Another girly-type “What to wear” thread

[Eilan]

This thread is mostly for the ladies, but anyone can feel free to chime in.

In August my hubby and I will be going to his 30-year high school reunion. I’ve decided to start my wardrobe crisis a little early. Here’s why:

As a lot of you know, I’m quite a bit younger than my hubby. When he and his classmates were graduating from high school, I was 20 months old. Those of you who know me from my other posts know that my husband and I don’t have a problem with our age difference (except when he throws his walker at me ). However, for some reason, it’s because of this age difference that I’m a little paranoid about what I choose to wear.

Because my husband’s hometown is about 2 1/2 to 3 hours away from where we currently live, I’ve never met any of his classmates. I’ve heard stories about some of them, but I wouldn’t know them if I saw them. I think that first impressions (both appearance AND behavior) are important. I’m not worried about mingling/small talk/making conversation, even though I can be a bit shy in unfamiliar settings. That just leaves me trying to figure out what to wear.

I have NEVER been to a high-school reunion before, so I don’t know anything about them. By the time I graduated from high school, my classmates seemed to hate each other. Nobody’s been motivated enough to gather names/addresses, so I’ve only seen a handful of them over the years, including the one I married (and divorced).

The reunion will be in the banquet room of a bar-and grill-type restaurant. It’s $30 per person for a buffet and beverages. So I guess what I’m looking for is something informal yet classy. I want to look nice/sexy without looking slutty. I’d also prefer not to look like the younger trophy wife, because I don’t consider myself to be one. I suppose I can’t change the fact that other people might view me that way, though.

I’m anticipating buying something new for the occasion, though I might be able to find something in my closet. On the “What to wear?” thread that Noor started some time back, a lot of people (myself included, I think) told her to wear something that she felt good in, something that was “her.” I’ve spent so much time being the stay-at-home-mommy (and dressing like one) that I’m not sure if I know what’s “me” anymore. Perhaps once I go to a few stores and see what’s out there I’ll have more of a clue.

Against my better judgment, I asked my hubby what I should wear. His response was typically male: a thong, of course.

I know that as far as Lit crises go, this isn’t earth-shattering. I’m not normally one to worry all that much about other people’s opinions of me, but I think that I’m a little bit uptight about being around these people who knew my hubby way before I did. I guess I just need to relax and see what happens.

I’m not an avid fashion magazine reader, and while I’m not trying to be trendy, I have no idea what’s “in” right now. Any suggestions?

 

[DelicateFlower]

I NEVER wear skirts or dresses, so at a function like this I would wear a pair of nice jeans, a nice top, and a pair of strappy sandals.. but you said informal...

Informal means different things to different people. You might want to consider dress pants and a top....

Hope this helps and good luck

DF

 

[silverwhisper]

shockingly, some straight men do actually know one or two things...

eilan:

b/c i don't know what you look like or your body type (except that apparently, you have very nice breasts to judge from your av), i would go with something comfy with some seasonal color. it seems that dots are the thing this season: dillard's has a geometric print bra that's quite pretty about which i disclaim any industry knowledge. :>

something to consider: the folks w/ whom your husband attended school will likely have different aesthetic tastes than you do. what kind of tone are you going for here? you said nice but sexy w/out slutty or trophy-wife-ish, which is precisely what i would have guessed for you, but how dressy/casual are we talking?

ed

 

[Eilan]

I NEVER wear skirts or dresses, so at a function like this I would wear a pair of nice jeans, a nice top, and a pair of strappy sandals.. but you said informal...

Informal means different things to different people. You might want to consider dress pants and a top....

Hope this helps and good luck

DF

Thanks.

I don't wear skirts/dresses often, particularly since I quit my job, so I usually look for a reason to do so. But if I think I'll need to dress for comfort, I'll wear pants. I HATE pantyhose, though; I can't remember the last time I wore them. I'll probably go with the strappy sandals, because I just bought a pair that I've worn only once, so I need an excuse to wear them.

I'm going to go shopping soon. That's always such a chore because I usually come away empty-handed. Damn dresing-room mirrors!

 

[Eilan]

eilan:

b/c i don't know what you look like or your body type (except that apparently, you have very nice breasts to judge from your av)

Thanks. It's the bra.

something to consider: the folks w/ whom your husband attended school will likely have different aesthetic tastes than you do. what kind of tone are you going for here? you said nice but sexy w/out slutty or trophy-wife-ish, which is precisely what i would have guessed for you, but how dressy/casual are we talking?

This is what I'm not sure about, to be honest. And, like I said, my hubby's no help. I'll probably err on the side of being dressed-down.

Here's what the invitation says:
--There will be 70's music!
--There will be 70's stories!
--There will be people who still wish they were in the 70's!
--There will be people who feel like they're in their 70's!

Should I dress (and party) like it's 1975?

 

[silverwhisper]

given the invite, i'd say erring towards casual is probably safest. but do you own any bell bottoms? :> what might be a more interesting question, though: what are you gonna do about your hair?

ed

 

[Eilan]

given the invite, i'd say erring towards casual is probably safest. but do you own any bell bottoms? :> what might be a more interesting question, though: what are you gonna do about your hair?

One thing at a time!!

Unfortunately, I'm no longer able to fit into the clothes I wore in the 70's.

 

[silverwhisper]

eilan: given what i can deduce of your approximate age, if you could, i'd be very, very alarmed.

ed

 

[bisexplicit]

So, I did a quick google for 1970s clothing and there were a ton of vintage clothing sites that popped up. I'm not sure if that would be something you'd be interested in - but it could be fun, at least.

 

[Eilan]

given what i can deduce of your approximate age, if you could, i'd be very, very alarmed.

So would I, seeing as how I turned 6 in 1979.

So, I did a quick google for 1970s clothing and there were a ton of vintage clothing sites that popped up. I'm not sure if that would be something you'd be interested in - but it could be fun, at least.

I think it could be cute; in fact, for other occasions, particularly if I knew the other people, I'd consider it. I'm not sure I'll go there this time, though. I have a feeling that it would be funny if THEY did it, but not if I did it.

 

[Quoll]

So, I did a quick google for 1970s clothing and there were a ton of vintage clothing sites that popped up. I'm not sure if that would be something you'd be interested in - but it could be fun, at least.

Eilan, I`ve got nothing consrtuctive at the moment, plus I `m like your hubby, go with the thong.

It was not THAT long ago you know, VINTAGE?.......... F.F.S, I suppose at least it wasn`t antique.

 

[Eilan]

Eilan, I`ve got nothing consrtuctive at the moment, plus I `m like your hubby, go with the thong.

I figured I'd wear the thong because it seems to mean so much to my hubby.

I just don't think that I can go to this thing with nothing but a thong and a smile, though.

 

[emap]

If you did I doubt he would stop grinning.

If you want a dress outfit to go with your sandals, I think this would be great to wear, it does come bigger this was just the first number for it out of the catalog.

If you want pants well this is a nice choice.

Of course you don't have to listen to me, I enjoyed looking around and I liked those.

 

[SweetErika]

I don't know how constructive this is going to be, but it sounds like we might have a little in common (at least when it comes to shopping, nylons, comfort, and skirts/dresses).

Since it'll be summer, how about something like a more flowing/light, silk(or silk-like), knee-length (or just below), skirt to go with your sandals and thong? I just bought a silk skirt like this (cute, comfortable, and on clearance for $8 ) and am really pleased with how versatile it is, both wardrobe-wise and occasion-wise.

Then you have lots of choices for tops, but perhaps one that accentuates what you feel is your best feature (e.g. lower neckline or more form fitting), but a little more conservative otherwise.

I'd think something like that would be comfortable, you can dress it up or down easily, and sexy but classy. Otherwise, I'd probably go with tailored slacks and a sexier top.

Yes, I realize my description of clothing is appaling...the only things I love to shop for are lingerie and sex toys.

 

[BeachLovers]

Sweet Erika has it right -- go for something sexy but classy, and avoid showy or slutty. Pants or skirt/dress, you'll know it when you see it. I would guess that this approach would very much please your husband. And yes, he will appreciate knowing the thong is underneath!

 

[Willing and Unsure]

Since it'll be summer, how about something like a more flowing/light, silk(or silk-like), knee-length (or just below), skirt to go with your sandals and thong? I just bought a silk skirt like this (cute, comfortable, and on clearance for $8 ) and am really pleased with how versatile it is, both wardrobe-wise and occasion-wise.

Then you have lots of choices for tops, but perhaps one that accentuates what you feel is your best feature (e.g. lower neckline or more form fitting), but a little more conservative otherwise.

I'd think something like that would be comfortable, you can dress it up or down easily, and sexy but classy. Otherwise, I'd probably go with tailored slacks and a sexier top.[/COLOR]

I would definitely consider the type of skirt Erika is suggesting here. Judging by what you've said on your age, you're not that much ahead of me in years, so I can understand your frustrations sometimes. I've recently found a lot of nice things at Sears in terms of skirts, blouses, and even lightweight sweaters. I've even bought my mom one of those skirts, and she loves it. If, for some reason, you're wanting to tone down the upper half of your body, or you get cold easily, consider layering a little bit with shirts. Put a matching tank top with the skirt, but then get a lightweight sweater that matches to put over it.


Consider something like this

 

[bisexplicit]

It was not THAT long ago you know, VINTAGE?.......... F.F.S, I suppose at least it wasn`t antique.

To me, the 70s was a LONG time ago.

 

[Denae]

I like Sweet Erika's idea of a long, flowing/flirty-type skirt or a sarong-type, with a summer print. Top it off with a top that shows a little skin-highlight your best features.

 

[Eilan]

Thanks for the suggestions!

I have a skirt that I'd almost forgotten about that might work perfectly. I don't wear it that often because it's a wrap-around skirt that doesn't work well in windy weather. I found this out when I still teaching and had to walk across campus for my classes. If I can find the right top, this skirt just might work. And my new sandals would work with it.

 

[wicked woman]

August....

Yes definitely strappy heels and the thong. If your skirt doesn't work...I'd suggest adding a dress pair of pants (I'd normally suggest black but it's summer so maybe something lighter)...with a nice top...I prefer sleeveless, even cut in at the shoulders...V neck...not too tight but form fitting. Pick a colour that flatters your face. Not sure where you are if it's warm enough for just that...or if you need a jacket of some sort as well. Accessorize it with some nice gold or silver jewellery...nothing flashy...just classic.

And just enjoy....

 

[Eilan]

The more immediate concern is what to wear tomorrow for my hubby's retirement photo session. I think I have that covered, though.

My hubby also recommended a thong for tomorrow.

 

[dcraz]

Ok, so that last person you probably want to take advice from is a man, but I do have a few comments that are worth exactly what you paid for them.

First about the reunion in general. If this is your hubby's 30 year reunion, I would say, be prepared to have some fun! I have my 25 year reunion coming up, for which I have been involved in numerous planning events. Here is what I have learned about reunions. At the 10 year reunion, the only thing everyone wanted to know was what do you do, how much do you make, and how hot is your date/spouse? Plenty of attitude, judging and talking behind people's back. At the 20 year reunion, suddenly everyone had changed. It was all about who was still married, who was divorced, tell me about your kids, do you like your job. Everyone was so relaxed and cool. Much more fun and everyone getting along. Was a great time. Now with the 25 year planning events, it is even more fun. Everyone so relaxed with who they are. I would think it would continue with the 30 year reunion. I would expect you will be judged a lot less than you think. And it will be more fun that you think.

So relax.

As for what to wear, I would echo much of what has alredy been said. Nothing overly formal or 'slutty'. However, do not be embarrased or try to hide what you are and what you have. If you are attractive and younger, so be it. Something you and your hubby should be proud of. Just don't make a spectacle of it. In social settings like in business, always err towards over dressed as opposed to underdressed. However, for a 30 year reunion, I would expect some will be dressed in jeans.

I would recommend something like a summer dress or a light skirt with a sleeveless top. It is summer so casual is pretty easy to pull off.

Remember to realx and be prepared to have fun. And both of you should recognize that there will likely be times when you end up socializing apart. You might find him gathering with a group of buds to talk about the old days or you may find you have a llot in common with another spouse or GF.

And rememeber to come back and tell us all about it.

 

[Eilan]

Ok, so that last person you probably want to take advice from is a man, but I do have a few comments that are worth exactly what you paid for them.

First about the reunion in general. If this is your hubby's 30 year reunion, I would say, be prepared to have some fun! I have my 25 year reunion coming up, for which I have been involved in numerous planning events. Here is what I have learned about reunions. At the 10 year reunion, the only thing everyone wanted to know was what do you do, how much do you make, and how hot is your date/spouse? Plenty of attitude, judging and talking behind people's back. At the 20 year reunion, suddenly everyone had changed. It was all about who was still married, who was divorced, tell me about your kids, do you like your job. Everyone was so relaxed and cool. Much more fun and everyone getting along. Was a great time. Now with the 25 year planning events, it is even more fun. Everyone so relaxed with who they are. I would think it would continue with the 30 year reunion. I would expect you will be judged a lot less than you think. And it will be more fun that you think.

So relax.

As for what to wear, I would echo much of what has alredy been said. Nothing overly formal or 'slutty'. However, do not be embarrased or try to hide what you are and what you have. If you are attractive and younger, so be it. Something you and your hubby should be proud of. Just don't make a spectacle of it. In social settings like in business, always err towards over dressed as opposed to underdressed. However, for a 30 year reunion, I would expect some will be dressed in jeans.

I would recommend something like a summer dress or a light skirt with a sleeveless top. It is summer so casual is pretty easy to pull off.

Remember to realx and be prepared to have fun. And both of you should recognize that there will likely be times when you end up socializing apart. You might find him gathering with a group of buds to talk about the old days or you may find you have a llot in common with another spouse or GF.

And rememeber to come back and tell us all about it.

Thanks, dcraz.

The socializing stuff isn't something I've really thought about. I'm anticipating a little weirdness, though, because my hubby's classmates know his first wife pretty well, since she's a year ahead of him in school and they were high school sweethearts. AND she hates my guts even though their marriage ended YEARS before I even MET my hubby! I'm worried about having a bit of a "reputation" before I even meet these people.

The registration form is funny because it has a spot for children's and grandchildren's names. We have children who will be younger than some of his classmates' grandchildren. That should be interesting.

And I'll definitely be telling everyone here about it.

 

[glynndah]

I just read the thread posted about high school reunions. I would just dress in what you'd wear for a date with your husband. Not a "knock his socks off" date, but a regular dinner and a movie night. Also a brief funny story about my last reunion. During my 5 and 10 year reunions Steve came with his high school sweetheart and wife Karen. At reunion 15 Steve and Karen were divorced and Steve brought Mark his new live in lover. An interesting reunion to say the least. (Actually it was pretty boring-Steve and Mark were the most interesting couple to talk to.)

I hope your reunion is fun.

 

[Nikasha]

Disco Inferno

given the invite, i'd say erring towards casual is probably safest. but do you own any bell bottoms? :> what might be a more interesting question, though: what are you gonna do about your hair?

ed

I think they kids are calling them "flares" nowadays. Hip-huggers are now "low rise" and punk is kinda like Goth.

Wouldn't THAT be a hoot? Lots of baggy black clothes, black eyeliner and facial piercing. You could stand around looking sullen, and everyone would ask your husband why he brought his daughter.

Just kidding! (Must be the hurricane anxiety)