Another damned "help" thread

[SeXy ReDHeD]

Well, guys. Time's running low, and I need some help...

In just over two weeks, I'm meeting a guy that I met here on the 'net (and Literotica, BTW), and I really, really want to look good when I meet him. I actually think I look pretty damned good already, but I have this damned "panzita" (tummy) that just doesn't seem to go away for anything! I work out almost daily, I run, I bike, I even teach Tae Kwon Do, and the sucker just won't shrink! So, I was wondering if any of you have had this problem, and been able to lose it, or if you've perhaps heard of any "miracle diets" that work...
I would sincerely appreciate it...
with all my heart!

 

[Hecate]

*hug* know the feeling ...

.. both - meeting someone from the web and beeing all excited about it and the feeling of this darn *bulge* (*g* couldn't resist - just for ONCE I wanted to say I had a bulge in my pants too).

So, easy enough, you can tell I can't help you to get rid of it - if I had any idea I would have done it myself ... but what is MORE important is that it isn't important at all. Because from all my experiences this guy does like you (love even?? *nudge nudge*) for your brains, wit, spirit and intelligence, your warmth and sense of humor.

For fast "aid" I could only suggest you get those tight fitting panties with the reinforced tummy/front section, kind of push-in ones. The ones I prefer are made by Playtex and they are looking really sexy, come in all styles with and without lace etc., the only "hook" is that they are a little expensive, but then again *s*...(ohh my - I can see everyone laugh at my attempt to get across what I mean. That is really embarrassing now, me fishing for words - but that is just not the vocabulary they teach you in school *desperate sigh*)

Anyway, this should work well for "first impression" and once you get to any stage that should make it necessarry you take them off - I think you (and him) will not be thinking of your "panzita" at all anymore


*winks* WAIT - thinking about it I do have another idea ... wearing some tight top with a deep neckline does help distract the attention from any other bits you might not want to have it focussed on.

... soooo good luck darling and have fun and just FORGET about this little nuissance that nobody but you will even notice I am sure!!

 

[Flagg]

One of my friends recently went on a diet (god knows why, she must have had like 1mm of podge). It was called the "cabbage diet" and you guessed it, it involved eating nothing but cabbage and water.
After a week of this she lost the 1mm all right. The problem was that her face went green and she suffered an almighty bout of wind!
No pain - no gain I guess.

 

[ShyGuy68]

I agree with Hecate here. I don't mind a woman have some shapes at all, and after all, when you meet people on the net, it's mainly the personality you like, and looks take second hand. And when you like the personality, it's not hard to like the rest of the person either.

Just my 2¢ worth.


ShyGuy

 

[Flagg]

And when you like the personality, it's not hard to like the rest of the person either.

That's idealistic bullshit and you know it

 

[Laurel]

After a week of this she lost the 1mm all right. The problem was that her face went green and she
suffered an almighty bout of wind!
No pain - no gain I guess.

LMAO! Cabbage used to do that to a vegan friend of mine - it was nasty to be in the car with her after a meal!

 

[ShyGuy68]

That's idealistic bullshit and you know it

Well Flagg not to me! What is bullshit is that you can't accept my opinion, but have to trash it, because it's not your opinion!

Why don't you just drop your bullshit and let people form their own opinions, and not just agree with you!


ShyGuy

 

[Flagg]

OK ShyGuy, how about an example:

You meet some woman on the internet. You chat and email each other and really get along. You get along so well in fact that you decide to meet up. When you finally do meet up you find out that she is a 300lb Mama with facial hair and no teeth. You're not going to want to fuck her are you? You'd be quite willing to become best friends with her and spending time with her but you don't want to fuck her do you? That was my point. By the way, should you have a fetish for 300lb Mamas with facial hair and no teeth then simply replace that with something you don't like.

I'm not trying to rubbish your opinion. People often say "the really nice thing" or the "politically correct thing" just because they want to be "polite" and "nice". The truth is though, its simply not true (i.e its bullshit)

 

[Jade]

Sexy,

If you don't mind my saying it sounds like you are on the road to developing an eating disorder here.

Please don't go on a diet, they never work. If he is truly a great person (great enough for you to actually be meeting!!) then we will love you for the sexy redhead that you are!

So serioualy, please don't go on a diet, they are all a bunch of crap. Take it from a nutrition major, and from someone 3 years older (sorta like an older sister if I may) who has struggled a lot in the past with body image.

I don't want to spend my day distressed about this so you had better respond dammit!


About the tummy thing, If you haven't tried crunches those are great but really only IF you:

1) do them right after cardio (so right after a run is great)
2) breath out as you crunch up... if you don't think you are doing them right, consult a trainer.

Also please keep in mind that anatomically you are a woman and therefore have a uterus (I am assuming you haven't had a hyserectomy and weren't born without a uterus here of cousre...)so it is natural is most women for the uterus to tilt outwardsa bit below the line of the belly button. Check any VS catolog honey you will see it on them too and they are air brushed! Therefore, many men realized that is a sexy thing.

One final thing.... what are you going to be doing with this guy to where he is going to be seeing your lower stomach? (or is it just the outfit..)

Well, have fun good luck and be careful hon and tell us how it goes!

 

[CreamyLady]

If you are healthy, and fit, and attractive -- and it seems as if you are -- why should it matter? It's another curve, that's all.

I suppose shapers and minimizers are all right, though not terribly comfortable. Myself, I'd just make sure I felt as good and comfortable as possible, and let excitement at the meeting be the dominant emotion -- not fear of imperfection.

What is perfect, anyway?

 

[Guest]

What is perfect, anyway?

There was a perfect storm once and it killed people.

Forget about it! Matter of fact, don't brush your teeth and he won't notice your tummy. (just kidding)

Don't worry. Besides, it sounds like you could kick his A**.

 

[ShyGuy68]

Flagg

Why do you automatically asume that people that get friends on-line are going to have sex when they meet??? I have a lot of on-line female friends that I would love to meet IRL, and sex aren't involved in it at all!!

You might think I'm trying to be politically correct here, but I'm not. I have met a woman from the net IRL, who was overweight, but that didn't mean that I didn't like her at all! Actually she was a very nice person, and she's a great friend of mine!! And yes we did have sex together, and it was great!!

So don't come here with your bullshit about me being politically correct when you don't know me at all!!!

[Edited by ShyGuy68 on 07-14-2000 at 09:31 AM]

 

[Gaucho]

If you are healthy, and fit, and attractive -- and it seems as if you are -- why should it matter? It's another curve, that's all.
What is perfect, anyway?

Amen to that. One of the joys of meeting people through the Internet is that you judge with your mind and heart first and your eyes second. I recently met a woman I had been conversing with for months and we had a lovely experience. And while I definitely consider her attractive (and vice versa, thank goodness!) the truth is that if I hadn't met and gotten to know her through our daily chats first, I would have passed her on the street without a second glance. By the time we met, we had built up such a level of anticipation and desire that looks became a secondary issue.

Don't worry about how you look. If the guy is worth it, it won't matter. If he's not, or (heaven forbid!) if you run into Flagg's scenario, bring full body condoms for the two of you and enjoy anyway!

 

[SeXy ReDHeD]

Wow... I really didn't think anyone would respond! Cool...
Anyway.
I have thought about the body shaper panty things... but as I'm teeny tiny (5'0), those things usually go up to my boobs, and end up creating more lines than they hide!

You're right, of course, Jade! Normally, I probably wouldn't even bother, and I'd just tell myself, "If he doesn't like me the way I am, then F*** him! I don't care what he thinks." But... I really care about this guy, and so, perhaps foolishly, care about what he thinks about me. And in answer to your question, I don't know what we'll be doing, but... you just never know, girl! You gotta be prepared! Actually... The sit-ups are a good idea... never knew it mattered when you did 'em!

And... I guess... if all else fails I'm going to go with the low neckline! Or, wait... maybe I should just do that anyway!

 

[*Eve*]

I have actually heard that breathing exercises like yoga and pullottis work really well for the lower abs.

 

[Thumper]

HMMMMPH!

Lucky Bastard!!!!!!!!

 

[Vixen]

While I absolutely agree with the "if he's the man you really want, it won't matter" school of thought, I'm also well aware (from first hand experience) of the female dithers you're going through! It is so incredibly exciting/nerve wracking to meet someone with whom you've been so intimate online. So, if you are crazy nuts about a diet - send me an email. I have a soup recipe and diet put out by our major medical center here, for use by overweight surgical patients who have to lose weight before surgery. (Yes, Laurel, it is a cabbage base!) I personally didn't use the diet before the meeting, but I did rely heavily on cleavage - which seemed to work Mostly, just have a wonderful time!

 

[asphaltangel]

Well I hate to burst your bubble BUT!!! I have tried ALL the diets and ALL the quick fixes even got the eating dissorders. I lost so much weight just trying to get rid of that as I call it my kangaroo pouch, that I looked like a bag of bones with a pooch. If you love yourself you will accept this small imperfection as part of who you are! Unfortunatly it is another one of those curses that we can blame on adam eating that damn apple LOL!I guess what I am trying to say is it really wont matter 100 years from now when the main worry for women will be which space suit goes with which space shoes LOL!
Candy

 

[Weird Harold]

Why get rid of it?

While watching a documentary this evening, I noticed that Marilyn Monroe had a bit of tummy and she is generally considered to have been a beautiful woman. I'm sure I could come up with a dozen other movies stars, past and present, who don't have washboard abs.

I personally find that little bit of tummy on a healthy and fit woman attractive.