Any tips for the 2nd time?

[Obraxis]

Hi all, I've been reading the boards for a while and they've helped me with getting through my first time, so thanx to you all!

I'm 21, and my last girl couldn't have sex because of a psycologial problem. I was with her for 3 years until I foind out she had been seeing our college lecturer behind my back.

Anyway, Im in a great relationship now and we recently had sex - my first time. She has a lot of experience and she made me feel confortable. Unfortunatly we didnt have a lot of time to get on with it so we skipped the foreplay. I looked at the clock - I had lasted about 12 mins before I couldnt hold back, I felt really bad because she was really getting into it. She said it was ok and that she still enjoyed it but I still felt bad.

So I wanna know, what would you suggest for our 2nd time together (my 2nd time in total)? I wanna make her come really bad!!!

Thx

 

[Dobbin]

12 mins for first time is good.

For second time togeather I whould suggest jacking off a few hours before you due to meet so when it comes to penetration you will be a little less horny and beable to hold alot longer. believe me this really does work for newbies to sex as well as experianced.

Try to concentrate on lots of foreplay before you get to penetration also use you hands explore her body go south with the mouth etc. Ladys love lots of foreplay.

 

[cricketbug]

I have to agree with Dobbin. I'm a woman and 12 mins. is great for a 1st time!

From a personal standpoint -- When my "other half" and I first got together when we were dating, he didn't last much past the 12 mins. either (and he'd had sex before). I think it's all from excitement and just wanting so desperately to be with your new girl.

Definately use foreplay, es'pecially if you are one of those guys who can "feel" you're ready to cum. May sound weird, but if you can hold off cumming until she has had an orgasm at least once. I know it helps some of the guys I've talked to.

I guess that's just my 2 1/2 cents. If you want more from my perspective, drop me a PM!

"the bug"

 

[jasmine8316]

Make sure you romance her before to. Setting the mood is just as important in a loving relationship as doing the deed. It wouldn't hurt to stash some candles in the closet. When she gets ready for bed light the candles, put on some music, have some wine ready...

Or..draw her a bath with some rose scented oil, and candles. Give her some privacy while you set up the room. Then when she comes to bed give her all the foreplay she can stand. And yes that includes lots of kissing and clit licking. Tell her it's her turn. I'm sure you'll get rewarded in the end.

 

[ReadyOne]

Even if you're "rushed" you can almost always go down on her and get her going good before you enter her. Even if she doesn't come before you start fucking, you can get her so close that she'll be coming very soon after you start. Then it's 12 minutes of orgasms for her, not 12 minutes getting to an orgasm.

 

[Relentless]

Congrats! I think twelve minutes is about eleven minutes longer than I lasted my first time.

Be careful with the foreplay. Don't let her give you too much attention right before penetration, it helps you calm down a bit. If you feel your orgasm building too quickly, you can allows go to the old standby: Math. Do some complicated math problems in your head until she gets close to cumming. I like to try to figure out my paycheck after taxes. (I'm a wage slave, guess that wouldn't work on salary.)

Bug: I'm like your guy. I terrible the first time I have sex with someone new. I get too excited. I like to make up for it in future encounters though....

 

[slave to pain]

Bug: I'm like your guy. I terrible the first time I have sex with someone new. I get too excited. I like to make up for it in future encounters though....

Women like men who learn from their mistakes!

 

[Obraxis]

Hey guys! Thx for all the replys thus far! She's on holiday at the moment with her family, but I'm planning a special evening in a top local hotel for when she gets back. I'll let her have whatever she wants for a night

 

[cryoni]

In reguards to lasting longer I suggest getting a cock ring, it goes around the base of your penis and keeps you hard for alot longer. It also helps keep that orgasm at bay for a few more minutes.
Sometimes thats all your girl needs to have one herself.

P.S. I wonuld talk to her about getting a vibrating toy so she can use it on her clit during sex. She'll really love the attention.

 

[English Lady]

Communicate with her is something i would add. It can be a bit embarassing at first talking about sex....but do it when you're relaxed(maybe after this second time) and just find out what she enjoys and what her fantasies and sexual wants are....and she can find out yours too then. It will help you be more in touch with what you both desire.

 

[jupiter lilly]

Foreplay...such a good thing...

I have to say though...as far as getting to excited the first time and not lasting long...

Although it may not be a complete experience for her, in that she doesn't come...I can say for me, when I can see a guy gets that excited about being with me, it turns me on incredibly...and get's me totally psyched for the next time.