Any other "silk" dommes here?

[three eyes open]

Hello everybody, I'm a newbie and I'd like to find others like myself.

I'm a switch and it took me a while to realize this. Why? Simply put, the leather-clad domme is a much more common image, both in BDSM and vanilla circles. But it's not my style.

The switch from sub to domme wasn't as difficult for me as you might think because I've never been into the humiliation scene from either side. As a sub, I wear lingerie or nothing.

As a domme, I wear a simple silk kimono or satin gown. My favorite punishment is paddling, but I'm a relatively gentle top. I punish when the sub is naughty and reward when they're good. (Note: the reward might include candle wax. To me, that's too sexy to be a punishment.) Of course, it would be boring if the sub were good all the time.

So are there any others like me around? If so, what kinds of things do you like to do? I'd like to know more about the kinds of scenes you're into, pleasures and punishments, and the like.

And thanks to everyone in advance for participating.

Blessed be,
3eyes

 

[aerofreak]

I'm not exactly a 'silk' Domme, but I'm not the leather & chains type either (although, I do occationally like all three). I'm more of a nudist, or just whatever I find comfortable that day.

as for play/punishment, I'm not the kind to torture someone for either. paddling or spanking can go either way (depending on how the sub feels about it, and how hard I'm paddling). but mostly, I prefer to reward My subs rather than having to punish them, so I'm hoping for boys who will behave for My Girlfriend and Me, thus earning rewards rather than getting punished constantly (really, the rewards are much more fun for A/all involved).

 

[lark sparrow]

Adding to the sampling

my Domme has no leather-wearing leanings at all, and actually has "Silken" in Her name. Dressing up in "Domme" gear seems to hold very little appeal to Her. (Personally I adore leather, and She appreciates that I wear it and collect toys that are leather, but it holds no special, personal appeal to Her. Silk is erotic material too though.)

However, She is definitely a sadist (plus strictly Domme), and has a real fondness for chains lol. So many varieties and expressions.

 

[Caitlynne]

I see you found your way over here 3 eyes, I'm glad! This is a good community even for lurkers.. (which I am, I'm not afraid to admit it)

Welcome to Lit!!!

~ Cait

 

[three eyes open]

Thank you kindly, Cait. So far, so good.

Hmm, I find a little spanking/paddling to be erotic as a reward too. I do paddle more and harder as a punishment, but not enough to leave the sub really sore or anything. As for bonds, I like silken cords, but again, not too restraining.

Of course, the above is a generalization, and just my tastes. My sub and I are still in the negotiation stage right now. Occasionally, I like to take it farther than that, but rarely. I'm not sure yet how far she might want to go.

Blessed be,
3eyes

 

[UCE]

Silky Domme! I'd never heard that phrase before now, but it's very nice. Also, my favorite femdom friend is exactly this style, too. Very "silk" and soft, shiny clothes oriented. I'll have to tell her what she is next time I see her.

Regards,
Unda

 

[Goddess Helena]

I suppose I qualify for the title of 'Silk Domme'.

I dress for comfort mostly.

While playing with My boy, I am normally in undies or a slip style dress. I also have a soft speaking voice and come across as very soft and feminine. I think that is part of what My boy finds so alluring about Me. He knows what lies beneath the soft surface.


Helena

 

[Andreina]

im a domme - a gentle-mental domme. im not as much into physical torture as mental one.

 

[WreckingMachine]

I prefer either a three piece suit and a mask, or, and I know this is silly, an adidas track suit.

 

[Ebonyfire]

I'll bite

What is a "silk Domme?"

Are we classifying dominants by what they wear now?

If I wear leather does that make me a "leather" Domme?

If I wear PVC am I a "PVC" Domme ?

Or how about cotton does that make me a "cotton" Domme?


How can what you wear be an indication of behavior?

Eb <just askin'>

 

[Hecate]

*lol*I guess I am not really fitting any description.

As my "Domming" does tend to happen at any given time I can hardly say I have a standard outfit - so I would say anything short of Teddybear Pyjamas goes (*lol* I just so remember a moment where instead of shivering with fear upon my stern command my sweet one cracked up laughing, telling me there was no way I could be dominant in teddybear pyjamas)

If dressing specifically, I will just follow the whim of the moment or try to go according to the scene I have in mind. Because Domination can be all forms or me, from mental play to physical restraints and pain there is no "fixed" style for me, just go with the flow of the moment - I guess I am too wickedly creative *winks*

it does make things easier that I do wear mostly black in private anyway so that most stereotypical visions are being met (even though I have pyjamas in general taken off my dress-to-kill list )

 

[Shadowsdream]

As a Domme and as a Woman...I tend to wear black the majority of the time, leather a lot, and can often be seen adorning said leather with My chain skirt. Silk occassionally, but black of course. I do not classify Myself as a *Silk Domme or a Leather Domme* as I am neither hard nor soft.
I only punish when I am truly disappointed in a behaviour and My tool of torment will most likely, but not always, be the cane with no warm up. It is My intent when punishing to leave stripes and bruises as reminders of why My displeasure should be avoided.
I train joyfully with many implements meant to take a sub on a rollercoaster of emotions as I please My own desires. From paddles to My bare hand on butts raised in anticipation and caution. From ostrich feathers to candle wax, cuffs and spreader bars, to mind control...the strongest tool I own!
My hand is soft yet firm, My eyes warm yet cold, My voice soothing yet riveting.
Hmmmm....I guess I am just an average Domme doing Her own thing..with all of the If, When and Whys at My disposal...interesting topic for discussion!

 

[Ebonyfire]

Black is so slimming....

It goes with my skin.

Eb

 

[big4life99]

im not one but i might like to meet one.

 

[Shadowsdream]

im not one but i might like to meet one.

you may have already met One and not even known it!

 

[exiledmaster]

Ummmm, a sub is a sub, and a dom/me a dom/me whatever they're wearing. Once we've agreed it's game time it doesn't matter if I'm wearing my suit or a pair of cotton shorts. It's the thoughts inside my head that identify me...
Not that I'm beyond a bit of role playing, especially with obedient individuals who like to serve or be enslaved, but the clothes are an accessory to the person they want to be. There's something very contrary about dressing someone in soft gentle lingerie, then treating them cruelly that makes it worth doing...
As usual though I want to hedge my bets; if I'm enslaving someone then leather and metal make the safest bonds; if you're suspending someone from the ceiling you don't want them breaking their bonds! Equally, there's the desire to leave your mark on someone; tighten a length of chain around their waist and just like any overly tight belt or waistband it will leave a mark, and I do so love to leave my mark....