anonymous rant

[Guest]

Had a tough morning.

My mom has been raging on my dad, which wouldn't be so bad 10 years ago, but he's in a hospital bed now.

He can't defend himself, and she hasn't hit him yet, but I'm wondering how close she is. He was sobbing and I don't know whether it's because of the meds or the reality of my mother's undiagnosed psychosis.

I used to live there, I know how bad it can get. It can get, well, hellish.

I'm kind of at a loss. I don't kwno what to do, I'm so very far away.

If I confront her, it will only get worse for my Dad.

I talked to my aunt that lives up there too, she lived with us for awhile, so she understands the situation.

You know, even if you don't live there anymore, you can never escape mental illness. It fucking sucks. I'm tired of it. And, I'm worried about my dad.

 

[Georgia Girl]

Call Social Services where they live and report it as abuse. It is a drastic measure but the end result is that your dad will come out of a bad situation without it being made worse on him physically or more importantly mentally. Physical wounds/scars heal much faster than the mental/emotional ones. In the same process your mom will receive the attention she needs. It can be quite hard to do this and its a giant step but pause and consider what COULD happen if nothing is done.

Best wishes

Dawn

 

[KillerMuffin]

GG is very wise.

If you're afraid of the money situation, there are benefits available from the state. Just discuss it with social services when you contact them.

 

[DannyBoyUK]

Everything will feel better if you register with Literotica.

I mean, look at all of us !

<s>

 

[Georgia Girl]

If your father is receiving any form of disability or other income from the state one of the main questions that is asked repeatedly and attested to in writing is whether or not you are living in a domestic violence situation.

Violence comes in many forms.

Dawn

 

[perks]

Everything will feel better if you register with Literotica.

I mean, look at all of us !

<s>

I am a registered user, I just didn't want to talk about it in my real name.

I guess the reason I don't want to go to social services is first of all I don't know how REAL it is. I'm not there. Dad's meds make him experience things bigger than they actually occur. I'm not saying mom is a trip in the park, but we've put up with her for years.

I think splitting them up and putting dad in a home and having mom watched by social services is way worse than him having to deal with yelling.

On the other side of it, her job would help her get around social services.

I got hold of her sister<the only person she listens to> they're taking care of it.

I just needed to vent. It's difficult hearing my father cry.

 

[amelia]

It's difficult hearing my father cry.

yes..it is.

<big big hugs> i'm sorry this is happening to you

 

[perks]

thanks ameliabedilia

unfortunately, I forgot to unregister again for that post, oh well.
I'm spent.

 

[sunstruck]

Brave girl Perky.

No one can know what you're going through, not really. But talking to other family members that are there might help. Keep in touch with your aunt.

Is there anyway you can talk to your mom at all? Any tactic that might work?

Also SS isn't just for comming in and "fixing" everything. They can put you and your dad in touch with councelors that could really help.

Good luck. My thoughts are with you.

 

[Guest]

Perky,
I am sorry you're dealing with such pain. I can only empathize with you- feeling helpless and sad, probably?

I hope talking about it helps. I am not sure there are any answers that would be ideal. In any case, you are going to worry because you care.

If there's anything I can do to help you, please let me know. I mean it. Ok?

 

[perks]

Brave girl Perky.

No one can know what you're going through, not really. But talking to other family members that are there might help. Keep in touch with your aunt.

Is there anyway you can talk to your mom at all? Any tactic that might work?

Also SS isn't just for comming in and "fixing" everything. They can put you and your dad in touch with councelors that could really help.

Good luck. My thoughts are with you.

My dad is dying. He's in the final stages of MS. He has health care workers there all the time. I know my mom is hurting over this, it's been a long road.
I know it has to do with her loss and everything.
She is a psychologist, now<not when I was a kid>, and she won't talk to anyone. She vents on Dad, cause he has no where to run. Unfortunately, he can't deal with it anymore.
With the amount of meds he's on, it's suprising he's coherent. They're just making cocktails for him now.
The thing is when I was a kid I know how she was, but she changed a lot after she got her education.
The thing is, if she is in an episode, there is no way I can tell, because dad is medicated and I'm not there.
My one aunt is up there and says mom isn't doing great.

I don't want to bring it up to my mom and have her wig out on Dad. He has no protection. But if I call in someone else, it could be worse for everyone.

the whole fucking thing just sucks

 

[sunstruck]

It does suck. I wish there was something I could do. Feel free to vent to me whenever you need it hon.

 

[T.H. Oughts]

I wish I could make it better for you hon..