Anonymity when writing an erotic blog

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I hope this has not been discussed ad nauseam on this site, but I have started an erotic blog and I have taken out domain privacy protection. I am still very nervous about anyone finding out my identity for family and professional reasons.

Do any of you have any other precautions you use to ensure privacy?

Many thanks! D
 
I hope this has not been discussed ad nauseam on this site, but I have started an erotic blog and I have taken out domain privacy protection. I am still very nervous about anyone finding out my identity for family and professional reasons.

Do any of you have any other precautions you use to ensure privacy?

Many thanks! D

Use a completely separate email address.
Pay thru PayPal if you can rather than a credit card with your name and make sure the paypal is as anonymous as you can make it.

Which web host are you using? Hostgator? GoDaddy?
 
I hope this has not been discussed ad nauseam on this site, but I have started an erotic blog and I have taken out domain privacy protection. I am still very nervous about anyone finding out my identity for family and professional reasons.

Do any of you have any other precautions you use to ensure privacy?

Many thanks! D

Are you using wordpress for the site?
 
Only use Tor browser.

Use it for creating your email address, domain, pay-pal account, hosting, everything.

Don't touch any email account etc previously created with any other browser when logging in.

Refresh Tor Identity regularly (every 5 mins) and never use full screen.

That will defeat the CIA, allegedly.
 
Oh yes, and only accept cryptocurrency.

/I was just refreshing my Tor identity.
 
Use a completely separate email address.

Noting that giving your regular email address as a recovery address makes it no longer "completely separate".

I made the mistake of using Gmail for my Literotica contact address, and the only connection to my real-name address was that I had it as a recovery address. I was surprised, to say the least, when my partner's in-laws suddenly started sending G+ friend requests to Bramble! Apparently Google had very helpfully decided that since their Gmail accounts had my RL account as a contact, and Bramble's email had it as a recovery address, then Bramble might be somebody they knew so it should recommend them as a contact.
 
Noting that giving your regular email address as a recovery address makes it no longer "completely separate".

I made the mistake of using Gmail for my Literotica contact address, and the only connection to my real-name address was that I had it as a recovery address. I was surprised, to say the least, when my partner's in-laws suddenly started sending G+ friend requests to Bramble! Apparently Google had very helpfully decided that since their Gmail accounts had my RL account as a contact, and Bramble's email had it as a recovery address, then Bramble might be somebody they knew so it should recommend them as a contact.

Yeah, email does some weird things ... my spawn's teacher sent out an email to all the parents, using my usual everyday email address, and I suddenly saw KimGordon in the middle of the addressee's, but linked to that everyday address - I have literally no idea how that could have happened, except that I use it as a recovery address for my KG-related accounts.
 
If handwritten in a composition book and not transcribed online, nobody will know.
 
Yeah, email does some weird things ... my spawn's teacher sent out an email to all the parents, using my usual everyday email address, and I suddenly saw KimGordon in the middle of the addressee's, but linked to that everyday address - I have literally no idea how that could have happened, except that I use it as a recovery address for my KG-related accounts.

Yes. This same thing happened to me: people who only had my regular, non-Gmail address, mailed it from their Gmail and it automatically added my Literotica Gmail handle.
 
I hope this has not been discussed ad nauseam on this site, but I have started an erotic blog and I have taken out domain privacy protection. I am still very nervous about anyone finding out my identity for family and professional reasons.

Do any of you have any other precautions you use to ensure privacy?

Many thanks! D

Adding to "Totally seperate e-mail addresses" use Protonmail for your e-mail. Any "free" e-mail service like google or yahoo can still read your stuff and *potentially* share it with governing authorities if subpoenaed.

Protonmail encrypts your inbox in a way that *they* can't read it. Furthermore, they're located in Switzerland, which makes it hard for government actors to get your stuff.

You can also link you personal domain like www.mySmuttySite.net into an e-mail address that ends with @mySmuttySite.net and have it linked to your protonmail.
 
Read this paper: "Connecting the Dots: When Personal Information Becomes Personally Identifying on the Internet."

It was assigned reading in my Masters program, and the class was a little freaked out at how easily the authors were able to uniquely identify bloggers who thought they were anonymous. One of the examples is a sex blogger.

It had nothing to do with anonymous payments or browsers. It was all about the content that the bloggers wrote - little pieces of information that individually mean very little, but combined point to only one unique individual. The authors put the pieces together by hand, but I could imagine AI being trained to do it on a large scale someday soon.

The paper is not very long. You can download it here:
EDIT - here's a better URL: https://www.aaai.org/ocs/index.php/...FjACegQIAxAB&usg=AOvVaw3hhB2lod0I1-lPSMJ05LRu
 
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It had nothing to do with anonymous payments or browsers. It was all about the content that the bloggers wrote - little pieces of information that individually mean very little, but combined point to only one unique individual. The authors put the pieces together by hand, but I could imagine AI being trained to do it on a large scale someday soon.

Thanks, that was an interesting article.

In deciding on privacy strategies, it's worth thinking about your "threat model": what sort of attacker/attacks do you need to protect against? Some examples to consider:

- Accidental disclosure (reply to Literotica feedback from your RL email account instead of your throwaway)
- Spontaneous recognition by somebody who knows you IRL ("I was just browsing this porn blog and recognised my co-worker")
- Automated linkage by social networking sites etc. (Facebook picks up your photos from last week's fetish party and helpfully tags all the people in the shot by matching their faces to other photos...)
- Somebody who knows you IRL trying to discover your online identity by easy passive methods (searching for stuff they know, like your email etc.)
- Somebody who knows your online identity trying to find your RL identity by easy passive means (somebody who got angry on the forums goes through your posts looking for clues)
- Somebody who combines the above with non-free sources e.g. the AlescoLeads database discussed in the paper LoquiSordidaMe linked.
- Attacker who uses social engineering to trick you into revealing information, running code, or visiting websites that can log your info. This is especially dangerous when the attacker already has some information about you that they can use to tailor their approach ("spear phishing").
- Government-level attackers who do not have power of subpoena over the systems you're using (state-sponsored hacking etc.)
- Government-level attackers who do have power of subpoena. (Log off the internet forever.)

Consider both the likelihood of those different threats, and the consequences if they come off. For instance, most of my family already knows I've written erotica and where to find it, so I'm not tremendously worried about that kind of discovery. OTOH, I don't want random crazies from the Literotica boards knowing where I live, so I pay more attention to the Literotica->RL aspect than the other way around.
 
Yes....though I imagine I should not..?

No, I imagine you should :D

Minimal plugins and make sure they are supported with a large user base and updated frequently. Do not upload plugins just cause they sound sexy. Abandoned sexy is tomorrows doorway for hackers

Two plugins mandatory:
1/ Wordfence will protect you from hackers and they are very very good at it. Premium edition if you can afford it, otherwise free works well too.
2/ Updater by BestWebSoft. This will automatically update all your plugins, themes and wordpress itself whenever a new version is posted. That will keep you ahead of the hackers.

-Set up more than one admin ID and enable two factor authentication if you can.
-When setting up the admins use two separate email addresses for recovery if needed.
-Do not post any information beyond your user name/email when you set yourself up in the user section as admin
-When setting up user ID's wordpress will generate you a 24 digit password. Use it. Change it every 3-4 months. Use a 24 digit on your email too.

Use those long 24 digits on your hosting account password also. Once you're into the hosting account most offer ways into the site from the back door.
 
No, I imagine you should :D

Minimal plugins and make sure they are supported with a large user base and updated frequently. Do not upload plugins just cause they sound sexy. Abandoned sexy is tomorrows doorway for hackers

Two plugins mandatory:
1/ Wordfence will protect you from hackers and they are very very good at it. Premium edition if you can afford it, otherwise free works well too.
2/ Updater by BestWebSoft. This will automatically update all your plugins, themes and wordpress itself whenever a new version is posted. That will keep you ahead of the hackers.

-Set up more than one admin ID and enable two factor authentication if you can.
-When setting up the admins use two separate email addresses for recovery if needed.
-Do not post any information beyond your user name/email when you set yourself up in the user section as admin
-When setting up user ID's wordpress will generate you a 24 digit password. Use it. Change it every 3-4 months. Use a 24 digit on your email too.

Use those long 24 digits on your hosting account password also. Once you're into the hosting account most offer ways into the site from the back door.

I'm considering setting up a wordpress.org (not wordpress.com) site myself. I hadn't thought about unmaintained plugins or themes.

I hope to monetize it one of several adult-friendly add networks. This means banner ads, but I'm definitely avoiding pop-ups and pop unders. Do you have any thoughts on that from a security perspective?
 
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I'm considering setting up a wordpress.org (not wordpress.com) site myself. I hadn't thought about unmaintained plugins or themes.

I hope to monetize it one of several adult-friendly add networks. This means banner ads, but I'm definitely avoiding pop-ups and pop unders. Do you have any thoughts on that from a security perspective?

Go to ""GFY.com, that is the main adult webmaster site. Programs, cams you'll find everything there.

Banner ads and pops are soooo 2000 ish. Surfers are blind to them.

So adult...what can I say. It built the internet and yes, I was there. Two decades ago ALL our traffic went to adult because they were the only ones paying $$$. We used to be unhappy with 1/50 or 1/200 conversions. I dropped out when it started to hit 1/50,000. 1/5000-6000 is common now although I haven't stayed on top of it for the last 3-4 years.

Own your own site. Domain and hosting. I can't emphasize that enough. All those big social media sites are subject to public and political pressure. Never build your business on someone else's land.

It sucks to spend years building a blog or site up with traffic and then have the supplier decide to get out of the adult biz and shut you down. If you own the site and domain you can just switch hosting companies.

The advice about WordPress stands, your real risk is the cheating that goes on with the adult suppliers. The programs cheat. They'll scrub conversions, traffic and pocket the $$$. Probably in the 20% range or worse. A lot make their money reselling your traffic out the backend. Read through the threads on GFY to get some idea of good companies and the problem ones. Ignore the "these guys are new and wonderful" bullshit. Most of it is planted. See the scrub comment above.

Nowadays the stuff that sells is the real fetish stuff. Find a small niche and make it yours.

I've given a lot of thought to this myself. I set up a fetish site a couple of years ago for an experiment. It's now second page on Google results and climbing. I've been writing stories for it and intend to sell them along with other books for that fetish. I've been giving free samples and have been gratified that readers are emailing me and asking when they can buy the book.

All the porn sites I see are focused on videos and pics. I think there's a market for stories and books and good author for a particular fetish should do well.

PS: use the Google adwords traffic tool to estimate the traffic in a niche. Plug the term in and see if there is any advertising for it. Those are good tells before launching something and finding out no one's buying or interested in that fetish.

PPS when I refer to WordPress I mean the software installed on your own site, not the pre-done ones.

Good luck. :D
 
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Go to ""GFY.com, that is the main adult webmaster site. Programs, cams you'll find everything there.

Banner ads and pops are soooo 2000 ish. Surfers are blind to them.

So adult...what can I say. It built the internet and yes, I was there. Two decades ago ALL our traffic went to adult because they were the only ones paying $$$. We used to be unhappy with 1/50 or 1/200 conversions. I dropped out when it started to hit 1/50,000. 1/5000-6000 is common now although I haven't stayed on top of it for the last 3-4 years.

Own your own site. Domain and hosting. I can't emphasize that enough. All those big social media sites are subject to public and political pressure. Never build your business on someone else's land.

It sucks to spend years building a blog or site up with traffic and then have the supplier decide to get out of the adult biz and shut you down. If you own the site and domain you can just switch hosting companies.

The advice about WordPress stands, your real risk is the cheating that goes on with the adult suppliers. The programs cheat. They'll scrub conversions, traffic and pocket the $$$. Probably in the 20% range or worse. A lot make their money reselling your traffic out the backend. Read through the threads on GFY to get some idea of good companies and the problem ones. Ignore the "these guys are new and wonderful" bullshit. Most of it is planted. See the scrub comment above.

Nowadays the stuff that sells is the real fetish stuff. Find a small niche and make it yours.

I've given a lot of thought to this myself. I set up a fetish site a couple of years ago for an experiment. It's now second page on Google results and climbing. I've been writing stories for it and intend to sell them along with other books for that fetish. I've been giving free samples and have been gratified that readers are emailing me and asking when they can buy the book.

All the porn sites I see are focused on videos and pics. I think there's a market for stories and books and good author for a particular fetish should do well.

PS: use the Google adwords traffic tool to estimate the traffic in a niche. Plug the term in and see if there is any advertising for it. Those are good tells before launching something and finding out no one's buying or interested in that fetish.

PPS when I refer to WordPress I mean the software installed on your own site, not the pre-done ones.

Good luck. :D

Yeah... I know banner ads aren’t some kind of gold mine, but I don’t see how it can hurt. The idea will be to share short erotica as permafree and hope that convinces people to buy my stories on the amazon.

And yes, I want to host my own site. Social Media is a time waster for erotic content now. I’ll probably set up my wordpress.org probably dreamhost? Do you have a strong opinon on webhosting services for wordpress?
 
Yeah... I know banner ads aren’t some kind of gold mine, but I don’t see how it can hurt. The idea will be to share short erotica as permafree and hope that convinces people to buy my stories on the amazon.

And yes, I want to host my own site. Social Media is a time waster for erotic content now. I’ll probably set up my wordpress.org probably dreamhost? Do you have a strong opinon on webhosting services for wordpress?

Not strong no. I've had a love/hate relationship with Hostgator for something like 17-18 years or close to it.

However consider buying a reseller pckge. This gives you access to WHM. I think it stands for Webmaster Handling Module. That allows you to set up multiple websites with domains. That way you can expand offerings if you like without purchasing more hosting. About $25/mo.

For hosting the Cpanel is the most important. It should have an automatic installation module that allows you to install WordPress and other software like chat boards or email, Joomla or ??? by clicking a button. Much easier than a manual installation of WP. You can set up WP in about two minutes and be working on the look and feel of the site almost immediately. If you're not experienced in that kind of work it's a life saver.
 
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And there are so many more pitfalls too > Parallels between an erotica blogger and a secret service agent >

> "Girl On The Net: Leading UK sex blogger reveals how maintaining anonymity helped lead to a mental breakdown" by Maya Oppenheim
 
Oh yes, and only accept cryptocurrency.

/I was just refreshing my Tor identity.

very belated reply to this, but: using crypto can be considerably LESS private than old-fashioned payment methods. Cryptocurrency generally depends on having a publicly viewable register of transactions, which makes it vulnerable to traffic analysis.
 
It had nothing to do with anonymous payments or browsers. It was all about the content that the bloggers wrote - little pieces of information that individually mean very little, but combined point to only one unique individual. The authors put the pieces together by hand, but I could imagine AI being trained to do it on a large scale someday soon.

Awh you beat me to it.

Exactly this. It seems the OP’s concern isn’t anonymous setup but remaining anonymous despite a desire to communicate. For example, if a certain guy set up every proxy and encryption, and then made his first legitimate post “500Ms on the trail. Oh well; #moneyaintathang #supertues” then despite layers, we’d still know who he is.

It’s unnatural to communicate without eventually sharing something non-random, and with enough non-random data points given, you shed any assumed anonymity. The only caveat I would add is that this is an old paper (2010) with very small sample size and simplistic maths (the birthday thing is day-one stuff in social network engineering university classes), and that reverse anonymized indentification is a pretty regular practice in many businesses.

Today, the AI is available, it’s just costly sometimes—and in my experience, it’s a standard practice in some industries. For example, if you started an erotic blog and later, put in a homeowner’s claim for your leaking roof, assume your insurance company will then know about your blog. If there’s ever any chance you might be a named party in a lawsuit in your state court for a certain dollar amount or federal court, assume that the adverse party will know about your anonymous blog.

The more data points you inadvertently leak about yourself, the easier it is for anyone to find you given an hour, some basic probability maths and a Google search. However, the less information you share, the less distinct and interesting your blog content will be. If your concern is whether family and colleagues can find you, those cross purposes seem a more pressing concern than whether you’re regularly refreshing your Tor (cause just to put it in perspective, even GUCCIFIER slipped up there).
 
I've thought for a while that a helpful form of value this site could add would be to have a blog feature, where Literotica authors could have blogs linked to their public pages. It would assist authors in promoting their works AND they could avoid some of the exposure problems people have discussed here.
 
very belated reply to this, but: using crypto can be considerably LESS private than old-fashioned payment methods. Cryptocurrency generally depends on having a publicly viewable register of transactions, which makes it vulnerable to traffic analysis.

I didn’t see this either, and you’re exactly right, BT. Using crypto doesn’t make your transactions anonymous at all; the transaction record is built right into the block chain.
 
I've never thought a blog was worth the effort. Maybe that's where he basic discussion might be.
 
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