And by the way, fuck you too

[RisiaSkye]

In the last 2 weeks, I have received an all-time personal record number of hate-emails.

Some are about a non-consent story, and a woman's rape fantasy. Some are about a thread cym started on my behalf. Some are about a poem centering around a fem domme/male sub fantasy. And, finally, the catchall category: some are just because people don't like what I've got to say on a number of political topics.

If you've sent me hate mail, this is my love letter for you:


I am tired.

I'm tired of trying to be nice to morons.

I'm tired of humoring the humorless, in a futile attempt to evince some rational conversation.

I'm tired of feeling like my opinions are fine, as long as I don't express them.

I'm tired of being unable to check my email without finding a dozen ridiculous sympathy chains, forwarded to me by a well-meaning but empty-headed acquaintance.

I'm feeling ill.

I'm sick of being accused of evil intentions for trying to keep a level head.

I'm sickened that people are so shallow, self-serving, and unwilling to examine their own motivations.

I'm sick of caring what people think of me.



I'm done pretending it doesn't hurt when somebody says something stupid, targetted to offend.

I'm done pandering to the lowest common denominator of discourse.



And now I'm done pretending that I'll feel this way forever.

-Risia

 

[Silverlily]

So I guess "wanna Fuck" is pretty inapropriate right now...

I happen to like you, so if you want to be more you than you have been, I'm happy.

 

[RisiaSkye]

Thanks, KE

Some days I just don't have the willpower to pretend that bullshit doesn't piss me off.

I'll be over it soon. Then it'll be sarcastic banter as usual.


BTW, you seem like a pretty cool chickadee to me, too.

 

[pabloback]

stick with the sick of caring what people think and live life to the fullest
wanna?...........hmm best leave that one for another time ;-)

 

[Starfish]

This sucks. Why are people more apt to send hate mail, than complimentary mail? Those people probably havn't written anything to the authors they like. It is sad that so many don't just realize that if the critisizm isn't constructive, than it's worthless.

 

[lavender]

 

[cymbidia]

... and i'm feeling mortified and intensely guilty at having posted that other thread without asking you first, R.

I'm so very sorry.

~~~~~
To the rest of you:
I know Risia. We talk on the phone. We're meeting for dinner when i'm in San Diego next week, her, me, Creidhne, and her hubby. I *like* her. Sh'e generous, humorous, witty, and a lot of fun - and that's only on the phone and in posts.

You might have hurt her for now with your small-minded jabs and your completely undeserved 1's but she's a smarter, bigger, brighter chickie than you know and your little pokes are just scratches.

You can't hurt her for real, she's too strong and centered.

You can't push her down so you'll feel up, she's not a staying down down kinda gal and if that's what you need to do to be up, well, i pity you.

And one more thing -
fuck you.

I've never said that and meant it on this board. Never. This is a first. IF i can find out who you are, you're going on my bad egg list. Sounds funny, doesn't it? Hahahaha. Bad egg list.

I hold grudges.
I guess i should add that to my "Who are you on Lit?" post, hmmm?

Fuck You.

 

[RisiaSkye]

An almost instant apology

lavvie and Starfish, thanks. Just thanks.

I already regret having posted this. I usually take time to respond, usually let the hateful BS slide right off. Today, I responded in anger and hurt, and I already feel whiny and ridiculous for it.

You have every right to your opinions, as you well know. I respect the opinions of others, including the not-exactly-unheard-of opinion that I'm a loud mouthed idiot.

I just don't appreciate being treated with an utter lack of respect.

However, as an adult and an opinionated person, I should get used to it. I know this, on every level.

Sometimes it's just hard to be a grown up.

 

[pabloback]

i stuck up for you as well! [although not in such a wordy fashion]
doesnt my opinion count?
ok fine not a problem.

 

[RisiaSkye]

pabloback

Of course it counts. Sorry I didn't recognize you before. But I do appreciate it. Even if I'm a little narrow in my focus at times.

Oh, and cym: as always, you are the lady of this here manor. Bless your kinky little heart.

 

[Starfish]

Don't regret posting this. Everyone needs to get it all out at some point.
I would have done the same thing.

I guess I am not grown up because I don't except that people do this. I think it is wrong, and discourtious, not to mention a bunch of crap.

 

[OUTSIDER]

RS, I was going to write something clever and erudite about what you should say to these hate mailer's but I discovered I'm not that clever or erudite.......so I say just do what I do and say "go fuck yourself", then go live a good life, it's the best revenge you can have on people who hate you

 

[WriterDom]

I'm a fan of your poetry. Don't know much about your politics and don't care.

I really wouldn't worry about people who complain about subject matter. There is something really sick about people who complain yet they go out of their way to read it.

 

[Shy Tall Guy]

Re: An almost instant apology

I just don't appreciate being treated with an utter lack of respect.

Or common courtesy - in the military we had a saying; people deserve courtesy, they earn respect. I think you should have both, but at the very least the common courtesy to not attack you personally.

However, as an adult and an opinionated person, I should get used to it. I know this, on every level.

Sometimes it's just hard to be a grown up.

Especially when it seems sometimes you are surrounded by children. I left a number of hobby mailing lists because it seemed that a RL friend was gunning for me on them; he went after me for the slightest technical mistake and berated me up and down publicly. Some others supported him. I think they had been waiting for that for some time because I was opinionated and wasn't afraid to say what I thought, and then backed it up with facts and rational arguments.

Finally I said fuck them - it wasn't fun anymore. If they can't take a joke, fuck 'em. Fuck 'em with a big black donkey dick.

Risia - consider the source; their just a bunch of bratty little children who not only have nothing better to do, but who shouldn't be here in the first place.

 

[cymbidia]

One of the cowardly anonymous emailers insisted to R that she and i are actually the same person. Therefore, went the reasoning of this candidate for the loser bin, the thread i posted that invited others to go see R's wonderful new poem was actually a convoluted case of R blasting her own horn.

First of all, i find it immensely complimentary that anyone, even a crazoid, would think R and i have the same level of skill when plying the English language. I beat it into submission with piles and piles and piles of words. R, on the other hand, has the deft touch of a true wordsmith, a master in the use of language.

Thanks, you piece of dog crap, for the off-handed comliment. It made me smile. Can't say how it made R feel, really, though she was laughing when she told me, but it *did* make me smile.

And i just gotta know this: are you the same worthless bit of toilet bowl scum that sent me an anonymous email a while back insisting that that Creidhne/MS and i were the same person, that i'd just invented him so i could have more Board attention?

If so, who is actually the real person here - R, me, or MS?

Just curious.

 

[sch00lteacher]

"Goddamn you, Mike!" I started to struggle against his weight, trying to throw him off balance and wriggle away. I guess I expected him to let me. "Fuck you, you sonofabitch." I was panting now, my struggles rendered all but useless when he grabbed my hands and held them over my head, still pinning me under his body. This just made me struggle harder; I was determined to get away from the manipulative shit. I think I was, anyway.

I wanted to see what the problem was, didn't see any. I read three of your stories. You are an excellent writer! I know that you know you are. So why worry about a few assholes?

sch00lteacher gives you an A+

 

[GuyJD]

YOU'RE NOT ALONE, RESIA SKYE

Several months ago, I was getting some hate mail from some asshole who didn't have the balls to send it unanonymously. I was sick and tired of receiving them, as are you. I posted a thread about it and deleted the ability to receive anonymous Lit mail. Needless to say, the "hate mails" stop coming because, as predicted, the email troll lost the balls to send mail under his/her email address.

 

[RisiaSkye]

Shy Tall Guy, OUTSIDER, WriterDom, GuyJD and Sch00lTeacher

Thank you for all the kind words and sound advice. Added to those to whom I've already responded, and those who sent me private messages, I'm overwhelmed by your kindness and supportive attitude.

You, all of you, more than outweigh any temporary B.S. And, I'm sorry that I lost sight of that, even if only for a while.

(WriterDom--Who knew? I've followed your work for some time. The sincerest form of praise, right? Repeat readership.)

cym--I meant what I said at the time. I consider it praise to be mistaken for your doppelganger. It's a good thing to be linked to a woman of your positivity, openness, and linguistic skill. I count it as an unintentional compliment. Although, I do wonder how the four of us will be able to have dinner if 3 of us are the same person. My hubbie's gonna get kinda lonely at dinner, huh?

In any case, to borrow cym's phrase, you're all good eggs.

And I borrow the phrase because we're different people. Just clarifying for those just arriving.

See, sarcasm as usual.

Here, there is only love. And if you can't hang with that, too bad for you. I don't think you worthy of my anger. I'll try to reserve it for something more important.

Like political maneuvering run amok.

 

[GuyJD]

YOU'RE VERY WELCOME, RISIA SKYE

With that being said, I think that we should all get together and write our representatives about this. There really should be a law against trolls posting on a website or emailing individuals on the internet.
Yep, that's it.
The Anti-Troll Bill of 2001 states that any troll that commits the crime of posting on the internet, whether it is through email or website, will be immediately arrested, tried, prosecuted, convicted, and executed within the 24 hours of the crime. Execution will consist of, no less than, immediate electricution and all victims shall enjoy a heaping helping of Marenaded Troll Stew thereafter.

 

[RisiaSkye]

I don't know

I suspect the stew would be bitter.

 

[OUTSIDER]

Did you know that in this country (UK) you can't be arrested for cruelty to vermin.....that means you can kill them any way you please and make it as slow as you like...........Oh and aren't trolls vermin by the way

 

[Dillinger]

I'm sorry about all the nonsense you're going through... would it help if I sent you a bunch of PM's telling you how wonderful you are? *smile*

 

[RisiaSkye]

Dillinger

Heh. I'm occasionally hotheaded, but it doesn't have much staying power. I'm over it now. Everyone was completely supportive yesterday, and helped to level out and have a little perspective. It was a minor squall--it's blown over.

But, thank you nonetheless.

 

[Rambling Rose]

my 2 cents

I've been visiting lit for almost 3 years now. I don't post often but I AM here and I read your words along with the others. You seem to be feeling better and you have much support here, so mine might seem a bit less grandiose but I am with ya' not agin ya'!

from one strong woman to another - chin up and don't back down!

 

[batter]

choices

that is all it boils down to.

this is just like television or the radio...
if you dont like it, change the channel!!
this is fantasy.
we write for entertainment.
people read for enjoyment.
not everyone enjoys everything.
that is why we have categories.

dont like what we write? use the "back" button.

RisiaSkye, we are behind you!!