any good masturbation tips for a young girl
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Shower massage'll be like an industrial vibrator. When she meets her first tongue it just won't compare and besides her clit will be so desensitized you'll need to hit it with a stick for her to feel anything. Never do anything to make yourself cum that you can get used to but will wreck regular sex. Use it to enhance regular sex sometimes but
a vibrator can do things a tongue can't. If you get used to that much stimuli then actually having a guy go down on you will feel kinda Ho-hum. Nice but not the same.
Try schrunching down in the bath... on your back with your legs up and spread wide. Have the water on about as warm as a tongue would be and with only enough pressure for it to dribble out. Squeeze down so your yummycunny is right under the dribbling tongue-warm water, put your head back and think feeelthy thoughts.
Don't let your older brother catch you doing that.
a vibrator can do things a tongue can't. If you get used to that much stimuli then actually having a guy go down on you will feel kinda Ho-hum. Nice but not the same.
Try schrunching down in the bath... on your back with your legs up and spread wide. Have the water on about as warm as a tongue would be and with only enough pressure for it to dribble out. Squeeze down so your yummycunny is right under the dribbling tongue-warm water, put your head back and think feeelthy thoughts.
Don't let your older brother catch you doing that.
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Well, Mr G, we meet again. Let me say, as a student of Human and Sexual Behaviors, and as a woman who often used a shower head, that it is impossible to desensitize the clitoris. That is a common misconception, also heard as, :If you use a vibrator, you'll never enjoy 'real' sex".
And forfun1, just try to relax and enjoy yourself. There is nothing wrong you can do, it is your body. But please make sure any objects you use are clean and will not be 'lost'
And forfun1, just try to relax and enjoy yourself. There is nothing wrong you can do, it is your body. But please make sure any objects you use are clean and will not be 'lost'
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My favorite, when I have time, is to read erotic stories or look at erotic photographs. Then fantasize and dream without touching myself for as long as I can stand it. When I am so aroused that I can't stand it anymore, I touch myself. I promise that you will be so sensitive that you will just melt.
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My favorite, when I have time, is to read erotic stories or look at erotic photographs. Then fantasize and dream without touching myself for as long as I can stand it. When I am so aroused that I can't stand it anymore, I touch myself. I promise that you will be so sensitive that you will just melt.
Sal
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Hi HeroticaRiter
And we met...where?
"it is impossible to desensitize the clitoris. That is a common misconception,
Just from my own experience and what girls have told me about how it can become numb - the clit I mean.
Also there IS evidence of nerve damage if the vibrator is too heavy or the vibrations are (I think) too high a frequency.
The other answer is probably the best. Use that MASSIVE sex organ between your ears until you're ready to pop and then whatever you use it'll only be for a moment. Boooo!
Enjoy.
And we met...where?
"it is impossible to desensitize the clitoris. That is a common misconception,
Just from my own experience and what girls have told me about how it can become numb - the clit I mean.
Also there IS evidence of nerve damage if the vibrator is too heavy or the vibrations are (I think) too high a frequency.
The other answer is probably the best. Use that MASSIVE sex organ between your ears until you're ready to pop and then whatever you use it'll only be for a moment. Boooo!
Enjoy.
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Questions and suggestions
for_fun1,
It's difficult to really address your original question without asking more questions.
What have you tried? You've had an orgasm, right? What doesn't seem to be working for what you are doing now?
Do you like what has happened, but feel like you want to try other things? Do you like what has happened, but feel like you may be missing something?
Certainly, everything influences the masturbation experience, just like everything influences sex. The other answers have suggested that your mind needs to be in the right place and that is the most important thing. They're right. If your mind is hot, you are hot.
For me, location, risk, new or recent sexual contact and lack of new or recent sexual contact play pretty big roles. My favorite time for it is when I'm in that state somewhere between consciousness and dreaming; where my mind can wander freely in the fields of delight imagining all sorts of wonderful and nasty play.
Letting yourself go and denial of fulfillment also play big roles for achieving that really 'Big O' that we all find once in a while. Take yourself to the edge, then relax and build again.
Read a little and let the pictures in your mind take over.
Have fun and remember, you ARE a little seductress.
- Judo
for_fun1,
It's difficult to really address your original question without asking more questions.
What have you tried? You've had an orgasm, right? What doesn't seem to be working for what you are doing now?
Do you like what has happened, but feel like you want to try other things? Do you like what has happened, but feel like you may be missing something?
Certainly, everything influences the masturbation experience, just like everything influences sex. The other answers have suggested that your mind needs to be in the right place and that is the most important thing. They're right. If your mind is hot, you are hot.
For me, location, risk, new or recent sexual contact and lack of new or recent sexual contact play pretty big roles. My favorite time for it is when I'm in that state somewhere between consciousness and dreaming; where my mind can wander freely in the fields of delight imagining all sorts of wonderful and nasty play.
Letting yourself go and denial of fulfillment also play big roles for achieving that really 'Big O' that we all find once in a while. Take yourself to the edge, then relax and build again.
Read a little and let the pictures in your mind take over.
Have fun and remember, you ARE a little seductress.
- Judo
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Let your fingers do the walking ...
... and find out what feels good. Go to bed a little early on a night you don't need to, taking some printed Literotica with you. Wear what makes you feel sexy. As you read, or imagine, let your hands explore your body. Find out what feels good. Find out what makes you go to the edge, and what makes you go over. Find out where the edge is, and how far you can fall.
I always encourage women to masturbate. The more they know about themselves, the more open they are sexually. The more they know about what pleases them, the better they can direct their lover.
Sometimes oils or lotions help too.
Enjoy!!!!
Slinger
... and find out what feels good. Go to bed a little early on a night you don't need to, taking some printed Literotica with you. Wear what makes you feel sexy. As you read, or imagine, let your hands explore your body. Find out what feels good. Find out what makes you go to the edge, and what makes you go over. Find out where the edge is, and how far you can fall.
I always encourage women to masturbate. The more they know about themselves, the more open they are sexually. The more they know about what pleases them, the better they can direct their lover.
Sometimes oils or lotions help too.
Enjoy!!!!
Slinger
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honestly i wouldnt argue with a women about how to get off if ur playing with the wrong bits....
i know what gets a guy off and u do too probably, but dont be telling chicks how to cum if u dont have first hand experiance.
u might have a REALLY good partner but it just aint the same i dont think
honestly i wouldnt argue with a women about how to get off if ur playing with the wrong bits....
i know what gets a guy off and u do too probably, but dont be telling chicks how to cum if u dont have first hand experiance.
u might have a REALLY good partner but it just aint the same i dont think
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""what girls have told me about how it can become numb ""
Another one flunks comprehension 101.
I do have first hand experience. I do not have my own clit. This matters? What I was advising was what I've been told by girls about being too rough with and around the clit and it becoming desenitized...not arguing with a girl about how to get off. If a mother has told me something about child birth and somebody asks a question then, if I have the answer, I'm not allowed to say anything because I don't have a uterus? Duoih.
The girl that asked the question just wants to get off. She's probably not looking at the long term effects of using
mechanical devices or pulsing jets of water or a weed-whacker or anything else. That's my advice to her - not telling her how to get off but watch what you use or soon you'll have a big callous where your clit used to be!
Also there IS medical evidence of nerve damage to the clit if the vibrator is used too roughly or it's too heavy.
As the area becomes desensitized more and more pressure is needed and used to produce the same effect. That happens over time and that may not have been a consideration when younger women answered. For a 20 year old clit likely not a problem. Beat on it for an hour a night with something that's whacking it at 200Hz or more and keep that up for a decade or two and tell me a tongue is gonna feel the same. I don't NEED to have a uterus to tell you THAT either. That's just medical fact
Another one flunks comprehension 101.
I do have first hand experience. I do not have my own clit. This matters? What I was advising was what I've been told by girls about being too rough with and around the clit and it becoming desenitized...not arguing with a girl about how to get off. If a mother has told me something about child birth and somebody asks a question then, if I have the answer, I'm not allowed to say anything because I don't have a uterus? Duoih.
The girl that asked the question just wants to get off. She's probably not looking at the long term effects of using
mechanical devices or pulsing jets of water or a weed-whacker or anything else. That's my advice to her - not telling her how to get off but watch what you use or soon you'll have a big callous where your clit used to be!
Also there IS medical evidence of nerve damage to the clit if the vibrator is used too roughly or it's too heavy.
As the area becomes desensitized more and more pressure is needed and used to produce the same effect. That happens over time and that may not have been a consideration when younger women answered. For a 20 year old clit likely not a problem. Beat on it for an hour a night with something that's whacking it at 200Hz or more and keep that up for a decade or two and tell me a tongue is gonna feel the same. I don't NEED to have a uterus to tell you THAT either. That's just medical fact
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Medical Evidence?? Physiological or Psychological
I spoke with a shrink who had a guy masturbating with sandpaper. The guy said that he masturbated so frequently that he needed the coarse feeling of the sandpaper to affect his penis. The shrink said (basically) it was all in his head. The nerve endings remained the same, as did the synapse, however, the guy had conditioned himself against feeling sexual in most masturbation situations. The shrink worked with the guy to the point where the guy could almost cum with no stimulation at all.
I usually don't put much faith in shrinks, but i had to admit, this one deserved recognition. I also asked if he could get me to the "no contact" orgasm. He said his rate was $130 an hour. I decided my hand is fine.
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I spoke with a shrink who had a guy masturbating with sandpaper. The guy said that he masturbated so frequently that he needed the coarse feeling of the sandpaper to affect his penis. The shrink said (basically) it was all in his head. The nerve endings remained the same, as did the synapse, however, the guy had conditioned himself against feeling sexual in most masturbation situations. The shrink worked with the guy to the point where the guy could almost cum with no stimulation at all.
I usually don't put much faith in shrinks, but i had to admit, this one deserved recognition. I also asked if he could get me to the "no contact" orgasm. He said his rate was $130 an hour. I decided my hand is fine.
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use the bath tub
i know a lady friend who told me of how she would get in the bath tub and lay on her back and put her feet up on the edge of it.
lay with your legs spread under the tap.
turn the water on just enough for it to drip.
line the drips so they fall onto your clitoris.
adjust the drip to be whatever speed you want.
if your clitoris is "hidden", you will have to use your hands to bare it so the water hits it.
if your clitoris is not "hidden", your hands are free to play with your breasts and nipples.
it probably wouldnt hurt to roll a bathtowel under your head for a pillow either.
what ever you do, dont put the plug in the drain!! lmao
i know a lady friend who told me of how she would get in the bath tub and lay on her back and put her feet up on the edge of it.
lay with your legs spread under the tap.
turn the water on just enough for it to drip.
line the drips so they fall onto your clitoris.
adjust the drip to be whatever speed you want.
if your clitoris is "hidden", you will have to use your hands to bare it so the water hits it.
if your clitoris is not "hidden", your hands are free to play with your breasts and nipples.
it probably wouldnt hurt to roll a bathtowel under your head for a pillow either.
what ever you do, dont put the plug in the drain!! lmao
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seeing as we are on the subject...
I find it hard to reach orgasm during sex and when I or my partner use masturbation it takes a very long time for me to hit the big 'O'.
I'm 26 and this has been a prob for a long time and I was wondering if anyone had any ideas.
I have tried various things but nothing seems to make much difference.
I find it hard to reach orgasm during sex and when I or my partner use masturbation it takes a very long time for me to hit the big 'O'.
I'm 26 and this has been a prob for a long time and I was wondering if anyone had any ideas.
I have tried various things but nothing seems to make much difference.
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Re: seeing as we are on the subject...
As long as it's worth the wait, why worry about how long it takes?
I suspect that you aren't fully engaging the largest erogenous zone -- the brain.
Shadie said:
As long as it's worth the wait, why worry about how long it takes?
I suspect that you aren't fully engaging the largest erogenous zone -- the brain.
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Trust me, it's always worth the wait but it takes so long that I often go back a few steps when my partner has to take a break, this looses the momentum for me
Luckily I have a great man who is willing to take the time!!
But I would like to speed things up a bit, 30 - 45 mins is a bit much
Luckily I have a great man who is willing to take the time!!
But I would like to speed things up a bit, 30 - 45 mins is a bit much
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30->45? Really?
Is 30 minutes the fastest you've ever been able to achieve orgasm? Really? Even if you've been sexually aroused in some other way?
I find it very puzzling, because if I don't have much time, i can always get going in 5 minutes.
I don't want to ask dumb questions, but what exactly do you do when you masturbate alone?
- Judo
Is 30 minutes the fastest you've ever been able to achieve orgasm? Really? Even if you've been sexually aroused in some other way?
I find it very puzzling, because if I don't have much time, i can always get going in 5 minutes.
I don't want to ask dumb questions, but what exactly do you do when you masturbate alone?
- Judo
Whoa! This one just hit home.
With good literature, some nasty thoughts or some other stimuli for my brain...plus one hard vibe I can get orgasm in 5 minutes. Or so I thought.
I recently did this "work the man to death" thing. I agree, sometimes it can be too long! So long in fact, that while he was working so hard, other parts of him lost interest. On the other hand, I had an orgasm beyond anything I'd done alone. I couldn't stand up and almost passed out trying!! I don't expect this every time...I'm a bt more realistic than that. Besides, the build-up was better than my self-administered orgasms.
Most of this is my problem, not in his technique.
First, I am unused to orgasm with my legs apart and even with myself and toys I can't cum as quickly or as powerfully. It's near impossible all together.
Second, as I feel the orgasm build, I tighten up. How can relax more, so that I can get that kind of orgasm again without causng my partner to develope CTS?
I don't want to see him that frustrated again and since the build-up is better than my previously known orgasms, I am liable to just demand he fuck me before I climax.
Kind of notes: While I do use vibes, it has all been recent, the issue of desesetizing myself is not even a factor. At 25 I just got "desires" a few months ago. I also have mobility issues...range of motion, etc.
Will be reading suggestions for others in the thread too. I hope something helps.
With good literature, some nasty thoughts or some other stimuli for my brain...plus one hard vibe I can get orgasm in 5 minutes. Or so I thought.
I recently did this "work the man to death" thing. I agree, sometimes it can be too long! So long in fact, that while he was working so hard, other parts of him lost interest. On the other hand, I had an orgasm beyond anything I'd done alone. I couldn't stand up and almost passed out trying!! I don't expect this every time...I'm a bt more realistic than that. Besides, the build-up was better than my self-administered orgasms.
Most of this is my problem, not in his technique.
First, I am unused to orgasm with my legs apart and even with myself and toys I can't cum as quickly or as powerfully. It's near impossible all together.
Second, as I feel the orgasm build, I tighten up. How can relax more, so that I can get that kind of orgasm again without causng my partner to develope CTS?
I don't want to see him that frustrated again and since the build-up is better than my previously known orgasms, I am liable to just demand he fuck me before I climax.
Kind of notes: While I do use vibes, it has all been recent, the issue of desesetizing myself is not even a factor. At 25 I just got "desires" a few months ago. I also have mobility issues...range of motion, etc.
Will be reading suggestions for others in the thread too. I hope something helps.
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Get one of your girlfriends involved.
Have one of your girlfriends lick you. That's something that is gaurenteed to get you off. And its really not any gayer than masterbation, if you think about it.
Have one of your girlfriends lick you. That's something that is gaurenteed to get you off. And its really not any gayer than masterbation, if you think about it.
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G-spot?
Shadie -
While Wierd Harold has a point, and may be completely correct, you may just not be hitting YOUR spot. Although the g-spot is not a myth, women all have different erogenous zones. Have your partner explore your body ... kisses and touches over every inch ... and see what starts the fireworks. This "foreplay" should also give you enough mental stimulation. If not, try fetishes; there are several books on the subject.
My favorite g-spot technique is called the "butterfly". The woman lays on her back, the man kneeling between her legs. The woman's lower back is supported, either by an object, or i prefer wrapping my arms under her hips. This allows the man more direct access to the g-spot. Additionally, he can stimulate the clitoris with his hand.
My wife lasts about thirty-body-trembling-seconds in this position. I didn't know she was a screamer until we tried it!
Slinger
Shadie -
While Wierd Harold has a point, and may be completely correct, you may just not be hitting YOUR spot. Although the g-spot is not a myth, women all have different erogenous zones. Have your partner explore your body ... kisses and touches over every inch ... and see what starts the fireworks. This "foreplay" should also give you enough mental stimulation. If not, try fetishes; there are several books on the subject.
My favorite g-spot technique is called the "butterfly". The woman lays on her back, the man kneeling between her legs. The woman's lower back is supported, either by an object, or i prefer wrapping my arms under her hips. This allows the man more direct access to the g-spot. Additionally, he can stimulate the clitoris with his hand.
My wife lasts about thirty-body-trembling-seconds in this position. I didn't know she was a screamer until we tried it!
Slinger
