Another kind of connection...

[strawberryblondebeauty]

I'm curious does anyone come to this site for connections outside of sexual needs? Perhaps they're lonely in their everyday life or feel unheard by their respective communities. What is everyone's goals for their Lit experience?

 

[Cm_gogo]

Interesting question. Am very new here but am sure there are a lot of people with a bit of both- sexual needs and some loneliness irl. Evidence of this is that there are so many forums where non sexual things are discussed. I personally am here for mainly sexual reasons bit over time i am seeing the community and the other discussions. So i guess it grows over time.

What made you come here and is it sill all sexual for you?

 

[sammyIammy]

I’ve been here a long time and I’ve come here for both. One nice thing about coming here just to connect with someone is that you already know that sex and sensuality and just erotica in general isn’t something they scorn or look down upon. Even if things never become sexual with that person it’s nice knowing they at least spend some part of their day with sex as a focus. I’ve always enjoyed knowing that.

 

[Fillingthevoid]

I'm curious does anyone come to this site for connections outside of sexual needs? Perhaps they're lonely in their everyday life or feel unheard by their respective communities. What is everyone's goals for their Lit experience?

I would say mainly just chit chatting or cause it’s easier to talk to strangers when I need to get stuff out probably 90% and 10% sexting

 

[darkantx6669]

I would say it's both. Taking to a stranger helps when it's something you don't want to talk to friends/family about. Somethings to the rush of talking to someone new...really depends on the mood for both.

 

[CuriousRick]

I would say the reasons for coming here have changed. I am happy to meet new people and make friends. I have more friends friends here then naughty friends. I am fine with that. It is good to have both kinds of friends

 

[Hornymwtxn]

My goals for lit: is to make life a bit more enjoyable for others, help them feel good about themselves which in turn makes me feel good about myself.

 

[Jake6900]

I'm curious does anyone come to this site for connections outside of sexual needs? Perhaps they're lonely in their everyday life or feel unheard by their respective communities. What is everyone's goals for their Lit experience?

Me my wife died

 

[kieranhalcyon01]

My goals are to shitpost and enjoy the sights

 

[avw66]

Very intersting question. For me I think its a mixture of both as I am single and living on my own. I do have a social life and circle who I meet on weekends, but they do not know about this part of my life. Like most stumbled into reading the stories/forum and eventually moved the online chatroom for futher conenctions.

 

[IrreverendBoob]

I'm curious does anyone come to this site for connections outside of sexual needs? Perhaps they're lonely in their everyday life or feel unheard by their respective communities. What is everyone's goals for their Lit experience?

I think you may be addressing me without realizing it. (Joking, but still, your question is relevant to my position, despite it being in reality purely coincidental timing.) So, yes, I'm here more in the interest of simply connecting with open-minded, interesting individuals. No sexual content sought or required. Just interesting people to talk with. I tend to be a bit of an isolationist, and don't really see a lot of fertile ground to make social connections in my little rural community, but I've met some very cool people here in the past. So, here I am.

 

[quasimodm]

For me, connecting with people here is just that ... connecting. Sex for me is part of a continuum of intimacy that starts with intellectual and then emotional intimacy first.

 

[MrPimms]

Connection seems to be at the core of personals. People reaching out to discuss some part of themselves that feels unfulfilled, that, in itself, speaks of loneliness and a sense of isolation. Being able to talk about hidden desires brings with it a familiarity.

For some, it could be that sense of loss of connection, as though they are looking at their world, or former world, through s window.

 

[lovelyivy]

Dmed

 

[Live4themoments]

I’ve been here a long time and I’ve come here for both. One nice thing about coming here just to connect with someone is that you already know that sex and sensuality and just erotica in general isn’t something they scorn or look down upon. Even if things never become sexual with that person it’s nice knowing they at least spend some part of their day with sex as a focus. I’ve always enjoyed knowing that.

I couldn't have said it better for my reason here. I might add that the friends I have generally match my professional occupation, or those that I have known for 20 plus years. The friends I have made here are interesting and refreshing to listen to their viewpoints and thoughts. Plus I don't have to tread lightly in discussing sex or crude comments for fear of offending them or having them possibly think less of me since here it's pretty much a given that sex is open to chat. I have a few friends here where sex probably is discussed 10% of the time in our chats, which is fine.

I have found that with the few people who started out as platonic friends later became actual meets and intimacy. For me this is ideal since we both know each other pretty well by then, we are comfortable from day 1 or 2, and most importantly we can trust each other to maintain our best interest at hand.

 

[cutcrystal899]

For me it's a mix. It started out as a desire to connect after my relationship partner of 7 years died in Feb 2020 (COVID). So I posted an ad here on Lit. I wanted to be able to talk about anything, and the more common ground the better. Through this I had two year plus connections with mature women. Over time the 10% sex mixed in with the talking about anything and common ground which comprised the other 90%. And the phenomenal common ground was the most important factor and facilitated connection.

I miss those two connections and have advertised again. The time apparently came and went? For now where people once gravitated to me... It's now like a desert of endless bumping... I don't know what changed.