And I'm losing my ... virginity!

[sheablue]

I just wrote a post on my blog about losing my virginity, and what a fun, exciting time that was. I've always felt lucky that my first time was something special, I know not everyone has that. I actually lost mine to the boy who would grow up to me my Master, many many years later.

So it made me curious -- what were others experiences like? Out the handful of friends I've discussed this with, the overwhelming majority comes out to ... "meh." How about you?

1. It was amazing! We were in love!
2. I could have done worse
3. Meh.
4. What the hell was I thinking?
5. Shame! Horror! Hilarity!

I know there are probably plenty of people out there whose first time, for various reasons, was truly tragic, and I'm sorry for that. No offense intended.

Anyone care to share?

 

[FurryFury]

Basically I said no, over and over and he went ahead. I figured it was love. Had to be otherwise I was bad for "letting it" happen.

 

[sheablue]

Basically I said no, over and over and he went ahead. I figured it was love. Had to be otherwise I was bad for "letting it" happen.

FurryFury, I'm sorry if that was not a good experience for you. I have one of my own, not my first, of someone to whom I said no, over and over, and he went ahead. It, unfortunately was not love, and I did feel bad for letting it happen.


So ... not a subject folks are interested in? There goes my book idea of a collection of random stories of lost/given/taken virginity ...

 

[spankmegirl23]

I don't know what i was thinking,he was older i thought it was love but in the end all he was after was sex,he wanted to screw a virgin i guess it was lol,i wish it happen younger the guy i fooled around with but we never had sex years and years of fooling around then he went to jail lol by time he got out i had a child to someone esles.And before i was doing his brother while he was in jail.so that may been a problem too.lol

 

[Dyslexicea]

It was awful. It was very painful but it only lasted about 32 seconds, I'm being generous. I was too young, I never should have been with a man(boy really), ever.

But I always feel I lost my virginity twice, first to a boy, the second time to a woman. The second time I couldn't have envisioned a better experience. The only thing that could have made it better is if I could have given her as much as she gave me.

 

[cricketbug]

Option 2...

He was older (32 to my 19), experienced and adventurous. We worked together and while there was some affection, there wasn't 'love' but just genuine caring for the other person. Part of what made it unique was that he wasn't afraid to introduce the fun part of sex into the mix, and I wasn't about to get emotionally attached.

 

[Ropebunny]

I'm going with options 2,3 & 5.

Took over an hour and I had a great time but he didn't cum. We tried what felt like everything at the time, different positions, dirty talk, hand-job, oral etc. Nothing worked.

Eventually he told me to stop and we got dressed and watched a movie till his folks came home.

In hindsight, I shoulda figured that it was his problem and had nothing to do with me. He complained of pain during sex and couldn't pull down his foreskin. But over almost a year I was never able to get him to orgasm my inexperienced sexual self-esteem took a major hit and by the end of that relationship was a complete trainwreck, with a lot of problems that stemmed from problems with sex (on both our parts).

Yeah.

 

[LallyH]

Mine was dreadful . Very painful and put me off sex for a couple of years, to be honest. Do you think there should be some kind of mandatory education for men to teach them how to take someone's virginity? I'm sure the guy didn't really know what to do, and the whole experience was upsetting for both of us. We split up soon after.

 

[UhlBWett]

That's unfortunate

Mine was dreadful . Very painful and put me off sex for a couple of years, to be honest. Do you think there should be some kind of mandatory education for men to teach them how to take someone's virginity? I'm sure the guy didn't really know what to do, and the whole experience was upsetting for both of us. We split up soon after.

Ms Lally, I was privileged enough to take the virginity of 2 lovely girls in my life and despite my inexperience at the time, I was still very thoughtful and very gentle when it came to their needs. I was taught to be caring and understanding at a young age. To this day I haven't forgotten those valuable lessons. I must have done something right because both of the young ladies who surrendered their virtue to me were back within a couple days for another go. The reality is that some women bleed and some don't........... Both girls did admit to me however from a discomfort standpoint that their second times were much more enjoyable than their first. I am sorry your first time was less than a rocket ship ride

 

[LallyH]

Ms Lally, I was privileged enough to take the virginity of 2 lovely girls in my life and despite my inexperience at the time, I was still very thoughtful and very gentle when it came to their needs. I was taught to be caring and understanding at a young age. To this day I haven't forgotten those valuable lessons. I must have done something right because both of the young ladies who surrendered their virtue to me were back within a couple days for another go. The reality is that some women bleed and some don't........... Both girls did admit to me however from a discomfort standpoint that their second times were much more enjoyable than their first. I am sorry your first time was less than a rocket ship ride

My partner approached my virginity in the same way medieval armies attacked castles ie you gain entry by using a battering ram to force your way in unlike you, Sir, a lot of young men do not have the confidence or experience to be gentle. I think their nerves make them try to get it over with in the shortest possible time. I never had sex with this guy again.

 

[UhlBWett]

Interesting

My partner approached my virginity in the same way medieval armies attacked castles ie you gain entry by using a battering ram to force your way in unlike you, Sir, a lot of young men do not have the confidence or experience to be gentle. I think their nerves make them try to get it over with in the shortest possible time. I never had sex with this guy again.

Nerves do play a part I think and perhaps even fear of seeming clumsy to their partner. At that point in life the focus should be more about the surrender of innocence and the sharing of souls. Their is no reward for finishing quickly. I personally wanted the experience to last all night. Some men are just selfish I guess. For them its more about their conquest than a young girl's surrender.............

 

[Asian_Flower]

Fortunately, mine was wonderful. Whether I was in love in hindsight is questionable, but I was definitely in lust and wanted it as much as he did.

 

[UhlBWett]

Lovely

Fortunately, mine was wonderful. Whether I was in love in hindsight is questionable, but I was definitely in lust and wanted it as much as he did.

As it should be sweet girl...........

 

[Netzach]

Good, friendly, mutual deflowering, underwhelming.

I was late late to the party, 19. I was very horny, but definitely certain that this person would be good for me, and it was good.

Didn't hurt whatsoever, an unpleasant moment on a balance beam takes the credit I think?

very much a "that's what the fuss is all about?" moment for both of us.

Went for round 2 about 5 minutes later and THAT was awesome.

 

[Stella_Omega]

I started menstruating and turned into a rutting beast. High testosterone levels, I'm betting, but no one was thinking about that back in 1972.

I propositioned four guys who just could not be responsible for 'deflowering a viiirggiin.

The fifth guy was my friend's boyfriend, and she put him up to it. I really enjoyed it, but there was no blood or pain-- it's already stretched myself open with one of those shitty hard plastic vibrators that were all there were at the time-- so he was a bit disbelieving, and never wanted to ball again-- he was in lurve with Joyce anyway

We made contact again via fetlife about two years ago, and he wanted to apologise for taking advantage of me like that. I said it was more me that had forced him into it, and he should let me apologise intead!

 

[knot_sweet]

I just decided that it was something I should probably get out of the way, got a friend to find me a non committal, decent enough guy, and just did it.

No pain (no hymen left), wasn't fantastic, but it wasn't awful.

And I don't regret it.

A year later I fell in love for the first time and when we had sex, it was like the first time for me. There were a whole heap of emotions and feelings involved that hadn't been before and it changed everything about the act of sex itself.

 

[Ropebunny]

I started menstruating and turned into a rutting beast. High testosterone levels, I'm betting, but no one was thinking about that back in 1972.

See, now this was pretty much me too (kinda still is). I've often wondered if testosterone was to blame, specially with slight hirstutism and odd periods that can't be explained with PCOS. Totally wouldn't have it any other way though.

 

[desireinyellow]

Hmmm... Curious.

 

[Lemmy963]

My first time was sadly nothing special, sex didn't become fun till I got over a few things and let my guard down. Ah the joys of poor choices and bad luck when it came to the people I kept around me when I was a teenager.

 

[KoPilot]

Mine was meh. It hurt a lot and I bled, so that was stereotypical. I ended up marrying him so I like the guy a lot, but I didn't know what I was doing (like majorly... I still barely knew how to kiss) and he'd never been with a virgin before, but he definitely wasn't into the shamey shit and wanted it to be fun for the both of us.

The only shitty part was that he's never really needed to use condoms before and complained a lot about it. Though with having endometriosis and going in for surgery for it a few months after that visit, the pill was a really touchy subject to me, so he really could have exercised a bit more sensitivity about the whole birth control method thing.

 

[Ahlam]

My virginity was taken by a man who was thirty years my senior. This occurred during a time in my life that has, so far, proven to be a sort of golden age of stupidity for me. I was sixteen years old, but I lied and claimed to be eighteen. I had never even kissed anyone before, but I was too embarrassed to bring that up. I was quick to realize my error while I was strapped down and he was was ramming himself into me full force. After I tearfully confessed the truth to him, he was enraged and slapped me nearly into the next dimension. It was a rocky start to an unhealthy relationship. I walked away from that resolving never to lie with someone whose ass I couldn't kick should things turn bad and also just never to lie.

 

[Sweetdaisymae]

For me, it was a bleh moment. I was living away from home in a hostel supplied by my employer, ultra naive but extremely interested in the opposite sex.
Someone quite a few years older than me, who, at the time, was moderately famous, took an interest in me. I was flattered, and after probably too much to drink one night, we slept together.
I remember it hurting and not lasting very long. I slept with him once more, but there were no emotions involved, and I left the employment soon after.

Do I regret it?
I wanted it over and done with, I didn't get emotionally hurt, but to have had someone who had cared for me would have been better. He just wanted to take my virginity. It was very much a disappointment all round.

 

[MeekMe]

Seems this has gained some interest, again.

First time was pretty horrible. I said no a lot. I was pretty young and naive so I didn't find out until after everything fell apart that he just picked me because I was younger and clearly had low self esteem. I spent a long time after that struggling with even lower self esteem.

On a brighter note, I have a better view of myself, now.