Any words of Wisdom?

[Carl East]

Well, its just a little over two days to go, 17th August to be precise, and I'll be meeting my online lover for the very first time. I will be waiting at the train station, and I'm feeling quite nervous about it all.

So what should I look out for? Should I just try to stay cool and laid back? lol

Do I look for any signs in the eyes? I think you get my drift. lol

Carl

 

[cloudy]

It's normal to be nervous, Carl, but remember, the person you have grown to love over all this time is right there inside this new person you have to get used to. It won't take long before you get accustomed to each other.

Enjoy yourself, and I hope everything turns out as you want it to.

 

[Guest]

Carl, I so wish you both well. Have faith in yourself and in her. Take it from there.

Oh, and have fun!

best, Perdita

 

[pop_54]

Just be yourself mate... try to be anything else and you'll come over as 'false' when the real you does surface later.

Let her make the running... suggest but don't insist... I rather think you the guy will be less nervous than her, she has more to lose if it all goes pear shaped.

Meet as friends and allow it to develop into something more if that's the way it's going to go... Don't feel bad if it doesn't seem to be working out at first, it may take a while to get to know 'the real' both of you.

Other than that, have fun, and good luck mate.

pops...... Who's yet to have this pleasure


PS: Carl... when I say act yourself, I don't mean shove your hand straight up her skirt That might or might not work out

 

[sincerely_helene]

Bring flowers and booze.

 

[crbrianb]

You know, I have read many horror stories in the press about internet meatings going bad but I have never met anyone who told me that they personally had one of these disaster happen to them.

On the otherhand, I know of at least three people that have met the love of the their life over the internet. Based on this, I would bet that your meeting with your new lover will go OK. Just follow the advice of what the others have given you here, and most importantly, follow the advice in your own heart.

Best wishes to everything going right.

 

[Joe Wordsworth]

I never had any respect for online dating. I thought it was something that strange people did that amounted to loneliness and lack of options.

My best friend in college, a bright and attractive young man--who had no problems meeting women--met a girl in an online game called Ultima Online. They started talking through the MMO and AIM and e-mail...

Two years later, she came to college here.

Long story short, after four years, they're getting married this June.

I have since revised what I think of online dating-ness.

 

[Carl East]

Thanks everyone. It's all sound advice, and I will be taking it. I may be a little nervous, but I'm also very excited.

Carl

 

[Guest]

well.. i think you should

jump up and down, wave your arms in the air.. Whoop and Yehaw.. if she still comes to you, you know you have it made.

or you could.. make sure you have a hanky in your pocket to wipe the sweat off your hands so she wont know just how uptight you are when she goes to hold your hand.

either way.. have a blast doll.

 

[ABSTRUSE]

I would just pretend she's nothing like vella and things will be great....best of luck sweets.

 

[Guest]

I would just pretend she's nothing like vella and things will be great....best of luck sweets.

TART

but shes prolly right carl.. *shrugs*

 

[gauchecritic]

I've often wondered about this phenomenon. I know a few people that have met online then got on wonderfully well in RL.

It seems E-dating is completely opposite to RL dating. (shouldn't someone be earning their doctorate with a thesis on this?)

RL dating has physical attraction first and then gradually you get to know each other's personality. Two drawbacks.

1. In face to face meetings everyone holds something back up to and often beyond the 'talking til sunrise' event.

2. Physical attraction (or lack of) can be a barrier to meeting some very interesting people.

E-dating can give both 'partners' a deep connection irrespective of appearance and the nerves you get on meeting is more to do with a possible physical dislike of one or the other.

It seems (to me) that this part of meeting can be mostly forgotten as the deeper, ready made connection is able to overwhelm any physical distaste. That is to say, part 2 above is negated.

If you feel awkward when you meet, just find a cyber-cafe and chat away there, on-line. Or sit together on a park bench and text each other.

I'm sure you'll both find it a great experience and I wish you both shooting stars and a glorious sunrise.

Gauche

 

[matriarch]

I've often wondered about this phenomenon. I know a few people that have met online then got on wonderfully well in RL.

It seems E-dating is completely opposite to RL dating. (shouldn't someone be earning their doctorate with a thesis on this?)

RL dating has physical attraction first and then gradually you get to know each other's personality. Two drawbacks.

1. In face to face meetings everyone holds something back up to and often beyond the 'talking til sunrise' event.

2. Physical attraction (or lack of) can be a barrier to meeting some very interesting people.

E-dating can give both 'partners' a deep connection irrespective of appearance and the nerves you get on meeting is more to do with a possible physical dislike of one or the other.

It seems (to me) that this part of meeting can be mostly forgotten as the deeper, ready made connection is able to overwhelm any physical distaste. That is to say, part 2 above is negated.

If you feel awkward when you meet, just find a cyber-cafe and chat away there, on-line. Or sit together on a park bench and text each other.

I'm sure you'll both find it a great experience and I wish you both shooting stars and a glorious sunrise.

Gauche

Ditto.
Concisely put.
In this medium, all we have are words to show the person we are, and no matter how much you may try to hide it, I truly believe that the real 'you' will show up not only in your choice of words, but also in how you use those words - just as clearly as body language.

Be nervous Carl, its expected for a first meeting.
Then relax, enjoy, have a wonderful time.

Oh, and you do realise you have to tell us all about it afterwards, don't you ????

Bon chance, mon ami.

Mat

 

[English Lady]

I met my now husband online. Our first meeting was sprung upon me last minute but I was still totally nervous. It was a little awkward at first but then we began to walk and talk. we started off on online topics who was doing what with whome etc and moved on from there. After 10 mins we were walking hand in hand talking like we'd know each other forever.

Don't force it, just go with the flow and see where it leads

 

[Carl East]

Well, the first day has gone by and I have to say she is just as lovely in person as she is online. I'm a very happy man. We're going up town today, she wants to see the market. I feel like a school boy again, who has a crush. lol

Love! Isn't it great?

Carl

 

[Guest]

*melt*
very very very happy for the two of you.
congrats doll.
enjoy and revel in your new found love!

 

[SensualCealy]

Woooo Hoooo Carl!
Glad to hear things went well for the two of you. She already knows you from being together on the computer, your likes, dislikes, quirks, etc. Don't be nervous, you will only scare her! lol

Best of luck, doing the happy dance for ya!
Cealy

 

[SummerMorning]

and rosemary...

a sprig of basil

some pelati

stir vigorously

don't forget pasta al dente...



Just trying to say have a blast!

 

[Carl East]

I just saw her off on the coach to Gatwick Airport, and Christ did the tears flow! I'm going to miss her something chronic. It was the best two weeks of my life, and I'm going over there for Christmas. Last night in bed, we just held one another and cried unashamedly until she fell asleep.

Personally, I couldn't sleep. I had to stay up so that I was wide awake when she had to catch the coach. That was at the ungodly hour of 4.30am. Still, I just thought I'd let you know how well it all went, and how much we're in love with one another.

I'm so happy for the first time in years, it's hard to discribe. lol

Carl

 

[cloudy]

I just saw her off on the coach to Gatwick Airport, and Christ did the tears flow! I'm going to miss her something chronic. It was the best two weeks of my life, and I'm going over there for Christmas. Last night in bed, we just held one another and cried unashamedly until she fell asleep.

Personally, I couldn't sleep. I had to stay up so that I was wide awake when she had to catch the coach. That was at the ungodly hour of 4.30am. Still, I just thought I'd let you know how well it all went, and how much we're in love with one another.

I'm so happy for the first time in years, it's hard to discribe. lol

Carl

I'm so glad for you, Carl. You deserve to be happy.

 

[Guest]

Adding my best wishes and congratulations! Love is grand!

So happy your time together was even more than you both had dreamed.





(and I know you're counting the days until the next time . . .)

 

[cantdog]

Love's the best, dude. It beats the hell out of card games.

You really can get to know someone through long correspondence. The internet has done this service for so many people. All the best, carl.

 

[Belegon]

I just saw her off on the coach to Gatwick Airport, and Christ did the tears flow! I'm going to miss her something chronic. It was the best two weeks of my life, and I'm going over there for Christmas. Last night in bed, we just held one another and cried unashamedly until she fell asleep.

Personally, I couldn't sleep. I had to stay up so that I was wide awake when she had to catch the coach. That was at the ungodly hour of 4.30am. Still, I just thought I'd let you know how well it all went, and how much we're in love with one another.

I'm so happy for the first time in years, it's hard to discribe. lol

Carl

That is just awesome. Totally awesome.

Sorry, I know that reaction is very Spicoli. But it was the first thing that came to mind.

Very happy for you Carl.

 

[gauchecritic]

Ain't life grand?

Take care of it Carl.

Gauche

 

[Guest]