope y'all will humor me.

I have a date today (second date) with a really great guy. The problem: through various circumstances I have over-analyzed things to death and have managed to completely doubt myself (again). So...anyone want to stroke my ego?

This whole dating thing is scary scary. It's been a long time (over two years) and I'm pretty freaked out by the whole thing. I'm hopeful, too, when I'm not all yucky cynical.

Anyway, wanna help a girl out? I've got a few hours to kill before I drive down to see him, and I could really use the boost.

 

[rgraham666]

A gorgeous, sweet woman like you hasn't a thing to worry about.

 

[lidien]

you seem sweet and very down to earth what would there be to be nervous about

 

[Guest]

relax and your beauty will shine.

try not to second guess things you do or he does.

you are a wonderfully beautiful woman.
(ive only been saying this forever)

enjoy!!!! smile tons cuz youve got this smile that can't be faked. your whole soul shows when you do.

 

[Salvor-Hardon]

oh sweet SJ.

you are a wonderful person, a fascinating woman and sexy to boot (yes I remember a series of avatars you did bare breasted and some with ropes that were positively drool inducing).

Be yourself, relax and have fun. I over think and analyze things to death as well, so I know the fear.

*great big hugs*

You'll be great sweety.

 

[neonlyte]

<swoon> who is the lucky b**

A date with SJ sounds the perfect way to spend a day

 

[JAMESBJOHNSON]

Focus on some special quality that sets you apart from everyone else on the planet.

I mean, if you had a date with Michaelangelo would you give a shit if he showed up in red high-top sneakers? No. The sonofabitch could chisel dreams from marble. You can do the same in your own special way. He/she wants to see you chisel a dream. Go do it.

 

[Guest]

Focus on some special quality that sets you apart from everyone else on the planet.

I mean, if you had a date with Michaelangelo would you give a shit if he showed up in red high-top sneakers? No. The sonofabitch could chisel dreams from marble. You can do the same in your own special way. He/she wants to see you chisel a dream. Go do it.

Know what James?

that was the perfect and most wonderful way to put it.

 

[sophia jane]

Thanks all! I love you bunches.

But don't stop.

 

[impressive]

You can enchant anyone you choose to, SJ. If he's worthy, he'll see your light.



Focus on having fun TODAY and try not to think about hanging on to tomorrow. That kind of worry feeds on insecurities.

I hope the day exceeds your highest expectations.

 

[Salvor-Hardon]

Oh and wear your sexiest underwear.

even if he never gets to see it, you know you are undressed to thrill.

 

[sophia jane]

Oh and wear your sexiest underwear.

even if he never gets to see it, you know you are undressed to thrill.

I'd absolutely already planned to do that. I love sexy underwear.

 

[SweetWitch]

As a goddess, you are mysterious and beautiful. Your smile holds promise and joy. That's what he wants. Your smile.

He's the one who should be nervous--and grateful that you've decided to see him again.

(And Sal has a good point about the undies. Feeling sexy underneath it all is great for building confidence. )

 

[impressive]

Know what James?

that was the perfect and most wonderful way to put it.

I love it, too. Chiseling dreams. Beautiful.

 

[Roxanne Appleby]

It's his lucky day. He has a date with a hot babe who in addition to being good looking is intelligent, creative, virtuous, and lots of other important stuff. Oh, and she hangs out on a porn board with intelligent erotica writers, where she occassionally flashes her gorgeous tits.

Are you kidding me? You are a dream come true for any red blooded American male.


PS. Check out Trom's "advice?" thread for some good words on being confident. Here's my take on that, based on personal experience I guess: If one fakes being confident long enough it becomes real.

 

[fifty5]

I have a date today (second date) with a really great guy. The problem: through various circumstances I have over-analyzed things to death and have managed to completely doubt myself (again). So...anyone want to stroke my ego?

I really want you to fail here, Sophia, so I have a chance at you myself. You are any guy's dream, not least mine.

Pretty
Witty
Sexy
Foxy

That guy's just so lucky...

Dreaming on,

 

[Vermilion]

This is a really random compliment, but I just noticed it in your AV and thought I'd mention it - you have really nice ankles. See, told you it was random, but shapely legs are something to be proud of - show them off a little.
And have fun
x
V

 

[Tarakin]

Don't think too much, enjoy the day and let things flow. He'll be all dreamy-eyed once he sees you and your smile

 

[Guest]

This is a really random compliment, but I just noticed it in your AV and thought I'd mention it - you have really nice ankles. See, told you it was random, but shapely legs are something to be proud of - show them off a little.
And have fun
x
V

and

she kisses divinely. true!

 

[impressive]

and

she kisses divinely. true!

Agreed.

 

[Ǽltya]

Anyway, wanna help a girl out? I've got a few hours to kill before I drive down to see him, and I could really use the boost.

SJ,

You are a truly beautiful lady, and any man (or woman) would be blessed to be near you for only a day, or if they were lucky, a lifetime.

EW

 

[sophia jane]

Thanks everyone. You've helped alot. Not that I necessarily feel differently about my day, but you've reminded me that I have alot to offer anyone and I needed that.
Plus, I know y'all aren't just blowing smoke up my ass. It helps that you all know me so well and have seen me through such shit.

But can you believe I just fucking burned all the dessert for tonight? Or rather...the oven did. I take no blame for a defective oven. *sigh* Should never have bragged about my kitchen skills.

 

[Chantilyvamp]

you are a seriously wonderful woman!

As for the dessert...throw together a quick cake or a fruit salad?

 

[impressive]

Thanks everyone. You've helped alot. Not that I necessarily feel differently about my day, but you've reminded me that I have alot to offer anyone and I needed that.
Plus, I know y'all aren't just blowing smoke up my ass. It helps that you all know me so well and have seen me through such shit.

But can you believe I just fucking burned all the dessert for tonight? Or rather...the oven did. I take no blame for a defective oven. *sigh* Should never have bragged about my kitchen skills.

Really easy, kinda different, and very tasty dessert recipe (that doesn't require much in the way of baking):

STRAWBERRY-PRETZEL DESSERT

Pretzels, crunched fine (not to powder, though)
Half a stick (or more) of butter (not margarine)

Strawberry Jell-O
Frozen whole strawberries

Cream cheese
Whipped cream (Cool Whip, if you don't wanna make fresh from whipping cream)

Make a crust with the crushed pretzels & butter (as thick as you prefer) -- bake at 250 for 20 minutes then stick in the 'frig to "set"

Place the frozen strawberries on top of the crust.

Prepare the Jell-O per box directions, but only add half of the amount of cold water. Pour over the strawberry-topped crust. Refrigerate while you prepare the "icing."

Mix a block of cream cheese with a batch of whipped cream. When the Jell-O has set, spread it on top.

You can add fancy touches (fresh strawberries or whatever) on top of the icing layer if you wanna.

 

[TheeGoatPig]

Thanks all! I love you bunches.

But don't stop.

Why would we stop? You are just great. Why else would he be going out with you? don't even try to answer that. There is no other reason than that he truly likes you and wants to be with you, just like any other sane guy out there.